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Summary: MANY PSYCHOTHERAPY CLIENTS NEED THIS BOOK
Review: As a therapist, I have seen guilt ridden male clients open up and claim their change process after reading No More Mr. Nice. Guy. The level of guilt and shame imposed by our culture, which views men as bad and women as good, prevents many men from stepping into their lives, becoming successful, and not being manipulated by women. Therapists with such men as clients can find their work moving much faster once clients have read this book. I have had many who read it several times, with much underlining and high lighting.
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Summary: MANY PSYCHOTHERAPY CLIENTS NEED THIS BOOK
Review: As a therapist, I have seen guilt ridden male clients open up and claim their change process after reading No More Mr. Nice. Guy. The level of guilt and shame imposed by our culture, which views men as bad and women as good, prevents many men from stepping into their lives, becoming successful, and not being manipulated by women. Therapists with such men as clients can find their work moving much faster once clients have read this book. I have had many who read it several times, with much underlining and high lighting.
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Summary: I had some questions answered by this book
Review: I have known for some time that many of the paradigms that I have grown up with and that I hold today weren't correct but never before have I found a book that offers such a complete explanation of why my ideas of how the world works are flawed. Dr. Glover offers a professional explanation of what is missing in so many men's lives today.
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Summary: Practical and accurate
Review: I have read books like Wild at Heart, but have not seen anything as practical and accurate as this book is. As a male Baby-Boomer born in 1957, I have often felt something was just not right in society. Now I have found another part of that explanation. This book also helped me see why many clergy organizations and local churches seem to be full of Nice Guys, but are not reaching or developing authentic men. For me this was a great book to read and I hope others will read it too.
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Summary: Finally
Review: I have struggled with many, many insecurities my whole life. The most problematic have caused me to never have a fulfilling relationship with a woman. This book has finally given me some insight into exactly what is wrong, where it came from, and most importantly... how to fix it. There are no overnight cures but at least now, I know what I need to do to start getting better. Only a few days after reading it, I can tell that my attitude is starting to change for the better. I have a long way to go and his website includes an online support group that has furthered the healing and will provide continued support. On the website, I have even been able to find a support group in town that I plan to attend.
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Summary: Finally
Review: I have struggled with many, many insecurities my whole life. The most problematic have caused me to never have a fulfilling relationship with a woman. This book has finally given me some insight into exactly what is wrong, where it came from, and most importantly... how to fix it. There are no overnight cures but at least now, I know what I need to do to start getting better. Only a few days after reading it, I can tell that my attitude is starting to change for the better. I have a long way to go and his website includes an online support group that has furthered the healing and will provide continued support. On the website, I have even been able to find a support group in town that I plan to attend.
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Summary: Why Being a Nice Guy is not necessarily ?nice.?
Review: I own both the PDF and the soft cover versions of the book. `Just glanced at the reviews as I was checking on the hard cover version. As is frequently the case when reading reviews of books you have read you wonder if some others have read the same book!Some of the misunderstanding, I suspect, comes from the concepts and definitions of "Nice Guy." If you define, "Nice Guy" as Dr. Glover does (and/or notices how he defines his terms) then you may be more inclined to understand and/or accept his hypothesis. In the years prior to my becoming aware of and acquiring Dr. Glover's book I paid particular interest to the Internet Newsgroup discussions of the "Nice Guy" vs. "The Jerk" in social relations (singles in particular) . Through at the very least several hundred if not one or two thousand messages I could see that the various comments and exchanges (some shall we say "heated") were closing in on "something." That something was not very clear, but the concept of a "Good Guy" vs. the "Nice Guy" started to emerge. I think what the discussion groups were coming close to hitting on is what Dr. Glover calls the "Integrated Man." Dr. Glover does not claim to have discovered some new psychological phenomenon as far as I can tell. Rather, he noticed, documented and analyzed the thoughts and behaviors of some the men in his practice. Having noticed a common thread of thoughts and behaviors which seem to be limiting the productivity and happiness of the men (and their families) he was dealing with he went about working on developing a means of describing the thought processes behind them and how to deal with them. If you substituted, "Man or Person engaged in thoughts and behaviors which self limit personal happiness and productivity" for "Nice Guy..." You might have a more properly descriptive title for the book (and a greater challenge fitting it on the cover). Through example and explanation of various clients Dr. Glover discusses the various beliefs he thinks drive certain "Nice Guy" behaviors like excessive self-sacrifice; giving with the hidden agenda (covert contracts as he calls them) of getting something; not taking responsibility for fulfilling your own needs like a responsible adult, etc. Some resistance to the book could very well be due to the title. After all, who would think "being nice" is not a good thing?? Perhaps another alternate title for the book could be "How to be an AUTHENTICALLY Nice Guy who is true to himself and the people around him." Once the operating concepts (or paradigms) of "Nice Guys" and their respective outward manifestations are identified; he goes about explaining how such thoughts and behaviors could have come about. Then he leads you through a series of exercises, distributed throughout the book, to help you overcome those self-limiting beliefs and behaviors. No More Mr. Nice Guy is not a perfect book. I quibble with some of the explanations or origins of some of the behaviors or beliefs he gives. The outward happiness and productivity limiting behaviors tend to be right on target however! At no point does he promise a "quick fix" or instant success. He does do an excellent job of providing insight and suggestions for improvement.
Many books can enhance your personal productivity and happiness. Which one or ones is/are right for you is almost totality dependent on your personal needs, experience, and current knowledge. Many books came before this one in my life. Another favorite is Play to Win by Wilson and Wilson. If a person (certainly not really limited to "guys") finds themselves searching for information to help understand their feeling and results in life (especially if you have been told many times you're a "Nice Guy") then No More Mr. Nice Guy is an EXCELLENT book to check out and compare to your own experience. I think you will find insight into parts of your life you may not have even thought to look into!
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Summary: Why Being a Nice Guy is not necessarily ¿nice.¿
Review: I own both the PDF and the soft cover versions of the book. 'Just glanced at the reviews as I was checking on the hard cover version. As is frequently the case when reading reviews of books you have read you wonder if some others have read the same book! Some of the misunderstanding, I suspect, comes from the concepts and definitions of "Nice Guy." If you define, "Nice Guy" as Dr. Glover does (and/or notices how he defines his terms) then you may be more inclined to understand and/or accept his hypothesis. In the years prior to my becoming aware of and acquiring Dr. Glover's book I paid particular interest to the Internet Newsgroup discussions of the "Nice Guy" vs. "The Jerk" in social relations (singles in particular) . Through at the very least several hundred if not one or two thousand messages I could see that the various comments and exchanges (some shall we say "heated") were closing in on "something." That something was not very clear, but the concept of a "Good Guy" vs. the "Nice Guy" started to emerge. I think what the discussion groups were coming close to hitting on is what Dr. Glover calls the "Integrated Man." Dr. Glover does not claim to have discovered some new psychological phenomenon as far as I can tell. Rather, he noticed, documented and analyzed the thoughts and behaviors of some the men in his practice. Having noticed a common thread of thoughts and behaviors which seem to be limiting the productivity and happiness of the men (and their families) he was dealing with he went about working on developing a means of describing the thought processes behind them and how to deal with them. If you substituted, "Man or Person engaged in thoughts and behaviors which self limit personal happiness and productivity" for "Nice Guy..." You might have a more properly descriptive title for the book (and a greater challenge fitting it on the cover). Through example and explanation of various clients Dr. Glover discusses the various beliefs he thinks drive certain "Nice Guy" behaviors like excessive self-sacrifice; giving with the hidden agenda (covert contracts as he calls them) of getting something; not taking responsibility for fulfilling your own needs like a responsible adult, etc. Some resistance to the book could very well be due to the title. After all, who would think "being nice" is not a good thing?? Perhaps another alternate title for the book could be "How to be an AUTHENTICALLY Nice Guy who is true to himself and the people around him." Once the operating concepts (or paradigms) of "Nice Guys" and their respective outward manifestations are identified; he goes about explaining how such thoughts and behaviors could have come about. Then he leads you through a series of exercises, distributed throughout the book, to help you overcome those self-limiting beliefs and behaviors. No More Mr. Nice Guy is not a perfect book. I quibble with some of the explanations or origins of some of the behaviors or beliefs he gives. The outward happiness and productivity limiting behaviors tend to be right on target however! At no point does he promise a "quick fix" or instant success. He does do an excellent job of providing insight and suggestions for improvement.
Many books can enhance your personal productivity and happiness. Which one or ones is/are right for you is almost totality dependent on your personal needs, experience, and current knowledge. Many books came before this one in my life. Another favorite is Play to Win by Wilson and Wilson. If a person (certainly not really limited to "guys") finds themselves searching for information to help understand their feeling and results in life (especially if you have been told many times you're a "Nice Guy") then No More Mr. Nice Guy is an EXCELLENT book to check out and compare to your own experience. I think you will find insight into parts of your life you may not have even thought to look into!
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Summary: It's the only book like it out there
Review: I think the main premise of this book is sound. The cover is misleading, because it sounds like a guide to male selfishness. But it's not that at all. After reading it in one sitting I realized that a big group of guys, myself included, have lost a sense of who we are as males. The author is NOT telling us to stop being nice or kind; he's saying that we should find out who we really are and live true to that. He says we try to get approval all the time so that we'll get what we want, instead of forming relationships based on who we really are. We actually hide our true selves because we think we won't be accepted. Each man probably has a different reason why he's trying to be someone other than himself, and the author lists a whole bunch of reasons that you can check yourself against. Glover says that you should look at his list with your wife and work at it together. He is correct that wives don't like the "nice" husbands they're having to deal with, because these Nice Guys are really not that nice. He gives excellent sociological reasons why some men have become afraid of and detached from masculinity. The activities he gives for the reader to work through help a guy to see himself as he really is. In the end, he says, guys will be much better husbands to their wives, and more genuinely helpful and "nice," if they do everything with pure motives and complete honesty. If you've been trying to be nice in your marriage and your wife isn't buying it, and you want more sex, read this book!!!
Some of the concepts are explained up to three times. Repetition is a good learning tool, but I got a little tired of it. The chapter on masturbation doesn't sit well with me either. It seems unlikely to help in the way he describes. My guess is that it would perpetuate the kind of compartmentalizing that is so harmful in the minds of Nice Guys. I also felt that some of the other concepts would only work if you have a professional counselor helping you. Many of us are not that good at self-analysis.
Overall this is an excellent book for helping guys to stop trying to get approval through everything they do and stop trying to get sex from their wives by doing what they think is "nice."
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Summary: All nice guys...get this book...now!
Review: I've read the digital MS Reader version. For us self-proclaimed "nice guys" it is Wonderful advice! The author really helps us see what's at the root of our niceness, and more importantly, how to overcome it. I can hardly wait for the new hard cover to come out. It will make it much easier to mark up and take with me wherever I go.
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