Rating: 
Summary: Very Sad
Review: Look, nice is the cherry on top. When women get together and talk about their boyfriends and one woman says "my bf is an a__hole" the other women don't sigh and go "ohhhh you're so lucky". But if that woman went "oh he brings me flowers, he cooks for me, he tucks me in" guess what... other women sigh and go "I wish I had a guy like that". However, too many men confuse NICE with BORING. Dude, nice is great but nice + being able to carry on a conversation + not being an attention puppy + having a interesting job + an interesting range of friends is where it really IS at. Nice men do get the girl. But nice wall flowers don't. The only reason a__holes get the girl is because they actually try for her. As a woman friend said "if nice guys finish last it's only because they insist on the woman carrying them over the finish line."Okay you're very very good at self assessing yourself as "nice" but are you good at seriously assessing yourself as "interesting"? Do you wear a football jersey more than once a month? Do you only like hamburgers? C'mon ask yourself some basic questions. Great you gave a woman coworker flowers once and she didn't date you. Yeah I guess you have to be just a super nice guy and this is clear evidence that women don't date nice guys. And seriously, dudes, ask yourself how many plain Janes *you* chase because they're nice. If a bitchy porn actress said "right now buddy you and me" you'd probably have a hard time saying no. Why? Because you're getting it good in the sack! You think women are any different? Why do you expect women to over look facts like you're fat, you're ugly, you smell bad, you don't dress well, you're lazy, you're probably boring in bed all because, gosh, you're nice! Face it, dudes, we all want the same thing: we want someone who makes our knees weak, someone that makes our insides tingle. Nice is great but nice isn't the core of human attraction.
Rating: 
Summary: A good book, by any standard.
Review: No More Mr. Nice Guy was the perfect book for me. As a former Nice Guy who was depressed and suicidal for many years, this book changed (and possibly saved) my life. A lot of it is not for everyone. The book very specifically it targets males who seek approval from others (mostly women) for all the wrong reasons, and seeks to help them overcome this unhealthy behavior. Part of the book describes common approval-seeking behaviors, part of it goes into the (mostly Freudian) psychology behind why the author thinks that some men behave this way, and part of the book gives exercises with which to help Nice Guys get over their problem and get what they want from life. There are plenty of real-men examples, too, to compare yourself against. One of the fundamental premises behind being a Nice Guy is that you feel that something is inherently wrong with you and your life and there is something that you must do or find or something out there that will make your life work somehow. If that describes the way you think, by all means buy this book. If not, you can still get some good use out of the common approval-seeking behaviors and psychology stuff. It's interesting to see how many people out there really do things for approval. The method to get over it works, if you can make yourself do it. It's not an easy thing to deal with. I know.
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Summary: Life-changing
Review: So far, reviewers aren't doing this book justice. I picked it up six months ago and was amazed at how well it described my plight as a "nice guy" (a.k.a. codependent). I've read stacks of self-help books, but this one stands above the rest. I mean it, it stands out, by far. And several guys I know who've read the book feel the same way. This book fully described what I've been going through, told me how things got to be this way, and gave me concrete steps on how to change things. Since I've read it, my life has improved, I feel better, more powerful, and people are responding to me in a new way. If you're a guy walking through life feeling frustrated that you don't get the love, respect, and sex you deserve, you owe it to yourself to read this book.
Rating:
Summary: Life-changing
Review: So far, reviewers aren't doing this book justice. I picked it up six months ago and was amazed at how well it described my plight as a "nice guy" (a.k.a. codependent). I've read stacks of self-help books, but this one stands above the rest. I mean it, it stands out, by far. And several guys I know who've read the book feel the same way. This book fully described what I've been going through, told me how things got to be this way, and gave me concrete steps on how to change things. Since I've read it, my life has improved, I feel better, more powerful, and people are responding to me in a new way. If you're a guy walking through life feeling frustrated that you don't get the love, respect, and sex you deserve, you owe it to yourself to read this book.
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Summary: A Catchy Title and a Quick Read
Review: This book is based a false premise. The author notes correctly that many people use "niceness" as a means to manipulate others, and that people using a veneer of niceness to manipulate others often end up hurting themselves and their loved ones. The author is even correct in the diagnosis that the cure for this problem is learning to be true to yourself. Unfortunately, the book carries the thesis that the problem is in being nice. This is his false premise. The real problem is that people who use kindness to manipulate others are manipulative. The problems that the author faced in his life and that he sees in many of his clients is that they are extremely manipulative. The minor thesis of and major promise of the book is that, if a nice guy stops being "nice" to others, he will get more sex, and learn to bend others to his will. The unfortunate implication of this minor thesis is that it just turns the client from one type of manipulator into another. The book is an extremely quick and easy read in pop-psychology genre. The main words of wisdom are to be true to yourself. I was dismayed to see the work fortifying the belief that all human kindness is just a way to manipulate others, and that we need to always question the motivation of others. Sometimes kindness is just kindness. The book tries to label niceness as a disease needing a cure. This makes for a catchy title and a niche in the pop psychology market, but what little wisdom the author has to share is twisted in the works poor logic, I really couldn't give the book more than a two.
Rating: 
Summary: A bit abstract, but very legible
Review: This book was highly recommended by a friend of mine. Although it does not affect me as much as it did him, I must concede that books that deal with abstract issues such as this one does, with its psychoanalytical subject, often can leave the reader feeling confused and left in the dust. I feel this is particularly true when the books address a need the reader does not personally feel very strongly, as is the case with me and this book. That is not to see the book is without merit or features that appealed to me. For starters, the publishers of "No More Mr. Nice Guy" wisely chose an aesthetically pleasing bookbinding where the pages are neatly collated snd evenly trimmed. The glue also the pages together very admirably. I especially was pleased with their use of a Serifs font. (I believe it was Garamond, a font that revolutionized print media with the facility with which the eye absorbs words printed in it.) The point size also was appropriately chosen; I did not need a magnifying glass to make out the words, nor did I feel like I was reading a "moo-moo" edition of a big with overlarge type. Although I cannot comment on the book's long-term durability, I will say that the print edition was pleasantly free of the glare that accompanies the electronic edition. In short, if you are looking for a book to help you understand how to express your emotional, mental and social needs as a male -- and most of all, if you want a book that is pleasing to the eye -- I must recommend "No More Mr. Nice Guy."
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