Between Love and Hate: A Guide to Civilized Divorce

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Summary: ENDORSEMENTS
Review: "A must read for anyone going through divorce." Publisher's Weekly. "If people considering or experiencing divorce were to read only one book, this is it. This book offers an achievable model of what divorcing parents can do that is positive for themselves, their spouse, and their children." Jay Folberg, Dean and Prof. of Law, University of San Fransisco. "Between Love and Hate is a book every professional should read and recommend to his or her clients." John Haynes, Ph.D., Founding President Academy of Family Mediators. " Between Love and Hate is a wonderful book. Immensely readable, very human, and at times quite moving, this book is packed with informtion that will help couples divorce in a more civilized way....the adult process of disengaging from marriage and moving toward healing, parenting during and after divorce, and preparing for and successfully mediating divorce agreements." Joan Kelly, Ph.D., Director, Northern California Mediation Center, and co-author, Surviving the Break-up.

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Review: The seven keys to preventing a divorce from becoming an advesarial contest * The emotional territory of a dissolving marriage -anger, blame, guilt, grieving, and healing * Legal custody and Parenting Plans -doing the best for the children * The emotional needs of children in divorce * Building a working relationship as parents * Business meetings -learning to communiciate during a difficult time * Strategies for Win- Win negotiating and resolving conflict * Mediation and fair settlement strategies * Managing post-divorce problems. The author is past President of the Academy of Family Mediators and is in private practice in Portland Oregon. This book is the result of over 20 years of helping couples work through the crisis of ending marriages constructively and creating a foundation for healing.

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Summary: A must-read for ANYONE even THINKING about divorce.
Review: This book's no nonsense approach to divorce is honest and filled with common sense. Even though divorces are usually so emotionally charged, this book made it possible for us to see through the anger and hurt, asks the questions you won't ask yourself, and hopefully if answered honestly, you can help work through the items that could turn into big issues later. READ this book. I can't sing its praises enough. If you want to get through your divorce and get on with your life, use this guide.

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Summary: Look Elsewhere
Review: This books makes clear that the kind of divorce you end up with is a mater of your intent. It then guides you step by practical step to enable you that execute that intent to end your marriage with dignity and preserve a semblence of a civilized relationship for your future dealings. Beyond divorce it is a teriffic guide for how to negotiate with and talk to your partner or spouse in a most productive way to get what you need or want. It's a real gem.

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Summary: A real gem
Review: This books makes clear that the kind of divorce you end up with is a mater of your intent. It then guides you step by practical step to enable you that execute that intent to end your marriage with dignity and preserve a semblence of a civilized relationship for your future dealings. Beyond divorce it is a teriffic guide for how to negotiate with and talk to your partner or spouse in a most productive way to get what you need or want. It's a real gem.

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Summary: Look Elsewhere
Review: While some of the information in this book might be useful if you are in danger of marching off to divorce court, but would prefer not too, most is just rehashed and outdated information borrowed from other sources. Not much original here, especially if you've read other books on "Good Divorce." Stick to more to experienced writers such as Kirshenbaum and Wallerstein if you are looking for information on as important a topic as this.