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Summary: Absolutely essential
Review: If you have a family member in law enforcement, buy this book. It's useful not only for spouses, but also for children and any other family member with the time to read it.Dr Kirchman accurately and insightfully breaks down many of the hurdles and mysteries to surviving on the front lines, and I caught myself rarely disagreeing with anything in there. Police officers have been written about in droves, but this is the first book that I read that is aimed at their families. Surviving the streets is one thing, surviving the home front is quite another, and it's about time someone wrote this.
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Summary: Decent book
Review: It helped my wife understand myself a little better.
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Summary: Decent book
Review: Maybe this author should actually spend time with 'families' before she writes about them! I think there was maybe one good chapter and the rest was a bunch of "B.S."! She may have talked with cops but let's face it that hardly gives a true picture as to what it means to be married to and in a police family. Let's see how her book would change after being married and having a family with a cop for 10+ years. It is different on the "inside" and "outsiders" never are given the "whole story" NEVER! It is part of the "game" part of the life...keeping others out/protecting the 'family' the 'department family'.
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Summary: This book was AWFUL!
Review: Maybe this author should actually spend time with 'families' before she writes about them! I think there was maybe one good chapter and the rest was a bunch of "B.S."! She may have talked with cops but let's face it that hardly gives a true picture as to what it means to be married to and in a police family. Let's see how her book would change after being married and having a family with a cop for 10+ years. It is different on the "inside" and "outsiders" never are given the "whole story" NEVER! It is part of the "game" part of the life...keeping others out/protecting the 'family' the 'department family'.
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Summary: Excellent resource for law enforcement families!
Review: My husband is a veteran police officer with 11 years on the streets. I've been with him for 7 of those years. I would strongly recommend this book to anyone in the early stages of a relationship with a police officer or to anyone who just doesn't quite understand why living with a police officer is so much different than living with anyone else. It goes far beyond dealing with shift work & overtime! Being a police officer isn't just a job to the officer, it's who they are, not simply what they do for a living. The uniform & badge may come off, but he or she is still a police officer. In itself, that's very difficult to get accustomed to living with on a daily basis. It's definitely a book that every law enforcement family needs to read..and it's a great reference book as well.
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Summary: A must read for the family members or loved ones of a cop
Review: This book is an excellent resource for the families and/or loved ones of police officers. It goes into great detail about the psychological and emotional changes that all law enforcement personnel go through during their years on the job. The author helps you to understand and learn to cope with these changes. She also addresses the personal dangers the sometimes come with this type of high-risk job, i.e. alcohol/drug abuse and domestic abuse. There is also a special section on the added challenges that face women, minority and gay/lesbian cops, as well as cop couples.
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Summary: Not What I Expected From The Other Reviews
Review: This book is excellent only if you love a cop who is either abusive, an alcoholic or who has been shot. I am married to a caring and happy law enforcement officer and it didn't apply. Only 60 or so pages covers some of the everyday stresses of a cop's life, which is why I bought the book. Even that section didn't help me to empathize with the difficulties of my husband's job because it told stories anyone could guess existed. The rest covered how to identify abuse, alcoholism, and extreme emotional difficulties like how to identify if someone is at risk for suicide. This book will scare anyone away from the thought of entering law enforcement. They'll think they will inevitably turn into a monster. I want my money back.
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Summary: I Love A Cop
Review: THis book was insightful to me as someone whose father was a cop for thirty years, advised me to never date a cop, and I reached the age of 40 before I decided to ignore my dad's advice. I wish the book had focused more on dating, particularly, since the divorce rate is so high which likely means there are a significant number of police who are in relationships vs. marriage. Because I am not married to him, the support groups are minimal. After dating ( 8 months) this 44 year old cop who's been on the force for 23 years, I was shocked to learn of his "secret" life of spending time in Reno and areas outside of Sacramento where there are numerous girlie type clubs and where there is illicit sexual activity. The author touched upon some of this, however, I am hoping that she will come out with another book that addresses some of these issues more in depth. Because of his experiences, our sexual life has become difficult as it appears to represent a kind of activity commensurate with the action of police life. More definitely needs to be written on the subject of being in relationship with a police. I Love A Cop represents a good beginning. Incidentally, I gave the book to him for reading and he was taken aback by some of the candor that allowed him to see elements of himself.
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Summary: A Must Read for All Cop Families
Review: This book was recommended to me by a fellow cop wife. I finally read it, and was so relieved. Many of the things that I have been dealing with over the last 6 years, she addressed in the book. I came to realize that I'm not coping with issues that are unique. The life of a cop wife and family is not easy, but we are not alone. I truly believe that this should be mandatory reading for all families of police officers, new and old.
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Summary: A bold a highly useful tool
Review: This is a book which can do a great deal of good in heading off possible problems in police family relationships. The truth is not always easy to deal with, but preparation by exposure in a work like this is far preferable to the disasters which may come when unprepared. This is a needed tool. I recommend this to police and their families. Wayne D. Ford, Ph.D., author of "Managing Police Stress" docwifford@msn.com
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