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Summary: yea but who does it help
Review: I'd think about buying this book for some personal issues but all I read about in reviews is how it helps women deal with pa men/husband/bosses, etal. It might even help the pa male recognize himself. But if it even does accomplish that does it help him work through them or just make him feel worse for his efforts to understand himself? Pls don't forget; the pa was a victim (imposed on by others)of his OWN pa for years before you were the "incidental victim". He/She has had to struggle with not only his/her own internal problems but with the world he neither understands nor where he is understood. I can find NOTHING for men OR women who want to work through some pa tendencies (not necessarily full-blown papd). Can anyone recommend this book or another RECENT book for those of us who are NOT the victim but the unintentional victimizer?
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Summary: In the "Twilight Zone"
Review: I've been married for under a year and wondered where the "nice guy" went that I had married. When I read this book, I found out how my husband had used my "trigger points" to win me over to get married and now was using them against me with his passive aggressive behavior. The emotional see-saw I was on was not imagined. Now, all I have to do is decided to cut my losses, or stay.
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Summary: True eye-opener
Review: I've been married to a passive-aggressive man for 16 years, and until I started reading this book, I didn't know what the problem was. I'd just about thrown in the towel, but this book gives me hope. The book is well researched, accessible, practical, and definitely _not_ your standard self-help psychobabble. It's a lifesaver for women like me who want to preserve and improve our marriages, but who didn't know how. Maybe we've still got a fighting chance.
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Summary: Should be required reading for every woman in America!
Review: If you're on the dating scene and you've thought you were making progress with a relationship--only to have the guy start getting cold feet, or your formerly passionate husband has become incommunicative and disinterested, then you need to read Living with the Passive-Aggressive Man. All will become clear within 200 pages. The passive-aggesive personality disorder in men is reaching epidemic proportions in this country, due to the fact that most American men over 30 were raised with one set of values (women should be submissive and stay at home) and are today supposed to live with another set of values (women are men's equal and should follow their own ideas). And then there are all the p/a's who inherited their problems from upbringing by troubled parents. All I know is that every single one of my female friends has pondered "how can you possibly understand men?" Well, Scott Wetzler does, and explains their inexplicable p/a behavior. I thought it was interesting that the negative reviews of this book were all by men--no doubt guys who had had the book given to them because they had a problem, and as the book says, are incapable of taking responsibility for their actions! I found it chilling that Dr. Wetzler described my husband as if he knew him personally. The problems that I had blamed myself for were all there: the abstinence, the emotional withdrawal, the subtle criticisms, the narcissim. What a huge relief to know that all this was not my fault!
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Summary: I now realize that passive-agression CAN be controlled.
Review: It's been 5 years since I read this book, and I consider myself and my husband one of Dr. Wetzler's "success stories". Dr. Wetzler showed me that while I didn't CREATE a passive-agressive man (mama did!), I certainly contributed to the problem. This book is NOT about changing your man; it's about setting limits on his behavior, and then letting him run his own life. He explained that it takes two to tango, and I finally understood that MY attitude had to change. I now know to let my husband run his own life. I no longer speak for him, lie for him, or make his decisions for him. If something is on his mind, I encourage him to speak up. I took Dr. Wetzler's advice and backed off. My husband knows that I am on his side, ALWAYS, and that his opinions count. As a result, he is now President of his own company, and seems to have no trouble expressing himself. (Although he does complain alot!) I have even noticed that people no longer refer to him as a "NICE" guy when they meet him. He is very well respected, with a new sense of confidence. He is like a new man. One last thing to remember: Passive-agressive men cannot be "completely cured"; but reducing his antics to occassional white lies is more than I expected! This is probably the most important book I have ever read.
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Summary: floundering
Review: My mouth literally fell open when I read this book. Everything was there.... I knew something wasn't right with my ex-husbamd but could only find bits and pieces of the puzzle.. until I read this book. It explained everything. Very comprehensive, insightful, and indeed helpful, if not truly lifesaving (emotionally). Things that my ex even SAID was in there. Talk about spooky. After reading the other reviews, and not wanting to be redundant (the others certainly have captured the essence of the breed), I will just say that these "nice guys" really have a way of making you feel as though your wrong, crazy, too sensitive, and they are just victims of your unjustified tirades. After reading this book I regained my self-esteem, found my emotional footing and never looked back. I strongly recommend this book to any woman who has to deal with a "(p)assive-aggressive" male. It is worth every penny!
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Summary: Living With Passive-Agressive Man
Review: Poorly explained and difficult to read. THe author writes in a way that take so long to get to the point. Also, like he never put women as a passive agressive people. This is wrong.
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Summary: Passive Aggressive behavior can be in both men and women.
Review: Scott Wetzler would have had better luck selling his book had he titled it "Living with a Passive Aggressive Person". It seems really unfair of him that he kept the book focused on men with Passive Aggressive disorder. I have met Passive Aggressive women in the work place as well. He states on page 17 that men are passive aggressive in especially destructive and clumsy ways, upsetting or ruining love and work relationships. And goes on to say that women pose less of a threat with this problem because of the way they are brought up. This is a obsurd statement because you are either passive aggressive or not passive aggressive. The DSM/IV gives the issues regarding P/A. You either have it or you don't. If you are a women that has it you are dealing with the same behavior as a man that has it. The DSM/IV does not have two sets of criterion, one for men and one for women,it only has one set. Is he really trying to imply that men are somehow different in how they display Passive Aggressive behavior?
I would not have bought this book had I noticed this anti-male slant.
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Summary: Longer than "Men, can't shoot 'em," but about as helpful
Review: The descriptions of the passive agressive male and his behaviors were dead-on, but the explanation of their motivations was unhelpful & didn't seem plausible in many situations that I have personally experienced. Then, instead of saying "Here is how to get a passive agressive man to communicate/do what he said he was going to do/behave appropriately," Wetzler turned around and said that it is all the fault of the women who choose PA men as partners, employees, coworkers, or whatever; that there are 3 basic flawed female personality types who are drawn to PA's. So he blames women for enabling and perpetuating passive agressive male behavior. One of his examples of a typical passive agressive male & his female enabler was of the man who says he will do dishes and fails to do so for several nights in a row. We all know the end of this story: the woman eventually gets tired of reminding the man about his promise and disgusted with the mess so she does the dishes herself. Wetzler gives no suggestions as to how to resolve this in a way which curbs the passive agressive relationship cycle. (hire a housekeeper? nag the man incessantly until you are sick of hearing your own voice? serve him with divorce papers? ignore the dishes until the vermin chase you out of your home? WHAT?) His final conclusion is that there's nothing a normal person can do to circumvent passive agressive nastiness, that PA men must go to a qualified therapist. Well, gee, thanks Scott. Did ya get that, people? Save the money you would spend on this book & send your passive agressive man to therapy instead!
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Summary: The best book about passive-aggression hasn't been published
Review: This book helped me identify what's wrong between me and my husband. However, it's sarcastically anti-male and rather anecdotal. I'd like to see a book based on research, and which puts this problem in a broader social context. I really wonder if people with this problem can change....
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