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Summary: Closing the Gap takes work
Review: I am glad to see that this bestselling author took on and tackled the issues of parent/teen communication. I read his first book LIFE STRATEGIES FOR TEENS and shared it with my teens. They really enjoyed it and found that they can start to incorporate the life laws into their own lives almost immediately. So it was an easy reach to pick up this author's next book.I know that Jay McGraw's information and lessons are always very helpful and my kids are going to read it too! This book is a guide that every parent/teen household should have.
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Summary: better communication at home
Review: I am glad to see that this bestselling author took on and tackled the issues of parent/teen communication. I read his first book LIFE STRATEGIES FOR TEENS and shared it with my teens. They really enjoyed it and found that they can start to incorporate the life laws into their own lives almost immediately. So it was an easy reach to pick up this author's next book. I know that Jay McGraw's information and lessons are always very helpful and my kids are going to read it too! This book is a guide that every parent/teen household should have.
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Summary: amazing
Review: I JUST GOT THIS BOOK AND BOY WAS IT A REAL EYE OPENER.
JAY HIT RIGHT ON THE HEAD. AT ONE POINT I TOLD HIM TO SHUT UP
WHAT DOES HE KNOW?! BUT, THANX SWEETIE YOU ARE HELPING ME AS I READ THIS BOOK. I WILL BE ORDERING THE ONE FOR TEENS AS WELL SINCE I CAUGHT MY SON MARC BROWSING THROUGH MINE. THANX FOR UR DAD AS WELL WHOM I AM SO GREATFUL TO. I WATCH HIM EVERY WEEK. AND THEN I MET YOU AS WELL, BOY REAL!! AS FOR MY SON AND I RELATIONSHIP. GOD BLESS YOU BOTH! AND HELP YOU CONTINUE TO HELP OTHERS. MAY HE GIVE YOU BOTH WISDOM AND STRENGTH ALWAYS.
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Summary: Rubbish
Review: Jay McGraw is obviously just trying to ride his father's coat tails, unfortunately, he possesses none of the talent or skill his father does. If you want to read a patronizing, annoying account of teen life, this is the book for you!
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Summary: Closing the Gap takes work
Review: Jay McGraw reminds us how valuable our relationship is with our parents and that we need to work on it every minute of every day. We were all teenagers once and understand the pressure facing teens. But Jay shows us how to include parents and teens in each others lives. Just like going to soccer practice or to the movies with friends, your relationship with your parents needs to be scheduled. Jay writes with ease and really understands both parents and teenagers. I really enjoyed this book.
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Summary: closing future gaps
Review: The bad news is that for myself and my own teenagers this book came a little late...about 10 years. The good news is that for my now adult children and my soon to be 8 grandchildren you can never start to early to prepare yourself and your kids for those teenage years. I bought 5 copies of Closing the Gap. I originally bought one to give to my younger brother who's daughter is in the midst of teenage years-15. He started asking me what I had done when my kids were going through the insanity. I was flattered he valued my opinion until I gave it and he said "Thanks, now at least I know what not to do." I took it as a joke, but truth be told, I had made a mistake or 12. I bought him the book so he would have a clue of what was the 'right' thing to do. I didn't intend to read it(teenagers??? been there, done that, don't want to go back), but picked it up one night out of boredom, expecting to get a laugh or two out of some old memories and a chuckle over my brothers reactions to what I thought would be the 'experts' advice. I did get a chuckle, but I also got a surprise...I wished I could of had that book way before my kids became teens.
In the true Mcgraw fashion it's common sense slapped right in your face at precicely the correct velocity to make you open your eyes without making it hurt so bad you refuse to see the truth. I am sending a copy to each of my 4 children for my birthday. I can't think of a better birthday present than to give my grandchildren an edge my children didn't have. This little book made a big difference in my outlook and hopefully will make a big difference in the future of those most precious to me.
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Summary: closing future gaps
Review: The bad news is that for myself and my own teenagers this book came a little late...about 10 years. The good news is that for my now adult children and my soon to be 8 grandchildren you can never start to early to prepare yourself and your kids for those teenage years. I bought 5 copies of Closing the Gap. I originally bought one to give to my younger brother who's daughter is in the midst of teenage years-15. He started asking me what I had done when my kids were going through the insanity. I was flattered he valued my opinion until I gave it and he said "Thanks, now at least I know what not to do." I took it as a joke, but truth be told, I had made a mistake or 12. I bought him the book so he would have a clue of what was the 'right' thing to do. I didn't intend to read it(teenagers??? been there, done that, don't want to go back), but picked it up one night out of boredom, expecting to get a laugh or two out of some old memories and a chuckle over my brothers reactions to what I thought would be the 'experts' advice. I did get a chuckle, but I also got a surprise...I wished I could of had that book way before my kids became teens.
In the true Mcgraw fashion it's common sense slapped right in your face at precicely the correct velocity to make you open your eyes without making it hurt so bad you refuse to see the truth. I am sending a copy to each of my 4 children for my birthday. I can't think of a better birthday present than to give my grandchildren an edge my children didn't have. This little book made a big difference in my outlook and hopefully will make a big difference in the future of those most precious to me.
Rating: 
Summary: not something parents should read
Review: This book will be helpful to both teens and parents. You do not need to have your parents or your teen read the book to get benefit from Closing the Gap. You can simply begin closing the gap from your side. Mr. Jay McGraw (older son of Dr. Phil McGraw of Life Strategies, Relationship Rescue, and Self Matters fame), aged 22, has done it again! This book is another fine effort in improving communications within families. At age 22, Mr. McGraw is close enough to being a teenager to know what it's like and close enough to being removed from the teenage years that he can see the parental perspective. Favoring neither perspective, he is like a matchmaker bringing together two shy people who are in love with one another . . . but unwilling to declare their love. The book opens with a heart rending story of Jennine at age 25. This woman became pregnant as an unmarried teen, dropped out of school, has been a substance abuser, has been married and divorced twice, and is just recovering from a serious automobile accident (among other problems). At a Life Strategies seminar she is attending as a guest of her parents, she turns to her parents and savagely asks, "Why did you let me throw my life away when you knew better and I was being a complete moron? "Why didn't you make me do right?" Teens: Do you want to become Jennine? Parents: Do you want your children to ask you these questions someday? To assess how well you are communicating, the book offers a brief quiz for parents about teens for teens about parents. If you are like me, you will find you have some room for improvement! The book is built around the philosophy of win-win negotiating. "So, teens: if you want your parents to do what you want, all you have to do is figure out what their needs are and meet them." This must occur within the context of a lot of communication. The number one factor in home life quality is "the number of words spoken!!" The book explores teen myths (such as "my parents don't want me to have any fun" which often relates to parents wanting their teens to be safe), parent myths (such as "a good relationship is a peaceful one" underneath which all kinds of problems may fester), teen land mines (such as "thinking you are a lost cause" when everyone is ready to help you and you probably haven't really tried all that hard), dos and don'ts for parents (such as having a "clear boundary between parent role and buddy role"), and dos and don'ts for teens (such as "look before you leap, but do leap" as a way to become more competent). There's also a fine section on anger management that teens and parents both need.
The book then proceeds to explain how parents and teens can reconnect by deciding what they each want out of the relationship, explaining their own needs, finding out what the other's needs are, and working out a plan for reconnecting. The book has some forms that you can use for this purpose. If your parent or teen won't fill one out, you can try filling it out for them and showing them the result for comments. The needs described are usually for belonging, security, self-esteem, vocational and artistic expression, love and affection. The book has lots of good suggestions for activities to do together that will encourage conversation (all of those hours together watching E.R. don't count!). I was impressed by the advice for helping teens keep the conversation going. Rather than sulking away after being told "no" teens are encourage to ask an automatic "why not?" so that they can uncover problems they can solve . . . or at least learn something from the refusal that may help in the future. Although this is a serious subject, I thought that the humor was helpful leavening. Here's an example: Mr. McGraw cites that "ancient British philosopher Mick Jagger." He also talks about the wisdom of parents who once liked Nehru suits. You can summarize the book as advising teens to explain why what they plan to do will probably be safe and reasonable and parents to explain their concerns about the teen's plans. In the moment of silence that follows, useful thoughts and conversation may occur. I hope they do! As a parent of three former teens and one current teen, I found the advice fitted with my sense from experience that explaining why is very important to helping younger people develop understanding and judgment. On the other hand, you do not want to frighten young people with the worst case scenario, so you need to preplan gentle ways to get the point across. Practice helps! Go talk to your teen! Go talk to your parents!
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Summary: Humorous, Helpful Advice for Happier Parents and Teens
Review: This book will be helpful to both teens and parents. You do not need to have your parents or your teen read the book to get benefit from Closing the Gap. You can simply begin closing the gap from your side.
Mr. Jay McGraw (older son of Dr. Phil McGraw of Life Strategies, Relationship Rescue, and Self Matters fame), aged 22, has done it again! This book is another fine effort in improving communications within families. At age 22, Mr. McGraw is close enough to being a teenager to know what it's like and close enough to being removed from the teenage years that he can see the parental perspective. Favoring neither perspective, he is like a matchmaker bringing together two shy people who are in love with one another . . . but unwilling to declare their love. The book opens with a heart rending story of Jennine at age 25. This woman became pregnant as an unmarried teen, dropped out of school, has been a substance abuser, has been married and divorced twice, and is just recovering from a serious automobile accident (among other problems). At a Life Strategies seminar she is attending as a guest of her parents, she turns to her parents and savagely asks, "Why did you let me throw my life away when you knew better and I was being a complete moron? "Why didn't you make me do right?" Teens: Do you want to become Jennine? Parents: Do you want your children to ask you these questions someday? To assess how well you are communicating, the book offers a brief quiz for parents about teens for teens about parents. If you are like me, you will find you have some room for improvement! The book is built around the philosophy of win-win negotiating. "So, teens: if you want your parents to do what you want, all you have to do is figure out what their needs are and meet them." This must occur within the context of a lot of communication. The number one factor in home life quality is "the number of words spoken!!" The book explores teen myths (such as "my parents don't want me to have any fun" which often relates to parents wanting their teens to be safe), parent myths (such as "a good relationship is a peaceful one" underneath which all kinds of problems may fester), teen land mines (such as "thinking you are a lost cause" when everyone is ready to help you and you probably haven't really tried all that hard), dos and don'ts for parents (such as having a "clear boundary between parent role and buddy role"), and dos and don'ts for teens (such as "look before you leap, but do leap" as a way to become more competent). There's also a fine section on anger management that teens and parents both need.
The book then proceeds to explain how parents and teens can reconnect by deciding what they each want out of the relationship, explaining their own needs, finding out what the other's needs are, and working out a plan for reconnecting. The book has some forms that you can use for this purpose. If your parent or teen won't fill one out, you can try filling it out for them and showing them the result for comments. The needs described are usually for belonging, security, self-esteem, vocational and artistic expression, love and affection. The book has lots of good suggestions for activities to do together that will encourage conversation (all of those hours together watching E.R. don't count!). I was impressed by the advice for helping teens keep the conversation going. Rather than sulking away after being told "no" teens are encourage to ask an automatic "why not?" so that they can uncover problems they can solve . . . or at least learn something from the refusal that may help in the future. Although this is a serious subject, I thought that the humor was helpful leavening. Here's an example: Mr. McGraw cites that "ancient British philosopher Mick Jagger." He also talks about the wisdom of parents who once liked Nehru suits. You can summarize the book as advising teens to explain why what they plan to do will probably be safe and reasonable and parents to explain their concerns about the teen's plans. In the moment of silence that follows, useful thoughts and conversation may occur. I hope they do! As a parent of three former teens and one current teen, I found the advice fitted with my sense from experience that explaining why is very important to helping younger people develop understanding and judgment. On the other hand, you do not want to frighten young people with the worst case scenario, so you need to preplan gentle ways to get the point across. Practice helps! Go talk to your teen! Go talk to your parents!
Rating:
Summary: not something parents should read
Review: This is not a good book for parents to read. It tells parents that it's okay to invade their kid's privacy, and it makes all teenagers sound like horrible irresponsible monsters. It has some useful info for kids, but parents should not read this book as they will get bad Ideas from it. At the very least, kids should read this book themselves before letting their parents read it. I would rate this book RP (Restricted for Parents) ^_^
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