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Summary: This can change your marriage!
Review: My husband and I read this book together before we decided to marry and it completely set the stage for our marriage. He's an Acts of Service kind of guy, and I'm a Quality Time. Before we read this he was constantly doing all kinds of nice things for me while I sat and waited for him to stop with all the 'doing' and just spend time with me! Now that we understand how the other person understands love we are able to demonstrate it in a way that's meaningful. Not only that, but now when he does do nice things for me I'm beginning to understand that he's showing me how much he loves me. Over time we not only know how the other person understands love, but we're learning each other's language so that it becomes our 'secondary language'. This book will bring your communication and understanding of each other to a whole new level! I don't know where we would be if we hadn't read it!
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Summary: Love or Sex
Review: This book is an interesting but indirect approach to improving love between couples. Its philosphy of using improved love to improve lovemaking has real merit. I know that when I feel closer to my husband the sex is always better. But there are alot of non-emotional, technique-oriented factors that can contribute a LOT to having great sex, and this book doesn't go into that with any meaningful contributions. If you are wanting something of that ilk, you'd do well with the book "9 Free Secrets of New Sensual Power" or the DVD "New Free Sex" by Clint Arthur, or if you really feel like being nice to yourself, have them send you "Goddess Worship" and have your guy follow along with the guy in the video. After that it will be you Expressing!
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Summary: Fabulous
Review: This book can make anyone's marriage better. It's not just suggestions, but practical advice that you can actually imagine working while you're reading it. And it does work! My husband and I understand each other much better now.
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Summary: It makes so much sense!!!
Review: This is such common sense stuff and it really works. It can be applied to marriages, children, other family members, etc. It's an easy-read and totally makes sense, to learn to speak the same language as your spouse prefers!! Wow!
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Summary: It actually works...
Review: I can't stress how effective the simple concept explained in this book has been in making my relationship with the love of my life finally work. We both loved each other so much, but neither of us felt it. This book was like a light-bulb going on. A slight adjustment in behavior in both of us and we're on Cloud Nine. Things do not have to be complicated to just plain work. The only downside to this book is the occasional drift into Christian evangelism. Fortunately, this can be safely ignored if you don't care for the Godisms and bible references mixed in. The psychological premise stands on its own merits but the author has been bitten by the Christian-bug and can't help himself. Finally, something that works.
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Summary: The absolute BEST book for married couples
Review: This one book has done more to better my marriage than any other book I've ever read. We've been married 17 1/2 years and I still refer back to this book many times. I highly recommend it to anyone in a troubled marriage, getting married, or just wanting to help a good marriage grow stronger.
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Summary: Speaks to Christians and Unbelievers Alike
Review: WOW! I have one chapter to go in this book. In just this weekend, I can already see my marriage changing. I am sure if my husband reads it too, I will notice even more changes. I have learned how to 'choose' to love and why the original love experience doesn't last. His concept is so simple that just about any two people could live together successfully, so long as they stuck to his guidelines. WOW! I can't say enough good things about this book.
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Summary: opens the eyes of your heart
Review: This book was recomended by my friend pastor Scott I started reading it and couldn't put it down. It showed me all the things I wasn't doing for my wife that she so needs. Rachel left me and I know why. Now I know how to keep her satisfied when she returns this weekend. Its amazingly simple yet complex but will work I am sure of it. Oh and pray pray pray love all Phoenix
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Summary: a fantastic book everybody needs
Review: This should have been a book written for everybody, not just for those in relationships. It helped to open my eyes up to some of the problems people have in relating to each other.
For instance, let's say somebody's love language is giving gifts and another person's love language is words of affirmation. The gift-giving person gives a gift to the words-of-affirmation person and is hurt, because the words-of-affirmation person didn't give a gift back, or didn't give words of thanks enough. What the gift-giving person didn't understand is that the other person's love language was not gifts, but words of affirmation. The words-of-affirmation person feels hurt because the gift-giving person didn't say anything about how great his job performance was, what a nice piece of poetry he had published, etc.
It is very striking how miscommunication can result from not knowing what is important to the other person as to what represents love. This is not only important in relationships, but what represents a true friend to another person. Although this book was written with relationships in mind, it can apply to other situations as well.
There are five main love languages that the author discusses, and these can applied anywhere. It would certainly help to have couples read this book before they marry, or even close friends. It would probably make for better holidays, also.
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Summary: This book needs a better metaphor!
Review: Chapman's book was recommended to me by both newlyweds and a couple who has been together for over 20 years. My husband and I took it along with us on our honeymoon and have already started recommending it to others. The book's great asset is that it encourages you to examine the ways that you show affection and the ways that you expect to receive it. The latter has been the cause of many a misunderstanding in our relationship; we noticed an immediate improvement once we started taking note of these hidden assumptions. The exercises give you a concrete way to continue to show love to your spouse/partner, that has its own rewards built in. Because we've found this to be so valuable, I give this book five stars. The weaknesses? Chapman's metaphors are clunky (while the concept of a 'love tank' is useful, even the couples I know who love this book cringe whenever they find it necessary to say, "Honey, how full is your love tank today?"). His assertion that there are no more than five love langauges is also adamant but not well-supported. Despite these minor weaknesses, the message and method are so helpful that I would (and do) recommend this to anyone who wants to have a better relationship with his or her partner.
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