You Can Be the Wife of a Happy Husband

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Summary: Deja Vu
Review: "You can be the wife of a happy husband" is great for new wives and old wives alike! An old wife, like myself, also worries about the rest of my family. Darien Cooper's newest book "You can be the happy mom of an empty Nest" is the best book I've read since this one. Read Darien's books and you'll have an entire happy family!

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Summary: As good as Her newest book?
Review: "You can be the wife of a happy husband" is great for new wives and old wives alike! An old wife, like myself, also worries about the rest of my family. Darien Cooper's newest book "You can be the happy mom of an empty Nest" is the best book I've read since this one. Read Darien's books and you'll have an entire happy family!

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Summary: Obey Your Husband Right Into Sin And Oblivion
Review: ...However, as I read each succeeding chapter, I felt a deep depression set in. First of all, this book is touted as "Biblical", but there are literally entire paragraphs passed off as Bible quotes that are NOWHERE in the Bible, merely somebody's (the author's?) spurious interpretations and extrapolations. ...

Second, I don't know who this supposedly Christian lady hangs around with, but it sure seems like alot of her friends' husbands (and her own?) go to lewd nightclubs, watch dirty movies, indulge their midlife crises with motorcycles, stay out all night with no explanation, skip church and expect their wives to do the same, and other sinful behavior that wives are supposed to silently indulge without care or comment. The book is riddled with advice in dealing with such self-centered louts, and none of the advice has to do with refusing to accompany your husband into sinfulness, or refusing to even point out that his actions are sinful. Heck, you're not even supposed to ask questions if your husband stays out all night. Maybe the reason this book advocates such silence and self-abnegation on the part of wives is because these wives are married to hopelessly childish, self-centered jerks who haven't a prayer of becoming the godly, Christ-like men that Ephesians 5 calls THEM to be. The author gives the example of a woman who announced her decision to become submissive to her husband, who then tested her by demanding that they go to a lewd nightclub together. She swallowed her hurt and revulsion and agreed, but he came down with a violent headache and so they couldn't go. The author describes this as a victory, but totally avoids the sad point that he still WANTED to go, though he was prevented from doing so. Who wants a husband who would even suggest such things?

The book claims that its purpose is to restore the husband as the head of the household, and yet describes men in infantalizing terms. For example, detailed instructions on complementing your husband's manliness are given, as are instructions to indulge him sexually even when you feel tired or ill, "trusting in God" to help you overcome your lack of interest so that he won't turn elsewhere for gratification. Making sure that you look appealing when he comes home in order to combat the temptations of attractive and stimulating women he meets at work is suggested. There is a subtle undercurrent of fear and anxiety in the book, namely that if you don't completely subjugate your every feeling and indulge your man's every whim, he will turn away or turn elsewhere. Also, while touting men as the leaders of the family, the examples she gives are husbands who seem utterly incapable of acting in a sacrificial Christlike way, protecting a woman, or shepherding a family.

Wives are to be sub,issive to husbands, but husbands are also commanded to love their wives as Christ loves the Church. Remember Christ loved us FIRST-- the Bible says so! Also, Christ would never lead his bride the Church into sin. This book turns these Biblical concepts upside-down by basically stating that the state of the marriage is up to the woman, and that if we're lucky maybe our husbands will notice we exist as a result and stay home from the nightclub once in awhile. No Christlike husband capable of leadership would withhold love until his wife submits; it is the love which ENABLES the wife to confidently submit. No Christlike man would ask his wife to indulge him in sinful behavior; it is up to him to PROTECT HER from such behavior. This poor woman and every single woman friend she describes have very, very sad excuses for very UN-Christian marriages. I pity them.

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Summary: You can be the wife of a happy husband
Review: A female friend of mine gave this to my wife in hopes that it would help our failing marriage. My wife refused to read it, so I read it myself out of curiosity. At first, I was skeptical. I figured how in the world could a woman know what a man wants and needs?

Well, I couldn't put the book down. It soon became evident to me that not only did Mrs Cooper understand the male psyche, but she understood it even better than most men do! The book was 100% on target with everything it said. It is the best book I've ever read regarding the male psyche.

I've read the negative reviews on this book and in each negative review, I see a common thread... A resistance to the truth about submission. The women that wrote these reviews are obviously not ready or willing to have a happy husband.

Wives, if you want to truly understand how your husband was created to be, this is the book for you. Regardless of what the negative reviews from others say, this book is the truth. Men are motivated by the women in their lives. It is up to you whether that motivation is positive or negative.

Oh, and the lady that gave my wife this book....she began to apply these principles. Her husband quit drinking, started spending more time with the kids, and got actively involved in his local church. It works!

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Summary: It's the truth! -- A male perspective
Review: A female friend of mine gave this to my wife in hopes that it would help our failing marriage. My wife refused to read it, so I read it myself out of curiosity. At first, I was skeptical. I figured how in the world could a woman know what a man wants and needs?

Well, I couldn't put the book down. It soon became evident to me that not only did Mrs Cooper understand the male psyche, but she understood it even better than most men do! The book was 100% on target with everything it said. It is the best book I've ever read regarding the male psyche.

I've read the negative reviews on this book and in each negative review, I see a common thread... A resistance to the truth about submission. The women that wrote these reviews are obviously not ready or willing to have a happy husband.

Wives, if you want to truly understand how your husband was created to be, this is the book for you. Regardless of what the negative reviews from others say, this book is the truth. Men are motivated by the women in their lives. It is up to you whether that motivation is positive or negative.

Oh, and the lady that gave my wife this book....she began to apply these principles. Her husband quit drinking, started spending more time with the kids, and got actively involved in his local church. It works!

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Summary: What a difference this information can make in your life!
Review: I found this book at a thrift shop for a dime after a huge fight with my husband-to-be. I was so desperate and felt that our relationship was over no matter what I did. I started reading this book and I could see exactly why our fight happened as well as what I needed to do to fix it and prevent more problems from occuring. I immediately started applying the principles to our relationship and we are BOTH much happier. I don't think our relationship was this good even in the beginning! I have already loaned it out to a dear friend and know that it will improve her marriage! This book is a God-send and every woman should read it and apply it to their lives! Being a submissive wife makes you a stronger,better, and more beautiful woman and I finally feel secure about myself, my relationship with God and my relationship with my fiance.

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Summary: Dangerous and naive
Review: I have never felt so strongly about a book that I felt necessary to give a review one way or the other, but I feel I must. Please read the last part about finding a better book if you're in a hurry.
I am a spiritually mature Christian who struggled with the idea of submission like many of you. This book is NOT the answer.
I had to read this book 3 times to make sure this wasn't a joke. Even my husband thought it was nuts.
To be fair, she has some correct ideas about how not to beat down your man with criticism and to appreciate what he does, and advocates a more loving, sweet attitude.
I also don't know where she got some of her Bible quotes. I checked 15 translations and they don't say what some of her quotes say.
The danger comes in other junk: staying home from church and not reading your bible in front of him if he disapproves. What about our need to seek a closer relationship with Jesus?
She also recommends being sweet and loving to him when he visits you if he moves out after cheating on you. No mention of the disease issues at all!
You are not to say no to him for any reason (sex or otherwise). This could emasculate him and lead him to adultery or some other ruin. Hello! We are not responsible for their choices and they is not responsible for ours.
She points out that you lose your femininity if you learn how to defend yourself. Getting a job is a no-no, even if he orders you to, which of course you must do. You must be financially and completely dependent on your husband.
The part that really did me in was about going to a place of "lewd entertainment". You must be obedient, regardless of the humiliation. And what if he asks for a threesome? None of these extreme examples are practical and would be great ammunition for an abusive man. Abuse is never covered in this book - very irresponsible.
This book doesn't give men enough credit and does not mention personal responsibility. Her instructions to curtail time with your family, friends and outside interests if he orders it are classic symptons of wife-battering.
She also recommends lying to him, complimenting him on his beard even if you wish he'd shave it off - stupid stuff. If you hate the perfume he gives you, use lots and lots of it to make him sick of it.
She contradicts herself too. Don't discipline the children; she says that's his job. Later says not to bother him with routine problems with the children.
Silly stuff: "Sense" when your husband wants to make love so you can prepare your mind. Make your schedule flexible so you can be available to him morning, noon, and night. Do whatever he asks in bed. When he tells you to empty the garbage, drop whatever you're doing and do it and do it lovingly and gratefully. Practice sitting with your hands folded so you don't annoy him with your irritating hand gestures. Don't move furniture or fix the car either.
If you want a book about how to submit and not be a doormat or a boring, brainless simpering twit, please read "Finding the Hero in Your Husband" by Dr. Juliana Slattery. The idea of submission is not easy for us modern women, but the Dr.'s book is uplifting and practical as well as biblically sound.

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Summary: A good book
Review: I have read and I think that it will benefit truly and sincerely to my relationship. It is not the fault of some women if the men they have married changed after marriage. I agree with Darien Cooper even though I honestly sometimes think "is she serious?" but this book has given me peace and hope for a better family life. If my mother only followed this book (although she has not read it, I wouldnt dare ask her to) her relationship with my dad and her parenting wouldve been 100% better. I guess it just depends on the woman, how she was brought up, to appreciate this book or not. I say give it a try, if you believe in God this might make a lot of sense. I also confess that there are a lot of times I wish I followed my husbands advice instead of sticking my foot down to follow my own wants.

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Summary: For Stepford Wives Only!!
Review: Read this book if you want to become a Stepford Wife!

This book is outrageous! I'm a happily married wife, stay-at-home mom, devout christian and yet I don't believe God wants women to be robots, like she suggests!!!

Sadly, she makes an idol out of her husband, breaking the very first Commandment.

She contradicts herself by saying God comes first... and then later says if your husband doesn't want you to go to church even on EASTER, then you should not go. How is this putting God first?

How is going to a lewd nightclub to please your husband pleasing to God?

We should not obey our husbands (or a bad book, like this) if it leads us into sin!!





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Summary: My all-time favorite book to help ME be happy in my marriage
Review: The only person I can change is myself (with God's help) andthis book has helped me more than any other to see myself the way Godsees me, to see where I need to change and to help me to be less critical of myself and others -- a monumental achievement!!