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Summary: Just what a self-help book ought to be.
Review: Chapman's information is clear, simple, and practical. He uses good illustrations, and the idea really makes a difference. I'm the author of the book, Self-Help Stuff That Works, so I guess you could say I'm an expert on self-help, and this is self-help at it's finest!The idea that people differ in what gets through to them, in what really makes them feel loved, is one of those that after you hear it you think, "That is so obvious, I should have thought of it myself," but it had never occurred to me. I was, however, immediately able to put the idea into practice, and it made a huge difference in my marriage. I highly recommend this book. The tape is also good, and a good way to keep the basic ideas fresh in your mind while you work them into your life.
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Summary: Read only if you want a better relationship
Review: My husband and I are active in the Catholic Engaged Encounter in California, married for eight years and still we learned something from this book. We encourage engaged couples to communicate, verbally or in writing, their thoughts, ideas and feelings. But even as we practiced that concept, I felt that at times I just didn't understand my husband and he felt that way with me. Since reading this book, I understand why. My primary love language is actually two: Acts of Service and Quality Time. (According to Dr. Chapman, this makes me 'bi-lingual'!) The small gifts that my husband gave me never meant as much as his fixing the sink or hanging the Christmas lights. After just one week of discovering our 'love languages', our relationship is better. The concept of love being a choice (where other reviewers think Dr. Chapman became preachy) is one that we talk about in our Engaged Encounter weekends. Love is a choice, and his explanation of why is perfect. I highly recommend this book. And for the record, I don't think he got too preachy. But if you are not of any Christian faith, then any Biblical reference will offend.
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Summary: Very helpful book
Review: This book has helped to propell our relationship forward. We understand each other much better now, speaking each other's "love language." I like the simplicity and shortness of the book. The only reason I wouldn't give it 5 stars is because Mr. Chapman gets preachy religious quotes and towards the end he sounds as if he can fix EVERY relationship with his theories, when we know that love can not be categorized black and white as the book tends to preach.
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Summary: More helpful to the very religious
Review: Others will probably find as much or more in Deborah Tannen's You Just Don't Understand or in the relationship and communication sections of Richard O'Connor's Undoing Depression. Both of these have been lifesavers in our couples therapy. Maybe four stars for those who are not put off by so much message.
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Summary: Excellent book for strengthening relationships
Review: I went looking for a book that would help two different people communicate when one was an introvert and the other extroverted, and I didn't want an overly religious-minded book. This is a great book that does all that and more - it explains in simple, easy-to-understand terms how to communicate with someone else and how to show them love in a way that they can understand. I'm not engaged or married yet, but it really helped me and my partner understand each other better and learn what ways of showing love would mean something to the other. This is a really good book to read at any stage of the relationship - pre-engagement like us or even 10 years into marriage.
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Summary: We don't all speak the language of love!
Review: This is a SUPERB book for those wanting to renew their love, find out how to love better, or just read a well-written, lovely book! It's amazing that love has languages too, but they are as different as anything, and Chapman really details them out for ya. You might be getting a marriage-survival guide in this book! It also helps people to understand how other people express love in non-verbal ways and how you might need to express love in non-verbal ways. Lots of great examples, this is a MUST HAVE book for all lovers -- and we are all lovers, aren't we?
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Summary: A must-read
Review: If I could "prescribe" one book for couples, whether married or simply dating, it would be this one. The author does a fantastic job of describing the five ways that all persons have love communicated to them. By determining what your primary "love language" is, you and your mate can deepen your relationship and better communicate your feelings for one another. Even though your mate may be communicating that they lov you, if it is not in your "language," you will not "understand" it like you would if it were communicated a different way. This book was very interesting from a psychologial standpoint, too. Anyone with an interest in that area would probably enjoy this book.
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Summary: Fill up your love tank
Review: People express and recieve love in different ways. Dr. Gary Chapman identifies these as the five languages of love: Quality Time* Words of Affirmation* Gifts * Acts of Service* And Physical Touch If you express love in a way that your spouse doesn't understand, he or she won't realize you've expressed your love at all. The problem is that you're speaking 2 different love languages. Perhaps your husband needs to hear encouraging words, but you feel cooking him a nice dinner will cheer him up. When he still feels down, you're puzzled. Or, maybe your wife craves time with you-time away from the kids and television. The flowers you gave her just don't communictae that you care.
This book is designed for marriage survivalists. If you have intentions of surviving out your marriage instead of living with the consequences of divorce, this is a good book.
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Summary: One of the best relationship books I've ever read
Review: Very well put together and easy to read. Not only was it enlightening in terms of how both my significant other and I think and act/react differently to different types of expressions of love and affection in different situations within our relationship, but it also helped me better understand other significant relationships in my life, ie: with family and close friends. One thing that is good about this book is that the author puts things in very plain language, without too much psycho-babble. I'm not affiliated with christianity, but I was impressed with Dr. Chapman's ability to keep his religious beliefs separate from the subject matter at hand. I found it to be a very basic manual for relationships from which anyone, regardless of their religious affiliation or spiritual path, will be able to absorb and digest alot of good information. Also, this information is excellent for both singles as well as couples. If you're in a relationship that is going badly this information can help you turn things around (if you apply it), and if your relationship is already great it can help you keep it that way (or make it even better).
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Summary: LOVE ... MAKES THE WORLD GO ROUND!
Review: Whether one needs "words of affirmation" or "acts of service" to express their love signals is not only a matter of personal choice but in many cases it can be gender related. As a counsellor, I can attest to the fact that men and woman express and receive love in different ways. Generally speaking, some men (and certainly not all) find that an emotional relationship follows after a committed sexual relationship has developed. For some women, on the other hand, they need to feel the emotional attachment before bonding in a committed sexual relationship. In this book, the author clearly explains how those who show love by verbal words and those who show love by doing acts of service can come together to express their hearfelt love to each other in terms they both understand. For some the words of love flow easily. However, if your partner eagerly jumps out of bed with a smile at 2 a.m. and takes a drive to the corner store just because you mentioned you had a sudden hunger for ice cream, that may also be an expression of his/her devoted love. As a personal tip, look into your partner's eyes in an intimate moment. It has long been known that the eyes are "the windmills of the soul." If there is a flame of love burning there, it will shine through times of joy and sorrow. The eyes often say what is difficult to put into words; it also reveals if the words are just words with little or no meaning - eyes seldom lie. Open and honest communication is one of the most critical elements of any lasting and fulfilling committed relationship. For those who are not receiving love in the manner they choose to give it, I strongly recommend this excellent book.
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