Raising a Child With a Neuromuscular Disorder: A Guide for Parents, Grandparents, Friends, and Professionals

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Summary: This book save my son's life
Review: Dr. Thompson was right. The entire body is a muscle. I followed her words and got a base line exam from every profession. Since my son looks good I was told not to worry. Although, many were surprised that he could walk. I kept asking what about his heart, lungs, gi and eyes. I was told not to worry.

I made the appointments with the cardiologist, geneticist, gi, pulmonary, optical. It was no surprise, my son had a hole in his heart, was aspirating, has mild cortical visual impairment. My family (father and uncle's) are misdiagnosed with Charcot-Marie-Tooth Disease (CMT) and we have Myotonic Muscular Dystrophy.

Just as Dr. Thompson states, "Don't let any doctor tell you that a specific problem is just a sympton of the disease/condition. Get a proper opinion from a professional in that area."

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Summary: A must-have book for the affected family, w/minor flaws
Review: Raising a Child discusses all the forms of muscular dystrophy, so JDMS only gets scant treatment. Even so, most of the book is useful and practical. The introduction suggests it not be read cover-to-cover, but used as a chapter-by-chapter reference to find advice on the specific topics covered. Each chapter does stand alone in this way, but parents with a newly-diagnosed JDMS child may want to read the first six chapters right away.

The book begins with a description of common reactions to an initial diagnosis: shock, numbness, denial, anger and grief. There are good suggestions for handling these stages, including dealing with stress and having creative and enjoyable outlets for parents and children. Another very useful chapter follows: the author thoroughly discusses getting a correct diagnosis and finding a primary doctor who is both caring and knowledgeable. The author warns us against doctors who are arrogant or controlling or who don't take enough time to diagnose a rare condition. In this case, a second opinion is called for. And in many cases, a specialist may be the best doctor for your child, an option that should be discussed and also should be covered by your insurance.

Choosing and communicating with your medical team is crucial, and there are common-sense suggestions such as keeping a notebook, using a tape recorder, and keeping a record of tests. One critical characteristic of good medical professionals is they seek out and respect the observations of parents and children. Parents can also help foster good communication, and there are good suggestions in this area: being on time for appointments, using good phone manners, and giving an occasional thank-you note or small gift.

You'll find some good information on dealing with insurance companies in one chapter, including keeping a meticulous paper trail of medical information and insurance documents and finding help, if needed, in handling insurance problems.

The author presents some very wise advice on maintaining a perspective wider than the disease; both by remembering your child's other mental and physical health needs and by considering the recreational and emotional needs of all family members who are affected, including the parents. One contribution to your child's sense of well-being and independence comes form his ability to do things for himself, so every step you can make in that direction is very important. Detailed discussions of hygiene, assistive devices, travel and safety considerations make this part of the book very practical.

The author includes tips on coping with the emotional ups and downs of your child. Often, children can only express themselves by bad behavior. The best way to deal with children's anger and fear is to pay attention to non-verbal as well as verbal cues and let them know you understand. In some cases, outside help may be a good idea. Other strategies for parents are realistic goal-setting, focusing on what the child can do, and letting him take as much control as possible. Along the same lines, children must be treated as normally as possible, and this includes discipline. There are practical suggestions for mealtime discipline, chores and acknowledging triumphs.

One important chapter for school-age children with muscle problems talks about helping parents and children cope with the delicate balance between having their needs met and being as normal as possible. In this case, parents often have to be a strong advocate for their child, sometimes meeting reluctance on the part of the school. At times, it takes a great deal of attention and monitoring. The whole issue of over-all advocacy for your child is also discussed, with pointers to help, including building a support system and using professional advocates when necessary.

Other chapters deal with keeping a healthy outlook, living in the present, and dealing with the possible death of your child. A glossary includes a discussion of genetics, disease information and possible chores for children.

There are several notable omissions, in this reviewer's opinion. Faith is only mentioned as an afterthought, while most parents find it an important part of coping with a childhood disease. The author's specific knowledge of JDMS is not impressive. Most troubling, though, is the lack of any mention of the Internet as a possible source of information, advocacy and support. Not one e-mail address or link, or support site is listed. For a book published just a few months ago, this is an egregious failing.

Rating:
Summary: A must-have book for the affected family, w/minor flaws
Review: Raising a Child discusses all the forms of muscular dystrophy, so JDMS only gets scant treatment. Even so, most of the book is useful and practical. The introduction suggests it not be read cover-to-cover, but used as a chapter-by-chapter reference to find advice on the specific topics covered. Each chapter does stand alone in this way, but parents with a newly-diagnosed JDMS child may want to read the first six chapters right away.

The book begins with a description of common reactions to an initial diagnosis: shock, numbness, denial, anger and grief. There are good suggestions for handling these stages, including dealing with stress and having creative and enjoyable outlets for parents and children. Another very useful chapter follows: the author thoroughly discusses getting a correct diagnosis and finding a primary doctor who is both caring and knowledgeable. The author warns us against doctors who are arrogant or controlling or who don't take enough time to diagnose a rare condition. In this case, a second opinion is called for. And in many cases, a specialist may be the best doctor for your child, an option that should be discussed and also should be covered by your insurance.

Choosing and communicating with your medical team is crucial, and there are common-sense suggestions such as keeping a notebook, using a tape recorder, and keeping a record of tests. One critical characteristic of good medical professionals is they seek out and respect the observations of parents and children. Parents can also help foster good communication, and there are good suggestions in this area: being on time for appointments, using good phone manners, and giving an occasional thank-you note or small gift.

You'll find some good information on dealing with insurance companies in one chapter, including keeping a meticulous paper trail of medical information and insurance documents and finding help, if needed, in handling insurance problems.

The author presents some very wise advice on maintaining a perspective wider than the disease; both by remembering your child's other mental and physical health needs and by considering the recreational and emotional needs of all family members who are affected, including the parents. One contribution to your child's sense of well-being and independence comes form his ability to do things for himself, so every step you can make in that direction is very important. Detailed discussions of hygiene, assistive devices, travel and safety considerations make this part of the book very practical.

The author includes tips on coping with the emotional ups and downs of your child. Often, children can only express themselves by bad behavior. The best way to deal with children's anger and fear is to pay attention to non-verbal as well as verbal cues and let them know you understand. In some cases, outside help may be a good idea. Other strategies for parents are realistic goal-setting, focusing on what the child can do, and letting him take as much control as possible. Along the same lines, children must be treated as normally as possible, and this includes discipline. There are practical suggestions for mealtime discipline, chores and acknowledging triumphs.

One important chapter for school-age children with muscle problems talks about helping parents and children cope with the delicate balance between having their needs met and being as normal as possible. In this case, parents often have to be a strong advocate for their child, sometimes meeting reluctance on the part of the school. At times, it takes a great deal of attention and monitoring. The whole issue of over-all advocacy for your child is also discussed, with pointers to help, including building a support system and using professional advocates when necessary.

Other chapters deal with keeping a healthy outlook, living in the present, and dealing with the possible death of your child. A glossary includes a discussion of genetics, disease information and possible chores for children.

There are several notable omissions, in this reviewer's opinion. Faith is only mentioned as an afterthought, while most parents find it an important part of coping with a childhood disease. The author's specific knowledge of JDMS is not impressive. Most troubling, though, is the lack of any mention of the Internet as a possible source of information, advocacy and support. Not one e-mail address or link, or support site is listed. For a book published just a few months ago, this is an egregious failing.