Dangerous Marriage: Breaking the Cycle of Domestic Violence

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Summary: Pure Exploitation and gross misunderstanding of abuse
Review: I just discovered this book.

It seems the McDills have exploited their contact with abused persons, and the abused people Mr. McDill saw in his practice. Another's review, saying "This book is about the man who brutalizes his wife and children" is somewhat accurate, but with the McDill's personal experience of having a best friend who is an abuser, and unethically taking his daughter's case on, and not letting her know until the trial against his friend is an outrage in and of itself!

To seemingly further exploit the abused by writing a book to deal with their own psychological illness, and riding their sales on the backs of people who were already abused is about as unethical as you can get, especially when these people were harmed by McDill in his own practice, him not revealing to his client, an abused child and having letters from this persons other family members about the abuse, that he was very good friends with the abuser.

Seeing as Mr. McDill is a psychologist in Tehachapi, CA, the psychology board needs to take a hard look at this man's fitness to practice in the field of psychology.

While it may apear to be a handbook for help, it is nothing more than another [ruse] ,on others backs, to exploit those he has already hurt once again.

Don't take it anymore, Mr. McDill? (or "Brick", or "Doctor", as you would like to be called?) PLEASE! See a psychiatrist yourself, quit harming people, and for God's sake, if you have a Christian bone in your body, as you say in your book, please leave the psychology field before you damage more people than you already have by this exploitation. Shame on you! You amaze me!

This is not Christian at all, and to use Christianity as a "sales point" (you were always good with marketing) is sickening. Quit exploiting people! Perhaps you'd do better working in marketing! You ARE good at that, but a severe failure at helping people without hurting those who you took the 'Hippocratic Oath.'

While your grandious idea that abused women should 'take the children and run' sounds good on the surface, it shows you have a clear misunderstanding of how many abusers also abuse the legal system, especially where a woman does not have the resources to leave! And if they don't it's THEIR fault for staying? I think not! The 'system' fails all too often in this area. And where are the children left when this occurs? Abused along with the wife, who is often thrown out of the house through abuse of the legal system and the children are left in the home, as many abusers refuse to relinquish custody, and fight tooth and nail for it, often on the back of being 'upstanding Christians' to look good for the courts. The woman and the children are often abused through the system, are found reguardless of where they go, and cannot buy the best legal council, as many well-to-do abusers can.

And what about women who abuse? I suppose you decided they simply do not exist? Are you delusional?

For everyone's sake, Mr. McDill, PLEASE do everyone a favor and get out of the business of trying to 'help' people. You've done enough harm to your patients by exploiting them for your own personal gain by writing such garbage. Did you even ask one single person you exploited if it was O.K. to use thier story? (I didn't think so.)

Did you tell you patients in Tehachapi that you consort with those who abuse them in your personal life? (I didn't think so!)

You've been hurting people for what, just over 10 years now? PLEASE S.R. McDill,Jr., STOP IT! Stop hurting people!

Rating:
Summary: An easy and insightful read
Review: I'm really not sure what 'a reader from C.A.' is talking about. This book is really good and very insightful. One of my best friends is in an abusive marriage and it helped me understand more. The book uses case study and psychology and looks at a biblical perspective. It is a great book and offers practical ways to help. A great book.

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Summary: This is an excellent resource
Review: This book has been a profound help to me. I had been in an abusive marriage for a long time and it is about time that there was a book that could handle this appropriately from a Christian perspective.

The advice is sound.

Rating:
Summary: An easy and insightful read
Review: This is the best book I've seen on the subject of domestic violence (and I've read my share.) What sets "Dangerous Marriage" apart is insight into the spiritual side of people. I also respect the fact that they admit most people (yes, even most Christians) are ignorant regarding this subject, yet their intent is to encourage, not to condemn the church. I hope that more people will read this book and realize that violence against women and children is intolerable, and that true love stands up and says no. When women absolutely refuse to let thier children be terrorized, and when they decide to protect themselves FOR THE SAKE of their children, they are loving their husbands in an eternally lasting way.

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