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Summary: A relationship saver every couple should read.
Review: How many times have you heard a wife exclaim, "I cook and clean for that man, and he never appreciates all that I do for him. I'm so unhappy" or the husband grouse, "Hey, I bought her those diamond earrings. I even get her flowers just to show her how much I love her, and she just throws them back in my face saying that I am just trying to buy her love. She keeps carping that I never share my feelings. She just doesn't know love when she sees it." If one partner can speak only Russian and the other only Spanish, is it any wonder that there are communication problems. What is obvious in spoken languages isn't so obvious in love languages. The problem with love language is that the one partner thinks the other is just speaking very poor Russian while the other thinks their partner's Spanish is just terrible. This book is that very important eye opener that every couple should read. It will get them on the road to speaking each others natural language. And they should read it at the beginning of their relationship rather than as a last ditch effort to save it. I give this book as a wedding present to all my friends that get married. There is no better way to help them get a long and happy marriage started.
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Summary: If You Are Married, You Have Got To Read This!
Review: With communication being the number one factor in making relationship work, this is a must read for both spouses. Chapman hits the "nail on the head" as he uncovers the five languages of love: Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch Chapman clearly explains each language in a five chapters. Along the way, he includes experiences from real-life couples. After uncovering each language, Chapman uses the next couple of chapters to help the reader discover his or her own love language as well as the spouse's. Whether you are newlyweds or have been married for years, this book is highly recommended above any other book on marriage. More than likely, a reader will discover they have misunderstood a mate because they were using the wrong language! I'm seeing my mate in completely different light now. :) --- reviewed by Ty for Christian Bookshelf
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Summary: Love and communication
Review: Let me begin by saying that my mate and I are both well at ease with our own and each other's established love language styles. Of course it's difficult to place all the complexities of a person's "relationship style" completely within one of the five love languages cited in this book (quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch), but, using these five as a general guideline, my dominant love language is "physical touch", while my mate's is "acts of service". Our relationship functions reasonably well on this basis; if my mate starts moving out of her assigned love language style, as she is sometimes prone to do, I'm usually fairly quick to make sure she gets back into it.
However, despite being quite aware and mostly accepting of our respective love language styles, as recommended in this book, I sometimes suspect that this is not the full picture, and there is perhaps still something missing in our relationship in terms of communication. I'm not sure if perhaps there's something missing from my partner's copy of the book, and she's not fully grasping the issues? Her Spanish edition does seem to have fewer pages than my English copy...
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Summary: Learn to Speak Your Partner's Love Language
Review: Requests give direction to love, but demands stop the flow of love. ~Gary Chapman It is amazing how you will just have learned a lesson and then read it in a book, however, there are many lessons you don't want to learn five years from now. This book is filled with ideas on how you can immediately transform your relationship from a cold grave to a peaceful island resort. Perhaps you want to change your life into an amazing adventure or you want to calm the storms. Gary Chapman presents five love languages. One of these languages may be your primary love language, but he takes it further and explores the dialects of love. I think that many of us want all five languages, but there are various ways each can be expressed. Gary explains the five languages in detail and finally you will understand why some people don't respond to your gifts and others go wild with happy kitten joy. When you meet someone who shares your primary language it can feel like you have entered a magical country where everyone is speaking your language. For some individuals, "words of encouragement" will be much higher on their list than "the show of love through gifts" or "acts of service." I had trouble deciding which language was my favorite, but I know I get a bit happy when I receive gifts. However, I noticed that I never complain about not receiving gifts. Gary actually made it easier to figure out when he started to talk about what you complain about most. I normally say: "You are not listening to me." While I enjoy gifts, I'm never demanding in this area. So then I considered "Quality Time." Bingo, I was very concerned about "Quality Conversation." There is definitely "bliss" in "sympathetic dialogue." This is actually a rare thing indeed. When you talk to people, most of the time they are more worried about what they are going to say next and when you find someone who actually listens to what you are saying and responds in a way that makes you feel understood, that is bliss. So, I was very happy to have discovered my primary love language and I also figured out why people in my life don't always respond to gifts in the way I think they would. Some do and they will be getting more boxes of homemade cookies, for sure. ;) Gary does bring out various aspects of love that make you realize that love is not just a happy feeling of infatuation. It was interesting to read about how long the initial bliss stage lasts in most relationships and then to read about the decline and divorce rates for first, second and third marriages. There are examples in this book that present great hope for marriages that have grown cold or are on the rocks. Even one partner can read this book and change their relationship. There is a study guide at the end of the book and the questions can be used at home or in a class setting. "The Five Love Languages" is an essential book for marriage counselors, couples and anyone who wants to figure out how their partner responds to various forms of love. ~TheRebeccaReview.com
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Summary: be careful when you read this - it will change your life!
Review: Whilst I am currently single, I have been on a search for a partner this year. In somewhat of a state of confusion in a 2-month relationship, I was recommended this book to help me understand the man I was dating. I was feeling that his "heart wasn't in it" & I couldn't work out how we could be in a relationship without emotional involvement. We both seemed to want the same things. When I suggested that to him, he was terribly hurt as he thought he was acting in a loving manner.
After reading this book, I now know why. We were speaking different love languages & I wasn't receiving what he was sending.
This book has changed the way I think about all of my relationships - intimate, family, friends, even flatmates! I recommend this book to everyone - those married recently, those single, those married for a long time, those with children - in fact, I can't imagine someone not getting something out of this book.
The book is an easy & hugely beneficial read & will no doubt impact your life as much as it did mine.
Enjoy reaping the benefits!
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Summary: A simplified guide to communication
Review: Gary Chapman has an easy-to-read writing style. In this book he claims that we experience one of the five love languages, which is how we best receive love from other individuals. He calls the languages quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. The theory is that we easily give from the language we enjoy receiving the most. Relationships can get into trouble when one partner gives from his primary love language, but the other partner has a different primary love language and does not receive it as love. The partner that is giving may feel rejected or like their contribution is not worth much to the other or is unappreciated. In fact, it's due to the way the two different individuals experience "love". Gary Chapman does a good job of explaining each of the five types. Not surprisingly, my husband and I fell into different categories. It's helped us in two ways: 1) to learn to communicate with the other in his or her primary love language,
2) to be able to see when the other person is approaching us with his or her primary language I enjoyed this book and it has had a positive impact on my relationship.
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Summary: Good Book
Review: This book is excellent. However, I dont know that I love the philosophy of putting people in boxes. I think in our society we are trying to pigeon hole everyone and this is one of the ways to do it. Now, if your just looking for ways to understand people and their needs better...or your needs better...this might be the book for you.
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Summary: Why speak Greek to your mate when you can speak in tongues
Review: Being an author and romance/relationship coach I'm always on the look out for good relationship books to read and recommend to others. I highly recommend Dr. Gary Chapman's The Five Love Languages for its clear concise strategy to embrace and accommodate the subtle and in some cases radical differences in how we all perceive love. Dr. Chapman takes the myriad ways to show someone you love them and arranges them into five easy to understand and apply categories he calls Love Languages. One or more of these Five Love Languages will speak directly to your heart and the heart of your loved one. You will learn quickly and easily how to evaluate your mate and discover exactly what kind of things you can do that say, "I love you" every time. No more guessing or wondering what to do, how to do it or why. When you know your mates primary love language you will be able to send a message of love to him or her as often as you like. I've always paid very close attention to detail when doing anything romantic, thoughtful or loving for my wife. I was both happy and proud to find Dr. Chapman's five love languages, Quality Time, Word of Affirmation, Gifts, Acts of Service and Physical Touch already incorporated into my marriage. My wife and I have been together for a little over five years now. Even prior to reading The Five Love Languages every one of our years together has been blessed full of love, romance, passion, willingness, understanding and commitment. There is know doubt about it, my wife and I have always spoken to each other in our primary love language and it works like magic. I guess that's what has kept us speaking to each other (in tongues) all these years. My wife and I are proof that speaking to your mate in his or her love language can certainly rev-up your relationship and keep your marriage headed for victory lane. Before love all of a sudden seems Greek to you, get yourself a copy of The Five Love Languages today.
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Summary: Love and communication
Review: Let me begin by saying that my mate and I are both well at ease with our own and each other's established love language styles. Of course it's difficult to place all the complexities of a person's "relationship style" completely within one of the five love languages cited in this book (quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch), but, using these five as a general guideline, my dominant love language is "physical touch", while my mate's is "acts of service". Our relationship functions reasonably well on this basis; if my mate starts moving out of her assigned love language style, as she is sometimes prone to do, I'm usually fairly quick to make sure she gets back into it.
However, despite being quite aware and mostly accepting of our respective love language styles, as recommended in this book, I sometimes suspect that this is not the full picture, and there is perhaps still something missing in our relationship in terms of communication. I'm not sure if perhaps there's something missing from my partner's copy of the book, and she's not fully grasping the issues? Her Spanish edition does seem to have fewer pages than my English copy...
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Summary: A Book Worth Reading
Review: I am a college student who read this book because my Africana Studies teacher mentioned it in class. This book was very helpful in other ways of self expression. It shows that with a positive attitude and patience, things will change and can get better. This book reminded me of "The Seat of the Soul" in the way that it was formatted and the way it read. Anyone who is looking to improve themself as well as gain insight to those around them should read this book. Not to mention that it was a easy read.
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