And You Are Christ's: The Charism of Virginity and the Celibate Life

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Summary: Masterpiece of capturing the essence of celibate love
Review: Father Dubay's moving and genuinely realistic presentation of the gift of consecrated celibacy takes us beyond the usual stereotypes of celibate life as strictly a means to enhance one's service or show a commitment to community life. Using the classic, solid background which has endured for 2000 years of Christianity, Father Dubay presents a brief but deep exploration of the love, sacrifice, and commitment of vowed chastity, unhampered by trendy or empty references.

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Summary: Extremely Helpful Book, Even for Protestants
Review: If you're an evangelical Protestant as I am, chances are that you hear very little about Paul's words that some are gifted by God to remain unmarried. We acknowledge Paul's observation, but we only extremely rarely (if at all) think of people as called to a life without marriage. Perhaps making it more difficult for those who are or might be called to such a state, we tend to think in terms of singleness vs. marriage, a juxtaposition that, given our culture, connotes loneliness vs. happiness.

Father Dubay challenges this view by arguing that God never calls anyone to singleness, because singleness in and of itself is not a life vocation that enables you to serve others. Instead, God calls some to marriage (serving primarily your family), and some to celibacy (serving others who are not of your family and devoting yourself to Jesus apart from the married state). The difference in terminology between singleness and celibacy might seem like splitting hairs to some, but I think Dubay is on to something in that the terminology we use affects our outlook. Furthermore, his emphasis on directing our lives toward self-giving counteracts the materialistic, self-centered messages from our culture.

Within the pages of this book, Dubay gives much advice concerning signs of a call to a celibate vocation, and paints a detailed picture of what a life of celibacy looks like. And Dubay's love for the Lord Jesus Christ shines through on every page he writes.

Obviously, this book is more accessible to Catholics than Protestants. However, I found the majority of this book to be quite useful and insightful. (Of course, there will be some points where evangelicals have strong disagreements with Dubay.) A book (as opposed to just a few words or a chapter in a book) is needed to address this subject from an evangelical Protestant perspective. Until then, Dubay's book is a valuable read.

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Summary: Outstanding
Review: One of the best books on this subject. Every Catholic should read it to have a better understanding of the priests and religious who serve them. Especially good is the explanation of the priest as a bridegroom whose spouse is the Church, in the image of Christ the Bridegroom found in Scripture. Also good is the explanation that "being" precedes "doing." We are valuable in God's eyes because we "are", not because of what we "do," that love falls into the category of "being" rather than "doing" and is the "greatest of these." Also good is the explanation that consecrated life is an image of the life to come, and that it's role in the Mystical Body is to compliment, rather than compete with, the marriage vocation. The section on "compensation compromises" is excellent for any state in life. It explains how we make compromises to compensate or reward ourselves for the sacrifices we make in our vocations. For example, "I am overindulging in (fill in the blank) because I deserve it for the enormous sacrifices I make as a (choose one)priest, sister, wife, husband, mother, father. Wonderful insights. A must read.