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Summary: I needed it
Review: "Show me a couple who has a mutually satisfying sexual relationship and I'll show you a couple I can pick out of a crowd. There's an almost visible bond between them-the gentle touches, knowing glances, laughter and warmth when their eyes meet. You can feel the connection between them." (Davis, p. 32)
How many couples miss this with their partner? Sex becomes a chronic source of tension in too many relationships. One partner has a high drive; the other one has a "leave me alone" attitude. Michele Davis offers excellent advice for those wanting to rekindle their sexual relationship and strengthen their marriage. She makes astute observations, such as noting the assumption many woman have that their husbands want sex because "having sex is like scratching an itch; it's a purely physical need." She continues,"I am convinced that one of the grossest misunderstandings about sex is the belief many women have that men desire sex because they just want, or better yet, need a physical release. It's true that men (and some women) love an occasional quickie without much emotional hoopla. However I've been privileged to hear men describe the way they really feel when their wives aren't' interested. And if you've assumed that your husband wants sex just to "get off," what I've heard will undoubtedly surprise you." (David, p. 56-7)
This book is an easy read, with plenty of relatable examples and excellent tips, i.e., sexy solutions. Davis has an excellent understanding of both partner's dilemmas and she bridges the understanding and communication gap that so often leads couples to divorce or to suffer unhappy marriages. She helps you recapture that mutually satisfying sexual relationship, and more broadly, that soulmate relationship, you may have lost with your partner.
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Summary: What a great book!
Review: Finally! Someone is speaking the truth about men who just aren't interested. All you ever hear is that women aren't in the mood for sex. In my marriage of 28 years, it's always been my husband who has no interest in our sex life. This has been very painful and made even more painful by the fact that I have felt so alone. Because no one else talks about men not craving sex, I've spent that last 28 years wondering what's wrong with me! Now I know I'm not alone. This book really gave me a boost. It also helped me see that I don't always handle this situation the best way. I am going to re-read it and ask my husband to read it too. It really is a guide for couples, just like the title suggests. What a relief!
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Summary: there is help!
Review: I am a 38 year-old, attractive woman whose husband could care less about touching, caressing or making love to me. Until I read this book, I thought I had the only marriage in America that was a pretty much platonic. It's not that we have no sex, it's just that it is so infrequent (and always me that has to initiate) - that this makes me feel less than womanly. I don't want to spend the rest of my life in this kind of a marriage. Now, after reading this book, I've learned that I am not alone and I am forever grateful for that. Even though other men still seem to be attracted to me, I had convinced myself that there must be something wrong with me. Now I don't think so anymore. I also learned that I've probably been doing all the wrong things to change the situation. I plan on changing my approach immediately. I get very angry and critical and I can now see how that turns my husband away. I feel much better already knowing that I have a plan. I highly recommend that anyone dealing with this issue in their marriage read this book. It's well-written and it will make you feel that the author has been hanging around your bedroom. For me, this book is a Godsend.
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Summary: WRONGLY TITLED: RIGHTLY WRITTEN
Review: I have not read the entire book--only bits and pieces while at different book-stores. And I know why I am hesitating in purchasing it just yet: a. The marriage of the friends for whom I want to buy the book is at a very early stage, and maybe they dont need this book just yet.
b. But the bigger reason is the title of the book. Using the word 'starved' has made it appear as a one-sided book---a book only for those whose libido is high----whereas typically the low-libido person needs to read this book also, since s/he needs to u.stand how her/his insensitivity to the sexual needs of her/his partner, can be ruining an otherwise happy marriage.
The 'starved' seems to spell only the 'deprived' partner's state, whereas in as much as it takes 2 to tango (and make love), both people need to be addressed. Infact, inside the covers, the book does precisely that----its a very well written book, with equal sections for both the people. Thus it should be definitely a very useful book for both partners.
Maybe a title like: 'SEX-DEVOID MARRIAGE' sounds more neutral in its approach.
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Summary: True insight
Review: I teared up as soon as I read into the first paragraph of the book (and then many times throughout), because it could not have been written any better. I felt the book was speaking for me, and it gave me a relief of knowing that I am not alone, and that somebody understands me.
I think that people who try to apply the advice from this book, and they immediately see positive results, are lucky. I am only hoping that my partner would read the book, and undertand how deeply I have been hurt over the years by being continuously rejected.
Thank you Ms. Davis for this true book!
P.S. The earlier one-star review is totally off the mark. I think it referred to some other book. This book has no discussion of sex techniques whatsoever.
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Summary: It works
Review: I thought the problems were all my husband's because he was the one who was un-interested in sex. I thought everything was fine in our relationship except for our sex life. But when I read this book, I realized it was MY behaviors that caused our problems. I related to so many passages, and was frequently enlightened. I was so quick to blame him, but it was really myself who was to blame. I had never attributed the problems in our reltionship to the problems in the bedroom. Since reading this book, I have made many changes in my behavior and in my actions. My husband has commented several times about the changes I've made, and I can feel all the love and attraction coming back. We made love recently for the first time in months! I truly belive this book has been a vital step in saving my marriage and rekindling the love. THANK YOU Ms. Weiner Davis! I definintely recommend this book to others, and I will also shop for other books by this author.
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Summary: Simple to understand
Review: My husband begged me to read this after we had a baby. He was right that we weren't really at the same place just then. The writer doesn't use a lot of psychobabble and the gist is easy to understand and follow. Things won't magically get better overnight, but just recognizing our different needs has made it much better already.
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Summary: I needed it
Review: Thanks for writing this book. I saw a lot of our relationship in the things you have written and over the past six months our sex life has improved dramatically thanks to the knowledge you have shared and the other book we bought, 500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets which really made it a lot more fun and interesting for us.
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Summary: Good book
Review: The book provides excellent insight into the low sex drive female. It really does not provide enough helpful information to those of us women who are "over-sexed". i have already tried many of the suggestions given. They have not worked. i will say that this book did help me identity several unhelpful behaviors. but i realize that a man o woman who will not go to counseling and doesn't want to talk about it, will not change with this book.
I also recommend Sex and the perfect lover by Mabel Iam por save a couple of the routine.
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