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The Principles of Seduction: How to Get Another Person to Fall in Love With You

The Principles of Seduction: How to Get Another Person to Fall in Love With You

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Rating: 1 stars
Summary: Skip this (self-published) book --
Review: Sorry, this book is horrible. The negative reviews are right on. The positive reviews seem to be highly bogus.....

(1) The book is horribly written, hard to follow, repetitive, repetitive, repetitive,

(2) the book is NOT based on research or empirical evidence, but on the author's (it doesn't even seem like he has a bachelor's degree) "theories", like there are only two kinds of people, liberal and conservative-- learn what someone is, and presto-- they will fall in love with you.

(3) This book will simply not help you. There are no secrets here, no cool ideas, no insight.

(4) You will be sad if you by this book--- you will know immediately when you open it that you have wasted your money, AND, if you do read it--- i actually did--- you will feel horrible--- it is a boring, tedious, WASTE OF TIME!

(5) if you do buy the book, and i'm not 100% dead-on-right, email me, and i will publically repent.

Rating: 2 stars
Summary: Framework without details
Review: The author claims that psychological research has identified three crucial elements of a person's identity that go into feeling love: gender identity, social self-image, and self-ideal (p.16). If true (and I have no reason to doubt it), this lays the foundations for a way to approach getting someone to fall in love with you. So far, the book is interesting. Unfortunately, after this revelation, it falls flat. The sections on how to create the three feelings in the love interest are weak. For example, the part on gender identity focuses only on the first instant of meeting. Supposedly you can reinforce a person's gender identity through a few basic techniques within 5 minutes of meeting someone. Personally, I find this dubious, and I would require a lot more evidence to convince me that it is true.

This book might be usefully compared to Dale Carnegie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People," which is, in my opinion, an excellent book from which I have profited enormously. By comparison, Carnegie is much less systematic in his approach and bases his conclusions much less on social scientific research. To that extent, I would give the advantage to Viddler. However, where Carnegie excels is in the crucial area of providing enormous numbers of enlightening, real-world examples that help the reader to understand the points he is making. Viddler, by contrast, provides about 3 examples in his whole book. That may sound like hyperbole, but it really is not. The book consists almost entirely of theory. Not only are there very few examples, there aren't even many practical suggestions. Saying tht you need to emphasize an extrovert's individuality is a start, but you need many specific suggestions in order to know exactly what this entails. Viddler provides one. He also litters the book with quotations, it is true, but they are almost all quotations from theorists, often classical thinkers. There's nothing wrong with classical thinkers, but you're not likely to learn much about seducing the lady at your exercise club from reading Goethe.

Frankly, I was very disappointed with this book. Anything with a title this bold is bound to induce a certain amount of scepticism, but enough other reviews on this site encouraged me to hope for something more. I'm afraid that my first, sceptical feelings were correct with this work.

Rating: 5 stars
Summary: The best book on this topic.
Review: The Principles of Seduction is the first book to actually pinpoint what causes another person to fall in love with you. There are three emotional trigger points, so once you find someone you are genuinely interested in, you pay attention to (1) their gender identity; (2) their social self and (3) their ideal self. You merely have to identify what they're like and show that you appreciate them completely. In our society, we are all so concerned with our appearances, especially women, that we don't pay enough attention to the other person in this specific way, and we miss out on love. An excellent book, its worked for me. I'm getting married to the man I seduced in 3 months.

Rating: 1 stars
Summary: Interesting Theories
Review: This author talks about human behavior as though he is conducting a study with white, lab rats, and babbles on like a kid who needs to make his essay 2,500 words long for a grade. For instance, in the chapter titled "Approaching Men", Viddler takes up 11 grueling pages to explain that in order to attract an emotionally available man, all that a woman has to do is to stand in a man's proximity, stare, look away, stare again, and run her fingers through her hair. He didn't need to spend 11 pages to explain this. In addition, Viddler tries to point out that no matter what you look like, you can still get that certain "someone" to become attracted to you and to fall passionately in love with you forever. This book could have been scaled way, way down, and it could have been explained in plain english, instead of like a college thesis.

Rating: 2 stars
Summary: Not recomended for the practical minded
Review: This book is nicely written in an academic way. If you are writing a romance novel in which one of the principle characters is a colleage professor who starts muttering incoherent psycho-babble just when he is supposed to get romantic, then this book will be an invaluable source. Intelectual and charming is how I would discribe this book. But not practical.

If you want some down and dirty know-how on the nuts-and-bolts of seduction, read books by Don Steele and Ron Louis. These two are the best.

Rating: 5 stars
Summary: A Rare Masterpiece
Review: This book is the best book I have ever read on the subject of seduction. If you are a thinking person, you will appreciate the sensitivity with which G. Clayton Viddler addresses this delicate subject. To recognize that people desire not only to be appreciated for who they are but also for who they want to become is a major contribution to this type of "how to" literature. It illustrates how in the process of seducing someone, you can also affirm the very things that are closest to their heart and validate their personality in the process. This becomes a win-win situation for both parties.

You may not agree with everything this author advocates, as his ethical perspective is decidedly Hindu, but from a purely pragmatic point of view his analysis of the romantic process is very astute. I found this book to be eloquent, compelling, and useful in my personal life and I would recommend it to anyone who wants to dig a little deeper into the process of seducing someone. "Principles of Seduction" is a useful book both for it's practical wisdom and for it's theoretical analysis of the human personality. Five Stars.

Rating: 5 stars
Summary: A Rare Masterpiece
Review: This book is the best book I have ever read on the subject of seduction. If you are a thinking person, you will appreciate the sensitivity with which G. Clayton Viddler addresses this delicate subject. To recognize that people desire not only to be appreciated for who they are but also for who they want to become is a major contribution to this type of "how to" literature. It illustrates how in the process of seducing someone, you can also affirm the very things that are closest to their heart and validate their personality in the process. This becomes a win-win situation for both parties.

You may not agree with everything this author advocates, as his ethical perspective is decidedly Hindu, but from a purely pragmatic point of view his analysis of the romantic process is very astute. I found this book to be eloquent, compelling, and useful in my personal life and I would recommend it to anyone who wants to dig a little deeper into the process of seducing someone. "Principles of Seduction" is a useful book both for it's practical wisdom and for it's theoretical analysis of the human personality. Five Stars.

Rating: 4 stars
Summary: Just Enough for One Who "Thinks Too Much"
Review: This book may be dry reading for some, and perhaps annoying to proof-readers. If you can get past these hurdles, The Principles of Seduction is probably the most comprehensive, factual, and rational explanation for that crazy little thing called love.

Mr. Viddler relies mostly on existing research for this book, but like many true discoverers, pulls all the essential ingredients together to create something truly wonderful.

To some, love seems to come naturally. Others get lucky. Then, there are the rest of us, who can't settle for less than the real thing, and yet the real thing always seems to be out of our grasp.

Have you ever seen happy couples and wonder, "Why not me?" This book is for you, especially if you're the sort that longs for fulfillment, but can't trust it all to fate.

Mr. Viddler spends a fair amount of time explaining the basics, both of personality types and the fundamental elements of love. The title is misleading, since he does not write to the lethario (or letharia). It's powerful stuff, but like my good friend once said, "Use your powers only for good."

If your friends have ever told you, "You think too much," when discussing love (or more precicely, the lack of it), then this book is for you. I've gone from being very lonely to being very choosey, and for this I extend Mr. Viddler my most profound thanks. DF

Rating: 4 stars
Summary: Just Enough for One Who "Thinks Too Much"
Review: This book may be dry reading for some, and perhaps annoying to proof-readers. If you can get past these hurdles, The Principles of Seduction is probably the most comprehensive, factual, and rational explanation for that crazy little thing called love.

Mr. Viddler relies mostly on existing research for this book, but like many true discoverers, pulls all the essential ingredients together to create something truly wonderful.

To some, love seems to come naturally. Others get lucky. Then, there are the rest of us, who can't settle for less than the real thing, and yet the real thing always seems to be out of our grasp.

Have you ever seen happy couples and wonder, "Why not me?" This book is for you, especially if you're the sort that longs for fulfillment, but can't trust it all to fate.

Mr. Viddler spends a fair amount of time explaining the basics, both of personality types and the fundamental elements of love. The title is misleading, since he does not write to the lethario (or letharia). It's powerful stuff, but like my good friend once said, "Use your powers only for good."

If your friends have ever told you, "You think too much," when discussing love (or more precicely, the lack of it), then this book is for you. I've gone from being very lonely to being very choosey, and for this I extend Mr. Viddler my most profound thanks. DF

Rating: 4 stars
Summary: Excellent book but there should be a change of title
Review: This is an excellent book! However, I think it should be renamed "The Principles of Love". Mr. Viddler showed that he had done extensive research in the field and it has taugh me a renewed look on the subject. Seduction would conjure the tought of someone intentionally luring or capturing another of the opposite sex. However, the book seems to delve into the subject of love more than seduction. Great book though, especially the chapters where he details the difference between people who are introverts or extroverts.


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