The Control Trap

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Summary: Not for Everyone
Review: I would have appreciated knowing that this book was centered around a focus on Christianity and "family values". I assumed this was a self-help book. The author is a pastor's wife in a Christian community that understands feminism as aggressive and castrating! The book is geared towards helping women be good wives and mothers, including weight loss. The implicit values make it a narrow resource for me. I found it to be very supportive of roles rather than people.
I had hoped to learn more about being driven or controlled by anxiety, etc. as I live with perrenial stressors, such as the murder of a grown daughter. This was not the book for me and I regret buying it.
Please let us know if a book is Christian focused or is written for members of a specific religous orientation!!

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Summary: This book saved my marriage.
Review: To say that I am not an avid reader would be an understatement. But when my husband flippantly tossed this book at me and dared me to read it, I grudgingly complied.

Through the words of the Barbara Sullivan, I saw very clearly something in myself that I had never seen before: I wanted to control circumstances and situations in my life that were really out of my control.

As I read, my heart started to soften and I realized that I had to let go. As I relinquished control in my marriage, my husband started seeing changes in me that he never thought possible. As I gave him the freedom to be himself and not the way I "wanted", we started growing closer. He then began to make changes in himself because now he didn't feel pressured.

The fact is, this book was largely responsible for saving our marriage. Read it with an open mind and an open heart.