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Summary: This book was a lifeboat in a sea of despair!
Review: After discovering a marital infidelity at the beginning of a 4-day weekend, we had nowhere to turn but each other and the bookstore. We spent four days reading and talking, and found out that we were not alone. Reading this book quite literally saved our marriage.A *must read* for anyone touched by an infidelity.
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Summary: Help for Grinding Pain
Review: As someone in the middle of the problem with no end in sight, this book has been read by my husband and myself. We both found it very helpful. When one is in trauma it is hard to concentrate and the text is very clear. Chapters are summarized. On one page the author states he now believes empathy is even more enduring and valuable than romantic love. He outlines steps to begin building an empathetic relationship - once the affair is ended. It is a book you can return to over and over and my copy is full of yellow highlights.
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Summary: Very good
Review: Easy to understand and relate to. Helps you to understand all of the emotions involved and experienced.
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Summary: a book and its cover
Review: I have been searching for book on this subject for a loved one going through the extremely painful first stages of facing the infidelity of her mate. This book came highly recommended, so I ordered it for her, and indeed, its content is the most useful, practical and straightforward I have seen. I was unable, however, to give her this book because of the cover, which features the title in small print over a large photo of a sign that reads "motel." I'm sorry, but am I being too sensitive here? My friend is fresh off discovering her mate's long-term affair, conducted mostly at a motel near his office. How exactly is she to stop replaying the whole mess over and over again in her head when the book that is supposed to be helping her reminds her of the scene of her perceived humiliation every time she looks at it??? This is just plain dumb. I'm sure the book's cover designer was trying to go in a different direction than the covers of books on this subject that are as boring and clinical as an aspirin commercial. But geez, have a little class and empathy, will you? Too late now, of course.
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Summary: A MUST HAVE to anyone involved in infidelity
Review: This book helped me save my 7 year relationship. I made me look at our relationship in other ways, and that just because this happened it's not over. I even bought a copy for my mate, and we both are reading it.
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Summary: I am a survivor
Review: This book is a must read for anyone experiencing infidelity. It is truly a survival guide. Dr. Lusterman provides the tools needed to get through the emotions, the ambivilence and confusion that come with infidelity. He does this in an extremely thoughtful, honest and straightforward way. Until I read this book, I thought my marriage was doomed. I would have never believed that infidelity would actually serve as a turning point to a stronger, more intimate relationship with my husband. No matter what the circumstances, there is a lot of thoughtful wisdom in this book. I would also recommend this book to therapists who are treating couples dealing with infidelity. Tell your clients about it. It is a great resource.
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Summary: AN EYE OPENER AND VERY EDUCATIONAL FOR THE DISCOVERER!!!
Review: This book is a must to read for the discoverer of infidelity. It shows that it happens to others and that we are not to blame for our mates infidelity. I blamed myself for not fulfilling my husbands needs, but with reading this book, I have discovered that he walked out on me and his family to have his affair and that I did not create his problem. Keep reading and do the journaling, it will help you build your self confidence up. The books give hope to putting your marriage back together and gaining the trust that has been lost. THANKS FOR SUCH A GREAT READ.
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Summary: A lifeline in a time of drowning.....
Review: This book is amazing. I went through this with my husband last year and the book was the only thing that made sense. People try to help you and offer you comfort in a time like this but rarely can someone or something tap RIGHT into what you are feeling. This is what this book does. When this happens, you are so confused and lost and have so many questions. This book helps anwser them and prepares you for confronting the problem and hopefully moving past it. It also offers a lot of hope in such a dim time. For someone going through this, I offer three suggestions: 1) BUY THIS BOOK! 2) Get yourself in personal counseling and 3) If and when your spouse is willing-get both of you into marraige counseling. I wish you the best if you are going through this but please-read this book. It is like a having a light in a dark cave. After counseling and praying and making decisions, I am happy to say my husband and I survived infidelity. We are now enjoying each other and loving each other on a whole new level. Take care.
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Summary: A must read for anyone faced with infidelity.
Review: This book is very insightful. It explains how both parties in a relationship are affected by infidelity. It describes all the emotions that are felt during these times and lets you know that these feeling are normal and to be expected. Each chapter has a recap which is very helpful. The book also tells how to deal with your marriage or relationship and how to rebuild or end. It helped me to be quite strong and gave me a lot of direction. I highly recommend it to both the discover and the discovered.
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Summary: Infidelity: A Survival Guide
Review: This book really helped me. After recieving it, I found that I could not put it down, and read it quicker than any other book I've picked up. It really helped me to step back from my situation and look at our relationship in a more matter-of-fact way, and to understand my spouses infidelity with a clearer head. The book has also provided me with some insights regarding myself that I have brought to my therapist's attention. My husband is reading it now, and we plan to discuss it after he is done. I think it has been a terrific tool for us to use in rebuilding our broken bond.
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