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Summary: Standard Wishful Thinking
Review: Marriage is an institution that reflected the economy of an agrarian nation. Single family farms do not exist in suburbia. Trying to cram yourselves into an arrangement that was created to have many children to help with the endless physical work needed to survive is making the USA c r a z y and idiots like Ophra and Dr. Phil filthy rich selling how to make it work!
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Summary: Where's The Needle On *Your* Love Tank?
Review: How's your relationship with your mate? Your children? Your parents? Your siblings? It may be a matter of the state of the "love tank".Author Gary Chapman in his book The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate believes everyone has a love tank, and that tank is filled by different love languages. These five languages are Gifts, Words of Affirmation, Quality of Time, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Often, we tend to give love in the languages we are most fluent in, which usually ends up being the languages that fill up our love tank. This would be why a husband who does yard work, dishes, car maintenance, etc. (Acts of Service) is floored when his wife says "You never show me you love me. You never cuddle with me, or caress my hair, or make the first move for sex." (Physical Touch). Or, "Why don't you spend time with me? Why do you work so much?" (Quality Time). And, "Why don't you buy me flowers? Why don't you ever get me cards or balloons...just because?" (Gifts) Or "You never tell me what I mean to you. Why don't you ever share with me what I mean to you, or what my good qualities are?" (Words of Affirmation) But, if her language is primarily Acts of Service, she'll feel so loved and honored because her husband does so many things for her, and thus feels "full" in her love tank. This may not sound like a big deal, but considering the divorce rate is 50% (as one relationship instance), and so many seem to be unhappy with their primary relationships, the concept of love languages may very well be a signficant factor in understanding self and others, and in relationship growth. Perhaps relationships get rocky or arrive at an impasse because individuals are speaking a different love language than what fills up the "love tank" of the object of their affection...and a result, the recipient doesn't feel loved. It's not that they feel empty and unfufilled because love isn't being given, but because the language "spoken" is not something that registers to the recipient as a form of love. Chapman further theorizes that we usually have 2 main love languages that fill up our tank. He also says that if a person has a hard time identifying their main love languages, they've either been on empty for so long and are out of touch with their needs, or they have been so filled up by their spouse, that all 5 languages tend to speak to them equally. A story in the book that illustrates the love tank theory is the "burnt toast syndrome". A woman was sick in bed. Her husband would always bring her burnt toast to her when she was ailing. She was so hurt and offended by this repeated insensitivity and ignorance, that she finally burst into tears one day, and asked him why he did that...and didn't he care? She was floored to hear him say "I'm sorry honey. I had no idea. Burnt toast is my favorite, and I gave you what I would consider my favorite breakfast...burnt toast." Chapman writes: "When your spouse's emotional love tank is full and he feels secure in your love, the whole world looks right and your spouse will move out to reach his highest potential in life. But when the love tank is empty and he feels used but not loved, the whole world looks dark and he will likely never reach his potential for good in the world." I recommend this book highly. It could very well be a relationship saver!
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Summary: This book would certainly help your marriage!
Review: After I read this book and confirmed my own love language I said to myself, "I wish I'd had known this twenty years ago when I was first married". I would recommend this book to all couples and singles who are contemplating marriage. Understanding the person you love is the first step in improving your relationship. I believe couples considering divorce would be wise to try the suggestions in this book before calling it quits. I plan on giving this book as a gift to those who could use the help. My wife and I will also teach these concepts to our three boys.
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Summary: Do you want the best marriage?
Review: Do you want to give your marriage the best possible chance to succeed? If you do, simply put, this is the absolute BEST book you can read to help you understand how to fill your loved one's "love tank" on a regular basis. Don't get married without it!
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Summary: Unbelievably Bad
Review: Nothing more than antidotal information collected through connections with the extremely religious! I've encountered people who have read the book using laughable phrases such as "my love tank is full". If you really want to understand communication styles stick with people who have done the research and have the credentials. Deborah Tannen has written several well-researched books that are helpful in improving communication in interpersonal relationships.
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Summary: Good for Married, Single, and whoever else is frustrated.
Review: I am not going to tell you about the authors writing techniques or anything else, I am going to tell you what this book has done for me.
A friend (male) suggested I read this book some time ago. Since I dont read relationship books I laughed it off, and continued with my relationship. By that time I had been in my relationship with a man for 7 years, and though we love eachother we just always seemed to fight. He didnt understand me, and I guess I didnt understand him either. My boyfriend and I decided to split and I left the country. One day I was bored and picked up the book, and from page one it made sense. I read the book in 3 hours, and I couldnt wait to call my (then ex) boyfriend back in the states. I told him about it, and asked him if he would read it. He said yes, and so I had a copy mailed to him. He read it, and everything started to come together for him also. A month later he asked me to come home, and I agreed. I can tell you these last 2 months have been the best time we have spent together in the 8 years we have been together. I wish I had the book a long time ago. Now I suggest it to everyone I know, and everyone loves it. Do yourself a favor and buy this book, it might just change your life too.
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Summary: The best - hands down - for all couples
Review: This is the first of Gary Chapman's books I ever read (they all are wonderful)- about ten years ago. It is so good, I continue to go back to it when I have frustrations in a new relationship. Gary Chapman is an excellent author and speaker. His writing style is so easy to follow and this book does a wonderful job explaining how different people communicate love. Each chapter is clearly defined and stories from couples he has counseled tie it all together. This book is helpful for anyone, no matter what stage of dating or marriage you are in currently. Everyone can learn from it.
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Summary: Saving my marriage!
Review: I can't speak of the emotion that fills my heart when thinking of this book. It is saving my marriage! My husband and I now know how to satisfy each other in the most basic of ways...I haven't felt so loved in my entire life! This book should be a MUST for every married/dating couple in the world! Actually, I think maybe it should be handed out at birth! LOL
I also have "The Five Love Languages of Children", and it is just as worthy and I think this one should be handed out to every parent at the arrival of their new baby.
I have shared both books with many people, married/dating/parents alike, and hope that you choose it too! Oh, and don't worry if your mate doesn't want to read it...s/he will soon change their thinking once they start feeling their "love tank" filling up! And they will want to do the same for you! Guaranteed!
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Summary: A must read for anyone in a relation (that means everyone)
Review: I consider this book one of the must read books for anyone in a relation (that means everyone). I rank this book up with John Gray's Mars & Venus book. The concept is simple: People express their love differently. If you're not expressing your love for your spouse in the way they like, your efforts will not be as effective as they could be. For example, if I buy my wife gifts all the time but to her love is expressed by spending lots of quality time together, then my gifts aren't going to make her happy. By focussing my efforts on what makes her happy (quality time in my example), my effort will be much more effective. Dr. Chapman states that people usually show love in the way they like to receive it. While that's not necessarily the way your spouse likes to receive it. Kind of like when we buy someone a gift we often buy something we like instead of what they like. It's a very simple concept but learning it completely can lead to very powerful results. I especially like how Dr. Chapman gives specific examples from his counseling experiences. To me, specific examples are what really drives a point home. Dr. Chapman does mention principles and teachings from the bible several times, but honestly I don't think that would turn anyone off if they're not a Christian. Finally as someone else pointed out, it is funny how he mentions his own name every change he gets. Funny yes. Annoying just a little. Effect, definitely. You won't forget his name after reading this book! Overall I highly recommend it, especially if both couples in a relationship can read it together.
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Summary: Good stuff
Review: My hubby and I have had a rough patch; as relatively newlyweds, we were really struggling. Most of our arguments revolved around our different expressions of love - I naturally do what makes me happy; what I want my husband to do. He gives to me what he wanted me to give him ... but both of us were left feeling unfulfilled and like the other wasn't listening. After reading this book, we both agree we were expressing different love languages. As we learn to give in the language the other partner can best receive, this has made a lot of difference and improved our marriage satisfaction and intimacy. The book is easy to read and is such a simple concept! I am giving this to all of my newly married friends as well as a copy to my parents. I highly recommend it - practiced faithfully, I believe it can positively impact a relationship!
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