Our Guys

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Summary: Stunning
Review: It's scarcely worth using up the space to detail how good this book really is. Read it and see for yourself. Impeccably researched, wonderfully detailed, filled with compassion for the everyone involved, this book will break your heart and lift your soul. An Instant Classic.

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Summary: How true
Review: I bought this book after hearing the author on a talk show. I recalled the case and the author's allusions to masculinity intrigued me enough to purchase and read the book. I even gave the book to others to read. I found it very interesting. It's a riveting account of a rape, really a story about the strong taking advantage of the weak. The perpetrators were a group of athletes. The victim was a retarded girl. However, as time has passed and I reflect upon this book, I share alot of the views of those that have given the book negative reviews. I think alot of what's in the book is just plain unfair, plays on people's stereotypes about athletes and reflects the author's resentments against privilege. For instance, the party that trashed the girl's house didn't even involve the perpetrators. Instead, its suppose to reflect something about the callousness of an affluent suburb. I can't help but think that this author is using this terrible event as an indictment against socio-economic privilege. The perpetrators were from a privileged class: they lived in an affluent area and were part of a popular group, highschool athletes. They did reflect the town's values of materialism and athlete worship. However, it's just unfair to paint a whole town or class for the acts of a few. There are countless examples of less privileged people behaving badly. There are plenty of examples of evil acts by every socio-economic group. These hierarchies in our society reflect material wealth, not moral uprightness or moral turpitude (There may be some individuals who believe that material wealth is a reflection of one's moral superiority but their beliefs are just as wrong as the author's). Moreover, it seems to me that the author really resents the accolades the high school athletes receive and this resentment informs his narrative. For the author, it's the town of Glen Ridge or society which celebrates athleteism and materialism which appears to be as equally guilty as the perpetrators of a rape. Come on! Not only is that a huge leap in logic, but it's pandering to a resentment some feel against those who are more privileged or more popular. If the author dropped this underlying agenda, he would have had a more accurate account - but maybe not a sensational one.

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Summary: How true
Review: I have seen some reviewers complain that this book stereotypes the rich or panders to stereotypes against athletes. Let me say that those stereotypes exist for a reason, and that this author is dead on. The high school portrayed in the novel and its predatory athletes reminded me so much of my school that I couldn't put it down. The boys in the book were allowed to get away with everything their entire lives, thanks to their doting parents who spoiled them rotten, their teachers who sucked up to them because their trophies and awards made the school look good, and the girls that fawned over them because of their looks. They knew they could do whatever they wanted, which is why they decided to sadistically rape a mentally retarded girl. This kind of stuff goes on in many perfect suburban communities, featuring "All-American guys", except most of the time it doesn't make the news. An excellent book on a disturbing topic.

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Summary: unforgettable coverage of a surbuban scandal
Review: Sports is famously said to build character and school spirit, and help young people mature into admirable adults. But it can also promote violence against women and help young people cement an offputting sense of entitlement. Parents, teachers and other influential adults who look the other way with a "boys will boys" attitude can, in fact, do a great deal of harm, and this book shows just how.

The author's interest in the Glen Ridge scandal was first piqued when he realized that most of the town apparently supported the boys who sodomized a retarded girl. The girl herself was "asking for trouble." The boys would be scarred for life, it was said, having to undergo a trial.

The author's investigation uncovered a long history on the boys' part of deviant and inappropriate sexual behavior and bullying to peers and even adults. Despite sporadic attempts at discipline, the jocks were mainly permitted to do as they pleased. Until the trial, that is.

The author's sympathies are clearly with the girl, and the reader comes to realize that she is far from the Lolita portrayed by the opposing side's lawyer. In addition, the author uncovers statistics on the correlation between violence and male athletes, even breaking it down by sport. Highly recommended.

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Summary: Former Glen Ridge Resident
Review: This book is a riveting, carefully observed account of a vicious crime and the many efforts to cover it up. And it's the most truthful portrayal of the much-touted "family values" as you're likely to find. As for Steve Malave of Texas and others like him in these reader reviews, not content to deny the truth, they go out of their way to ridicule it as well (though the faux-legal theorizing and linguistic contortions are amusing). Unfortunately, denying the truth is a happy pastime in the culture of privilege. All the perks that go along with the exaltation of sports--everything from fixed parking tickets to unearned grades in class to assault and rape--are not only tolerated but promoted by millions of parents, teachers, officials, and fans. As excellent and responsible as Lefkowitz's effort is, nothing will change. The worship of "our guys" all over the country, even in the face of gross criminality, continues.

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Summary: Our Guys is an excellent book
Review: This book starts out very slow but it all makes sense once you get towards the ending. This book is great for everyone who has been through high school and remembers how the popular people got away with just about anything. This book lets you see how the jocks do horrible things to other kids in school and everyone is afraid to tell on them. This book really lets you look into the minds of parents who think their kids are perfect. I really enjoyed this book and am amazed at the ending.

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Summary: The Tragedy of Lionizing High School and College Sports
Review: This is a tragically true story of a young retarded woman in New Jersey who is raped by the "stars" of the town's football team. Some place in every high school curriculum, this book should be on a required reading list and it should be followed up by some serious discussion of the ethical issues presented in this true account of tragedy. If there is truth to the notion of teachable moments in life, there are many to be found in this book that could benefit every educator, student, parent and community member in this country.I would like to say that Bernard Lefkowitz did an outstanding job researching and preparing to write this compellingly true story. Six stars for Lefkowitz' courage and hard work!!! I well imagine he has received death threats as a result of this outstanding and socially significant book. As far as the reality of this documentary, it is a sad indictment of how we "talk the talk" of the ideals of secondary school athletics (and seemingly even worse, intercollegiate athletics), yet, we frequently fail to "walk the walk" to make sure that sports are complementary to the educational process and not of primary importance "in and of themselves" in an individual high school, college or community as a whole.We can look anywhere in this country -- certainly not just in New Jersey where this tragedy takes place and we can observe a twisted and sometimes seeminly pathologically sub-conscious agenda in the support of athletics. Sadly, I have witnessed this most often in the parents of athletes.At the end of this book, I couldn't help but feeling angry and sad about the whole story -- for the victim especially but also for the "star" rapists who had been misguided and used by their parents and their community.Probably more disgusting than the crime itself is the manner in which many members of this New Jersey community tried to minimize what occured by trying to avoid facing the truth about the dangers we create in the idolization of "high school jocks". While so many efforts have been made to improve athletics in the context of academics, there are still some sports that I believe tend to ultimately endanger the physical and emotional well being of kids because of some need their schools and towns have for winning teams and high school "heros."Typical American communities seem to have a tremendous need for winning teams -- most often in Football, increasingly Hockey and of course, Basketball. I mention these three because in my observation, they are often the sports that seem to bring out some of the worst traits in young people.In order of objectified and sanctioned "violence," I have to indict the first two, football and hockey, as among the worst.They are among the most finacially costly for schools to offer and beyond the violence, seem to demand the largest slice of the athletic department's funding. From equipment, to stadiums and rinks, they also have the highest liability insurance rates -- because more kids get physically hurt participating in these two sports than in any other sports that schools can offer. These "costs" don't even measure the potential for "emotional damage" that lots of former athletes suffer after their "stardom" ends.Yes, I understand the ideals of team play, of self discipline and all of the supposed positives of these two sports, I just don't buy it!I have observed first hand too much sanctioned violence on the field and in the stands to believe these sports stands the test of their supposed value. Most sadly, parents are often those screaming loudest for blood -- encouraging their sons and now their daughters to "hurt" the opposition. Supposedly there is no "checking" allowed in women's hockey. Watch a game; they'll take the two minute penalty over the regulation!The more violence, the more excited the fans seem to grow -- Is this something we want to encourage in the young men and women of our society? Some parents seem to be living out their own unmet dreams for themselves now somehow attainable only through their kids' victories. And to what end?The winners get to be "untouchable stars" that basically can do no wrong. That's the case I believe Lefkowitz makes most clearly in this outrageous documentary of violence permitted because of adolescent celebrity. Yes, the perpetrators finally received some consequences but in my estimation, far too little was done, far too late! And, I wonder whether anything has changed in that town?This book is a tremendous companion to one which Buzz Bizzinger wrote called "Friday Night Lights", about a town in Odessa, Texas where the entire community comes out for Football like zealots. While nothing as tragic takes place in ... Lights, as in "Our Guys", what is really clear in both books is how much we cheat kids by making them believe in themselves as "heros" at 16, 17 and 18 years of age -- only for them yet to realize that there's lots left to learn about life and at the end of high school, the star fades when they have outlived their "usefulness" and they're just an ordinary Joe or Jane who can't figure out what happened.Too often some of these "stars" never get over it and have lots of trouble comprehending how to move on in life in a positive manner. Lefkowitz has presented an outstanding work which documents a serious issue every parent, community member and educator needs to think a lot about. Without some lessons taken from Bernard Lefkowitz'tragic story, our society will certainly continue to fail our kids in helping them to develop a healthy, realistic and balanced sense of themselves and their place and tremendous potential for the greater good of our world. Let's not lose kids in early or late adolescence to the despair many now seem to experience when they realize the sun has set on their "stardom"!

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Summary: A Tale Ironically Repeating Itself on Long Island in 2003!
Review: This is a very worthy real as the trial begins for boys who were members of a Varsity Football Squad of a Long Island High School who allegedly "hazed" the Freshman team by sexually abusing some of them with broomksticks, pine cones and golf balls during Summer Football Camp held in Pennsylvania in August 2003. A community stands divided over the whole incident; broomsticks are being thrown at the victims in the parking lot of school; the football season was cancelled and coaches have been terminated. Yet, the healing hasn't even started. Another high school sports tragedy makes its indelible mark on the lives of many!

When high school and college sports have horror stories like the more recent one in 2003 and the earlier one, which Our Guys considers, there is something wrong! When parents and community members try to minimize it because the team's "shining lights" are involved, that's all the more tragic.

Our Guys is the true story of a young retarded woman in New Jersey who is raped by the "stars" of the town's football team. Some place in every high school curriculum, this book should be on a required reading list and it should be followed up by some serious discussion of the ethical issues presented in this true account of tragedy. If there is truth to the notion of teachable moments in life, there are many to be found in this book that could benefit every educator, student, parent and community member in this country. I would like to say that Bernard Lefkowitz did an outstanding job researching and preparing to write this compellingly true story. Six stars for Lefkowitz' courage and hard work!!! I well imagine he has received death threats as a result of this outstanding and socially significant book. As far as the reality of this documentary, it is a sad indictment of how we "talk the talk" of the ideals of secondary school athletics (and seemingly even worse, intercollegiate athletics), yet, we frequently fail to "walk the walk" to make sure that sports are complementary to the educational process and not of primary importance "in and of themselves" in an individual high school, college or community as a whole. We can look anywhere in this country -- certainly not just in New Jersey where this tragedy takes place and we can observe a twisted and sometimes seemingly pathologically sub-conscious agenda in the support of athletics. Sadly, I have witnessed this most often in the parents of athletes. At the end of this book, I couldn't help but feeling angry and sad about the whole story -- for the victim especially but also for the "star" rapists who had been misguided and used by their parents and their community. Probably more disgusting than the crime itself is the manner in which many members of this New Jersey community tried to minimize what occurred by trying to avoid facing the truth about the dangers we create in the idolization of "high school jocks". While so many efforts have been made to improve athletics in the context of academics, there are still some sports that I believe tend to ultimately endanger the physical and emotional well being of kids because of some need their schools and towns have for winning teams and high school "heroes." Typical American communities seem to have a tremendous need for winning teams -- most often in Football, increasingly Hockey and of course, Basketball. I mention these three because in my observation, they are often the sports that seem to bring out some of the worst traits in young people. In order of objectified and sanctioned "violence," I have to indict the first two, football and hockey, as among the worst. They are among the most financially costly for schools to offer and beyond the violence, seem to demand the largest slice of the athletic department's funding. From equipment, to stadiums and rinks, they also have the highest liability insurance rates -- because more kids get physically hurt participating in these two sports than in any other sports that schools can offer. These "costs" don't even measure the potential for "emotional damage" that lots of former athletes suffer after their "stardom" ends. Yes, I understand the ideals of team play, of self-discipline and all of the supposed positives of these two sports, I just don't buy it! I have observed first hand too much sanctioned violence on the field and in the stands to believe these sports stands the test of their supposed value. Most sadly, parents are often those screaming loudest for blood -- encouraging their sons and now their daughters to "hurt" the opposition. Supposedly there is no "checking" allowed in women's hockey. Watch a game; they'll take the two-minute penalty over the regulation! The more violence, the more excited the fans seem to grow -- Is this something we want to encourage in the young men and women of our society? Some parents seem to be living out their own unmet dreams for themselves now somehow attainable only through their kids' victories. And to what end? The winners get to be "untouchable stars" that basically can do no wrong. That's the case I believe Lefkowitz makes most clearly in this outrageous documentary of violence permitted because of adolescent celebrity. Yes, the perpetrator finally received some consequences but in my estimation, far too little was done, far too late! And, I wonder whether anything has changed in that town? This book is a tremendous companion to one that Buzz Bissinger wrote called "Friday Night Lights", about a town in Odessa, Texas where the entire community comes out for Football like zealots. While nothing as tragic takes place in ... Lights, as in "Our Guys", what is really clear in both books is how much we cheat kids by making them believe in themselves as "heroes" at 16, 17 and 18 years of age -- only for them yet to realize that there's lots left to learn about life and at the end of high school, the star fades when they have outlived their "usefulness" and they're just an ordinary Joe or Jane who can't figure out what happened. Too often some of these "stars" never get over it and have lots of trouble comprehending how to move on in life in a positive manner. Lefkowitz has presented an outstanding work which documents a serious issue every parent, community member and educator needs to think a lot about. Without some lessons taken from Bernard Lefkowitz' tragic story, our society will certainly continue to fail our kids in helping them to develop a healthy, realistic and balanced sense of themselves and their place and tremendous potential for the greater good of our world. Let's not lose kids in early or late adolescence to the despair many now seem to experience when they realize the sun has set on their "stardom"!

Daniel J. Maloney
Saint Paul, MN USA