The War Against Parents

Rating:
Summary: Authors are better on problems than solutions
Review: I agree with the first reviewer who said that the authors more accurately define parent's problems, than offer good solutions. Their answers are somewhat inconsistent. To their credit, these authors are liberals who point to a lot of the problems liberalism has spawned, and admit as much. But then, (perhaps predictably) many of their solutions are liberal (government interventionist, income redistributionist) solutions. For instance, they think parents don't spend enough time with their kids. The answer is to force employers to give parents flex time, for school days to be longer, and the government to provide day care. This makes sense? Employers must let employees off, but kids must be in school all day? Then the authors complain about high taxes. They say taxes should be lowered on working families. Who do they think is going to pay for lost work time, longer hours in inefficient schools, and day care? With their legislation, taxes would have to go up, obviously. College professors always think that business can magically supply everything on their wish lists though, (which is what their "Parent's Bill of Rights" is.) Another answer the authors suggest to bolster parent's economic security and solve parent's problems is that Congress should raise the minimum wage to $7 per hour. As an economist, Sylvia Ann Hewlett should know that the higher the minimum wage goes, the more jobs go overseas, and the more companies downsize, or try to automate. Professors rarely think like employers do though, only like employees. Then there are the cultural issues. The authors point to the destructive influences of a "poisonous popular culture", criticizing the numerous depictions on TV and in movies of sex, violence, and bad parents. They denounce the rampant individualism and sexual "liberation" that weakens the family. At the same time, they advocate abortion "rights," gay "rights", and demonstrate the theophobia (fear of religion) that so characterizes liberals. Religion happens to be the main force that encourages strong families and a higher quality culture. But then they concede that conservatives are right about a lot of their "family values" issues, and think divorce should be harder to obtain, the marriage penalty tax should be repealed, other taxes should be lowered on working families, TV watching should be limited, and the media should be cleaned up. I agree with these measures. An even more powerful solution for parents and society, in my opinion though, is legislation for a voucher system for K-12 education. This would really help families. It would make it possible for taxes to be lowered, because education would be delivered more effectively and less expensively. Individual schools would not be subject to government madates as to when they are open or closed. School schedules could be flexible, and more in tune with parent's work schedules. People like these authors could send their children to a "progressive" school, and people who want to could send their children to a religious school, or other kind of school. I think the right to send one's child to a school which is an extension of one's values should have been included in any "Parent's Bill of Rights." This book is an interesting book, and a spawn for discussion. But reader, beware--it is written by two baby-boomer professors, who are trying to have it both ways. They are trying to maintain their liberalism, even though they realize a lot of the faults with it, now that they are parents. It is understandable though--their jobs are dependent on the continuance of the welfare-state educational system.

Rating:
Summary: No wonder 1950s families fared better than today's families
Review: I am a mother and a church librarian and bought this book from that point of view. I have seen Cornel West on C-SPAN on a number of occasions and always found him to be wise and thought-provoking. I was very pleased with this book. It was especially astonishing on two points. The first is the authors' exposition of family life in the 1950's which was government supported with larger tax credits for children and educational programs such as the GI Bill. Today families have no such overwhelming governmental support. Most foreign countries have full governmental support for child care. Why not America? Do we pride ourselves on independence so much, when our families are in dire peril? The government is so blind. The second point that really struck me was the survey at the back of the book. The religious right and its cabal in Congress tell us that the things of most concern to families today are abortion, homosexuality and prayer in schools. The authors' survey found very different worries at the heart of actual families in this country--the need for government sponsored child care, flex time and job-sharing, nurseries on site at job locations, tax credits, etc. Parents are talking basic practicality, not ideas espoused by a fundamentalist "Christian" front. (BTW, Christianity is never exclusive.) I also found valuable the explanation of the Promise Keepers and the Nation of Islam, especially in terms of my own religious beliefs. Just yesterday there was a column in the paper on the lack of corporate on-site breast-feeding areas for new mothers and babies, followed in today's paper by an article on Muslim fundamentalist mistreatment and murder of women and mothers in Afghanistan. Parents and families the WORLD OVER are in grave peril. I wish the authors would have in place some grass roots organization so parents could sign up to become activists in getting legislation passed. Heaven forbid that we should ask seniors or singles to pay for families. Howver, seniors are the first to gripe when there is crime, vandalism, family failure through divorce, teen moms. These things are a direct result of our nonsupport of our nation's families. The National PTA just doesn't seem to be making much headway, although schools, already pushed to the limit, are taking a part--locally two schools have after school programs to avoid the problem of latch-key kids, and child care available at high school so that young teen moms can graduate. At the same time, however, teachers are no longer allowed to ask for modest lab fees for classes. As a former art teacher, I can tell you that it is hard to give schoolchildren quality art experiences when you have only donations of wall paper books and carpet scraps! The result is that parents who can, dig in DEEP to give donations to teachers whose curricula are hard up. Already this year my husband and I have given over $1000 out of pocket to support our schools and it's only Ocotober. This book will definitely show you how the war on parents and families is being fought. It is a call to activism. It will make you do some real thinking about what is wrong with the cultural and political system in this country, where families are so discounted. Way to go, Sylvia and Cornel. God bless you, sister and brother!

Rating:
Summary: impassioned treatment of mistreatment of American family
Review: I particularly like the focus of the authors on the proliferation of "experts" intruding into the integrity and privacy of the family.

CPS are blasted for being often mistaken, negligent, and malicious in their intrusions into family life. Parents have been disempowered by their decisions, and are literally afraid to make a move with their children, lest they be accused of abuse by the "experts"

The hysteria about child abuse has spawned an industry which continues to grow without any checks accountability or oversight. The taxpayer merely can foot the bill and the media have sat back while without doing any real investigations of increasingly tryannous behavior on the part of CPS.

Rating:
Summary: A thorough review of forces tearing at families
Review: The authors do a nice job of showing how such diverse forces as lowered wages, poorer access to health care, and expensive housing put parents in an economic crunch, thanks largely to pro-business forces. Equally they show how the dimunition of the role of fathers, the attacks on marriage in a pro-divorce culture, the usurping of parental authority by social agencies, thanks largely to traditionally liberal forces, all contribute to attacks on family. This coupled with an "entertainment" culture that emphasizes violence in film, music and video games and further diminishes families. The parents bill of rights is excellent, what is lacking is a place for us to sign up, and a champion to lead us against the anti family forces on the true issues of economics, housing, schools and taxes.

Rating:
Summary: Parental Paranoia Running Rampant
Review: The book really should have been called "The War Against Children Brought On By Parents", a title which I would be inclined to agree with. The authors detail the havoc wreaked on children by the abdication of parental responsibility, time and love. True. But the authors say it's not the fault of parents themselves, but the economy or the government which make parents "unable" (an oft-used term in this book) to give children what they need. . The authors reach the elusive realization that our society is crumbling because children need their parents' attention, in a two-parent family. The most profound and true statement in the book comes early on: "At the heart of the matter is time, huge amounts of it, freely given. Whatever the child-raising technique, a child simply does better with loving, committed, long-term attention from both mom and dad." They then come to some baffling--in light of this truth--conclusions: year-round school and government-subsidized day care, among other things. The authors conclude that parents are economically unable to care for their children. and compare our day to the 1950's when tax credits favored families with children. I have news: the main thing that has changed from the 1950's to now is that baby boomers, a group which includes me, have come to expect a standard of living that our parents would have probably thought luxurious. I am a stay-at-home mother, married to the father of our children (what a concept!) who does it by working from home, shopping garage sales and thrift stores, and bulk cooking from each week's grocery sale items. Out there are truly desperate people in desperate situations, but most people I have ever encountered who thought they "could not" stay home with their children lived in twice the house we live in, shop at the mall, drive two new cars and use credit cards. I have known a few also who simply felt more "fulfilled" working than raising their children. I would love to hear from some of you out there who made raising your children your top priority and then found a way to make it happen. E-mail me at [e-mail]. I would love to hear from the authors of this book, too. I still recommend this book, as it is highly insightful and scholarly and does offer many useful recommendations, such as making divorce harder to come by and promoting adoption. However, I think its authors overlooked society's greatest problems: materialism and consumerism.

Rating:
Summary: Assessment of problem is on target; solutions are absurd
Review: The book really should have been called "The War Against Children Brought On By Parents", a title which I would be inclined to agree with. The authors detail the havoc wreaked on children by the abdication of parental responsibility, time and love. True. But the authors say it's not the fault of parents themselves, but the economy or the government which make parents "unable" (an oft-used term in this book) to give children what they need. . The authors reach the elusive realization that our society is crumbling because children need their parents' attention, in a two-parent family. The most profound and true statement in the book comes early on: "At the heart of the matter is time, huge amounts of it, freely given. Whatever the child-raising technique, a child simply does better with loving, committed, long-term attention from both mom and dad." They then come to some baffling--in light of this truth--conclusions: year-round school and government-subsidized day care, among other things. The authors conclude that parents are economically unable to care for their children. and compare our day to the 1950's when tax credits favored families with children. I have news: the main thing that has changed from the 1950's to now is that baby boomers, a group which includes me, have come to expect a standard of living that our parents would have probably thought luxurious. I am a stay-at-home mother, married to the father of our children (what a concept!) who does it by working from home, shopping garage sales and thrift stores, and bulk cooking from each week's grocery sale items. Out there are truly desperate people in desperate situations, but most people I have ever encountered who thought they "could not" stay home with their children lived in twice the house we live in, shop at the mall, drive two new cars and use credit cards. I have known a few also who simply felt more "fulfilled" working than raising their children. I would love to hear from some of you out there who made raising your children your top priority and then found a way to make it happen. E-mail me at [e-mail]. I would love to hear from the authors of this book, too. I still recommend this book, as it is highly insightful and scholarly and does offer many useful recommendations, such as making divorce harder to come by and promoting adoption. However, I think its authors overlooked society's greatest problems: materialism and consumerism.

Rating:
Summary: One more example of erroneous collectivist thinking
Review: The thrust of this book is that the government doesn't take care of the family unit in America anymore resulting in all of the societal problems that pressure families. On the contrary, the extremely irresponsible manner in which parents are now raising kids has more to do with societies problems than just about any factor. It is all part of the liberal collectivist sophistry that the average, unthinking American buys into so readily. If you hold reason and intellect as important ideals, this one will either give you a good laugh or bring on a bout of anger.

Rating:
Summary: Absolutely Disturbing
Review: This book is frightening. Parents are already afforded more rewards and benefits than they deserve for a life *choice*. This book was obviously written by two people who wish they could pass their responsibility on to the government. I am shocked their warped views are getting such positive play in the media.

Rating:
Summary: Parental Paranoia Running Rampant
Review: This book operates on the premise that the government and corporations are intentionally victimizing people for their parental status and that parents should be a protected class.

This seems rather paranoid considering that multiple tax breaks are given for children and their needs, and family leave policies insure that parents receive the most comprehensive leave benefits of any group of workers.

The book also ignores how parents are treated as a special class by the government and workforce, receiving more support from those two institutions than their childless counterparts.

Strange book. I just don't buy into the author's victim mentality.

Rating:
Summary: Neither liberal nor conservative
Review: This book walks a hazardous line, neither liberal nor conservative, and it infuriates some and baffles others who insist on familiar dichotomies.

There's a litmus test for prospective readers, however: if you think parents should be as politically powerful as the AARP, read this book, and anything written or edited by either Hewlett or West. If you think current disparities between the top and bottom deciles in socioeconomic status in the U.S are about right, don't.