Guilt Is Good: What Working Moms Need

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Summary: L.A. Parent Magazine says, "Guilt Can Be Good"
Review: "Mommy, do you have to go to work?" This question from a four-year old to his mother, a successful executive, was the impetus for "Guilt Is Good: What Working Moms Need To Know...The executive was a patient -- and the first working mom she helped get over a guilt trip. Savikas doesn't suggest you try to deny your guilt. Instead, she says, put it to good use. "We view our guilt as a negative emotion, but guilt presents us with an opportunity to change." The first step toward change, says Savikas, is becoming aware of the messages you grew up with about a mother's role. "We've developed a set of myths about the perfect mom, such as, 'She always has time for her kids.'""Take a look at the expectations that lead to your guilt. Are they realistic? Are they based on someone else's values or your own?" Try to avoid guilt that "scolds," says Savikas. This unforgiving voice only makes you feel bad about yourself. It might say, "What kind of mother would snap at her kid?" Guilt that "coaches" on the other hand, "points out that something needs to be fixed." It might say,"I thought you were going to rest." To stop the guilt that scolds, Savikas suggests balancing negative thoughts with positive ones. Instead of chastising yourself for yelling at your kids, you might say, "Next time, this is what I'm planning to do better." Savikas doesn't enter into the debate about whether mothers should work outside the home. But she does encourage women to explore career options without worrying they'll harm the kids. "It's normal to want time away from your children, and it's good to have time to yourself," she says. "If you're feeling bad about yourself, you project that negative energy onto your kids."

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Summary: L.A. Parent Magazine says, "Guilt Can Be Good"
Review: "Mommy, do you have to go to work?" This question from a four-year old to his mother, a successful executive, was the impetus for "Guilt Is Good: What Working Moms Need To Know...The executive was a patient -- and the first working mom she helped get over a guilt trip. Savikas doesn't suggest you try to deny your guilt. Instead, she says, put it to good use. "We view our guilt as a negative emotion, but guilt presents us with an opportunity to change." The first step toward change, says Savikas, is becoming aware of the messages you grew up with about a mother's role. "We've developed a set of myths about the perfect mom, such as, 'She always has time for her kids.'""Take a look at the expectations that lead to your guilt. Are they realistic? Are they based on someone else's values or your own?" Try to avoid guilt that "scolds," says Savikas. This unforgiving voice only makes you feel bad about yourself. It might say, "What kind of mother would snap at her kid?" Guilt that "coaches" on the other hand, "points out that something needs to be fixed." It might say,"I thought you were going to rest." To stop the guilt that scolds, Savikas suggests balancing negative thoughts with positive ones. Instead of chastising yourself for yelling at your kids, you might say, "Next time, this is what I'm planning to do better." Savikas doesn't enter into the debate about whether mothers should work outside the home. But she does encourage women to explore career options without worrying they'll harm the kids. "It's normal to want time away from your children, and it's good to have time to yourself," she says. "If you're feeling bad about yourself, you project that negative energy onto your kids."

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Summary: PERFECT GIFT FOR ANY MOM!!
Review: Know of a new mom-- this is the perfect gift. It's the one I give that will keep giving on and on. Subtitled What Working Moms Need to Know -- it's a great book not just for the mother who works outside of the house but for any mom who wants to have a life that's not just about her kids 24/7. Sure you love them and they are always part of your life, but so is your husband, your friends, your other family and of course you. This book 99 golden pages of information, stories and tips with some fun cartoons mixed in to keep it light reading with important bottom line results. A psychologist and arbitrator, Savikas knows how to communicate to anyone --working mom or not. The title makes sense once you understand how to 'use' the guilt and not let it 'abuse you'. Juggling all aspects of our lives is a continual challenge, finding balance, the ultimate quest. Author Dr. Savikas makes it easier. As I mentioned -- the perfect gift for a baby shower or on the birth of a child. Invaluable for every office library shelf. Buy a dozen and give them to your workers -- man or woman. Working dads need to understand moms and kids in the way that Dr. Savikas can share with them.

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Summary: MOM S-- GET A LIFE !!!!!!!!
Review: Perfect book for all moms whether they work outside of the house or not. I give this book as a gift at baby showers and when my pals go back to work after being at home with their kids. Perfect for moms AND dads. You need to have a life-- you're family will benefit and Dr. Savikas, a psychologist and arbitrator knows how you can create one. Fun cartoons and stories and tips are perfect for understanding how you can go back to work and use guilt to your advantage. Belongs on every bookshelf in every office worldwide. A great communicator, Savikas knows what she writes. Don't miss this book!