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Summary: For a love that lasts a lifetime!
Review: I brought this book because my boyfriend and I were going through some major troubles. It wasn't that we didn't love each other; we just weren't communicating the love we had for one another.I sat down and read this book and by the time I got to page 51, I had already cried and had realized that my view of love was one sided at best. The funny thing is I would shower my boyfriend with flowers and gifts and sentimental trinkets and it never seemed to faze him. I couldn't understand why until I read this book, and then I realized that I wasn't loving him, but instead trying to show him how to love me. Women and men are different and so it only stands to reason that their concept of love would be different. And what I found out was not that he didn't love me...but that wasn't doing a good job at loving him. Thinking back on all the pain we went through. It makes me wonder how many relationships break up not because they don't love one another, but because they can't communicate that love effectively to their mate. How many times have we tried to get our needs and wants met and the only words that come out are how they haven't done this or they aren't doing that instead of just saying I really miss when you used to do this because it made me feel such & such. When frustrated we often speak out of anger instead of love. This book teaches you how to effectively communicate the love you have for a person in a manner in which they can not only understand it, but also reap the rewards from being completely loved. I recommend this book for anyone who believes that love is worth making sacrifices and to anyone who believes that love is worth the effort. If you haven't figured out by now that things worth having are things worth working and fighting for then you will never have a prosperous relationship. This book gives you the opportunity to take a bad situation and turn it into a situation in which your relationship can flourish and nurture not only the two of you as a couple but also you as an individual.
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Summary: A Very Therapudic Tool for Problem Marriages
Review: I have recommended this book to quite a few people since reading it. While reading this book, it was as if Gary Chapman was sitting in a chair next to me while I was sitting in a recliner pouring out my troubles. I now understand some of the problems my wife and I were having and this book explained to me why and what to do about it. I wish I had read this book before I got married because I would have save myself a lot of pain and frustration. Save yourself some money and heart ache, DO YOURSELF A FAVOR, READ THIS BOOK!!!
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Summary: Words of Affirmations for the author?
Review: I have read the book 'The five love languages' and the ideas in it are quite interesting. But I have never read a book of someone who has such a high self-esteem. He always finds a way to mention his own name over and over. He doesn't really praise the ideas, he let the people he states praise him as miracle maker. I'm sure he has a high quota of failures as every other marriage counselor too. This book is a written sermon.
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Summary: Well finally a book that demystifies loving your spouse
Review: This book teaches that there are five different ways that people experience and express love. The author shows us how many relationships fall apart because a partner expresses love differently than their partner receives it. Once the disconnect is defined and explained the solution is so simple and obvious. If your spouse needs physical affection/sexual contact but you express love through words of spoken affection and vis versa, then obviously both partners will feel more love if some adjustments can be made. This is also true where the needs are gifts/tokens, acts of service and/or quality time. Of course, the obvious corollary is that we generally express love in the way we would like to experience it, so it is easy to figure out what your spouse's needs are, as well as what you really need. These are simple concepts that are so powerful in application. This author has really found a great but simple way to save relationships. This book should be required reading for newlyweds.
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Summary: Basic communications book slanted toward couples
Review: A book on communication, the author discusses the five basic ways in which different people express their affections for each other and the confusion that results when we are not speaking the same "language". So, while sending your partner a nice card to cheer them up might mean love to you, you can't understand why it just elicits a brief "Thanks". On the other hand, he calls during the day and says he'll be home early this evening and just gets an "Okay, take the hamburger out of the fridge when you get home then" response from you. Since you express love by sending the card and he did by coming home early to see you, you both feel that the other does not express affection for you. If he understood and sent you a card once in a while he would be speaking your language and you would understand that he is trying to tell you that he loves you. That is what this book is about, understanding how each of you expresses your love for the other and learning to express affection in the other person's language. Filled with examples and sections that help you and your partner learn about each other's preferred method of communicating affection, it is a highly recommended read for everyone who is in any kind of relationship.
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Summary: The Most Enlightening Book I've Ever Read!
Review: This book causes that proverbial "light bulb" to pop on almost from the 1st page! The concept is so simple, yet profound and applies not only to spouses, but to friends, co-workers, bosses, and most of all, your children! Did you ever wonder why children raised by the same parent(s), at the same time, in the same environment could turn out so differently and one feel very loved and the other feel unloved??? Well, The Five Languages tells you why and what to do about it.
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Summary: Getting to the heart of communication enhances relationships
Review: This is an excellent book, not only for couples but for developing responsible individual ways of communication with all people. Easily read & understood, Gary writes in a way to develop skills we already have but often do not use. Once I was able to recognize the language that speaks "love to me" it was easier to express my wants & needs to the man in my life. It is a tool to develop self-love & understanding, vital in ourself first before we are able to "teach" what we need to another. Excellent, also for helping to understand conflicts with siblings and children. Each time I've read it, I have discovered a perspective I did not have before. Excellent book.
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Summary: Required Reading for Successful Marraige Relationships
Review: "The Five Love Languages" is a well written, practical and Biblically based book on getting the most out of a marriage relationship. The book is so effective, it is used in counseling and ministerial training (Depending on your training) to name a couple of other uses, and is easy enough for anyone to put into practice assuming the reader is willing to make some changes. Gary Chapman articulates the little challenges in marriages that every couple in some shape or form have run into during the life of an ever maturing marriage relationship. The focus of his teaching is the understanding of your mates "love language" or the manner in which he or she says "I love you" or feels loved in tangable ways. Gary Chapman then addresses how our ability to recognize and respond to our spouse can dictate the success of our marriages. With application and consistent work, you will understand your mate and yourself in the mix of your relationship better than you ever thought. Some books in this genre may make a potential reader afraid, skeptical or intimidated to even consider. For reasons ranging from too abstract that you would need a Phd. to get any value from it, to just too theoretical coming across with all the warmth and sincerity of a text book, not so here! The beauty of this book is it's simplicity, light reading and success stories that inspire hope. Though it's light reading, you shouldn't under estimate the impact this teaching could have in your situation. A good example of this is the books teaching format and practical examples where these priciples have been applied and have worked. A great book with potentially great results.
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Summary: A Helpful Framework for Understanding
Review: This is a good book for anyone who is trying to improve their marriage. I recommend this book and "His Needs, Her Needs," by Harley, as good starting places for marriage enrichment through books. Granted this book provides an over-simplified version of love and relationships, but that doesn't make it bad. In fact, the simplicity of this book is part of what makes it such a great place to start. Understand the basics first and then move to the more complex issues. When you are ready for that I recommend "The Passionate Marriage" by Schnarch.
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Summary: Wonderful Book
Review: This book was part of my and my husband's premarital counseling. It really helped me understand how to show him my love, and it helped me realize how I like to be loved. Our "love tanks" are almost always full now. We also used this with his rebellious 14 year old daughter and gained some insight into her behavior. Great book!
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