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Summary: I thank God for this book!
Review: I am a 17 yr. old Christian guy trying to learn Gods will for my life but I have battled with homosexual desires for years. I was praying and seeking God for help. (obviously this isn't an area you go and tell everyone about) I ordered the book and it has honestly changed my life. Bob and Lori share their personal struggles and how to overcome their temptations and desires. Teaching that as we grow spiritually in God... HE will bring change and healing into our lives. Homosexuallity is a SIN! God did not intend for us to be this way and HE HAS OFFERED HOPE! There IS a way out! This book shows and relates to many experiances common to us men and women stuggling with Homosexuality. This book is a God-SEND it will bring new light to our struggles. Keep the faith... ; )
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Summary: ABUSED CONFUSED ANXIETY RIDDEN AND SELF-DESTRUCTIVE
Review: I strongly recommend this book for anyone seeking to find help with self-esteem issues, identity issues, mood disorders, reoccurring unresolved anger, any type of addiction, troubling relationship, boundary and trust issues. Excellent compliments to this book are: The Angry Heart: Overcoming Borderline and Addictive Disorders by Joseph Santoro and Ronald Cohen; The Narcissistic Family: Diagnosis and Treatment by Stephanie Donaldson-Pressman and Robert Pressman; Emotional Blackmail: When People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation and Guilt to Manipulate You by Susan Forward and Donna Frazier; Understanding the Borderline Mother: Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable and Volatile Relationship by Christine Ann Lawson; Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man by Scott Wetzler; Why Is It Always About You?: The Seven Deadly Sins of Narcissism by Sandy Hotchkiss and James Masterson; Malignant Self Love: Narcissism Revisited by Sam Vaknin and Lidija Rangelovska (Editor); Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents by Nina Brown; Treating Attachment Disorders: From Theory to Therapy by Karl Heinz Brisch and Kenneth Kronenberg; Toxic Coworkers: How to Deal with Dysfunctional People on the Job by Alan Cavaiola and Neil Lavender. And if you want to pursue the subject even further, you may be interested in reading The Narcissistic / Borderline Couple: A Psychoanalytic Perspective On Marital Treatment; ; Parenting with Love and Logic: Teaching Children Responsibility by Jim Fay and Foster Cline.
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Summary: A real eye opener -- to the ludicrous!
Review: It may shock people to see that a gay man such as myself would give this book a four star rating. And for those of you who would question my reasons, I encourage you to read further. This book is an excellent resource for understanding just how rediculous the very idea of "healing your homosexuality" really is. I actually read this book when I was a Christian and struggling with my own sexual orientation -- too ashamed to even let anyone know I was reading it to begin with. As I read through it, I began to realize that if this is what "ex-gay ministries" has to offer me and ask of me, I want no part of it! This book begins from the first page discussing various methods of "reprogramming" yourself -- without ever actually using the word "reprogramming" of course! It talks about the need to put away old habbits that "will lead you back into the lifestyle." It encourages men to take up a "healthy interest" in such "manly activities" as sports and cars -- as if my sexuality has anything to do with the fact that I detest sports. However, these things do bring up a good point to the more critical reader. In discussing these things, the book admits that our sexual orientation touches far more than who we take to bed with us. It becomes an integral part of our identity. Because of this, the only possible way -- assuming it's possible at all -- to truly change our orientation is to change our very identity and being at the core. Any person with an ounce of self-worth must ask themselves if the complete sacrifice of one's core being is worth the riddance of any "sin." But the truth be told, this book is clearly not written to cater to those with a sense of self-worth. Nor is it written with the intention of helping its reader develop any. Instead, it encourages blind reliance on God to change him. This only serves to enforce the feelings of weakness and helplessness -- and therefor a lack of personal worth -- that the individual already feels. To any gay or bisexual person seriously considering some "homosexual healing," I would strongly recommend that you read this book. Read every page with a critical eye and a sense of who you are as an individual. Consider every sacrifice that this book would ask you to make and "count the costs." And then, in all seriousness, ask yourself if it's really worth it. I certainly didn't think so. I thank the authors of this book for writing such a concise manual that so easily displays what nonsense these "ex-gay ministries" really are. I realize that this was not their intent, but it is the only way that I can seriously read the book.
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Summary: the title says it all....
Review: This book is a tremendous resource for Christians stuggling with homosexuality. I first read this book when I was really struggling with my sexual identity and looking for answers. The authors Bob and Lori both share their own stories in a loving, practical and challenging way, that will touch your heart as you read and bring you closer to the Father heart of God. I highly recommend it having seen the changes God had worked in me through using this wonderful tool!!
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Summary: An excellent and lovingly written book!
Review: This book is well written. It is biblically based and gives an in depth explanation on the causes of homosexuality. For those of us who feel split apart by our Christianity and homosexual feelings, it gives practical advice on how to cope and overcome.
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Summary: A Good Start but Incomplete
Review: This book, while an excellent overview of the process of "coming out of homosexuality" (really mortifying a besetting sin), lacks psychological and spiritual depth in certain places. It also is slanted more for men, although the authors try hard to be balanced and do include two chapters specifically dealing with lesbianism. Start with this book, but supplement it with Van Der Aardwig's "The Battle for Normality" for more insight into the psychological aspects and with theological books such as "The Pleasures of God" by John Piper.
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