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Summary: Managing divorce without the usual traumas
Review: A clearly written book that tells you what to do and how to avoid the legal traps that can get you caught up in a web of anger, endless money (to the lawyers),and frustration. Everyone should read it before they make a mess of their divorce. Hats off to Margulies.
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Summary: Get this one - even before considering divorce
Review: After my wife told me she wanted a divorce, I bought several divorce books and all were reasonably helpful. Then I stumbled on this one. It puts all the rest to shame. I wish I had found it earlier in the process, and am grateful to have found it when we have given only $5000 to lawyers who have done nothing but confuse the issues. If you even think you might ever get divorced, get this book. I wish I had read it years ago--I may have been able to prevent my divorce!
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Summary: The Win-Win-Win Divorce - a New Paradigm for the Future
Review: Everyone wins: the husband, the wife, the kids, and yes, even the lawyers, because Sam Margulies illuminates the way. It has been 6 years since our divorce, and I am delighted to report that everyone is happy and speaking to each other, and the children have great emotional health. The goal is to optimize everyone's chances for future happiness, and especially, to do nothing to cause further grief. Thanks to one section of the book, I negotiated half alimony if I remarried, and a return to full alimony if that marriage resulted in a divorce. We all agreed that this pension-like plan was fair because I spent 30 years helping my physician husband develop his career when I could have been developing my own. Friends and family say that my ex-husband and I had the best divorce they ever heard of!
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Summary: A very readable, compassionate, and helpful book
Review: Having made the painful decision to divorce, I am trying to do it in the "best" way possible, in terms of the effect on our children. Being a lawyer myself, I understand first-hand what a poor solution litigation is to family problems. The author makes the very valid point that the legal process is liable to lead you to take actions that are contrary to your long-term interests: an effective parenting plan, the maximum financial benefit, and emotional health and well-being. Legal battles drive you apart, escalate conflict, and cost a lot of money. He suggests negotiation as an alternative, and provides a blueprint for the process.One caveat: some of the information in this edition is slightly out of date, since it is from 1991. Also, if you are in a community property state, much of the advice on dividing up the marital estate is going to be inapplicable.
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Summary: How to avoid responsibility in a divorce
Review: Infuriating. This entire book embodies and preaches the concept that in a divorce there can be no concept of fault, no acknowledgement of the pain caused - just live and let live, turn the other cheek, etc. I question deeply how the author can believe that if your spouse has cheated on you and walked out of a marriage that you can best not "ruin your life" by giving your spouse whatever he/she wants. Basically this is the entire strategy advocated througout the text. This is a book written for the person who breaks up a marriage and strongly advocates that persons needs to the exclusion of those individuals being divorced. This book does not help those left behind. Its fine and dandy for selfish people, though.
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Summary: I saved thousands!
Review: Many of our friends have spent thousands on lawyer fees and ended up frustrated and bitter. Following Sam Margulies' advice, we were able to work out an equitable divorce settlement that was approved by the court within a month of the final divorce decree. Our total fees were less than $1000.00, and our relationship has remained good enough to make decisions about our children together with the kids' best interests in mind. Unlike others we know, we've both been able to move on with our separate lives.
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Summary: My kids are glad that I read this book
Review: My kids are happy because their father and I have had a truly amicable divorce. We work cooperatively as parents, so our kids have adjusted well although the situation has been painful for them (and for us). This book helped us to work out tricky custody and financial issues. It helped us avoid costly adversarial litigation. The book is sensible, down-to-earth and filled with good solid advice. We were fortunate enough to live in close proximity to one of Dr. Margulies' two locations of practice (NJ and NC) and to work with him personally on issues we could not resolve on our own. He is as excellent in person as he is in print! He has a good sense of humor, lots of compassion and a wealth of experience in dealing with sensitive subjects. I highly recommend the book, and I also recommend him as a mediator.
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Summary: A must-read sanity-saver for anyone getting divorced!
Review: This book is worth it's weight in gold. It covers all there is to know about divorce: financial, custody/visitation, legal, how to deal with lawyers, emotional, and practical aspects. My ex recommended it to me, and it was amazing help in getting through the process -- I only wish she had read it more herself!
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Summary: solid advice
Review: This book offers solid, specific advice for handling your divorce constructively. Highly recommended...I've sent several copies to friends.
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Summary: solid advice
Review: This book offers solid, specific advice for handling your divorce constructively. Highly recommended...I've sent several copies to friends.
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