ONENESS AND SEPARATENESS: FROM INFANT TO INDIVIDUAL

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Summary: One of the best books I have ever read on child development.
Review: After working as a child therapist for more than five years, I found this book extremely thoughtful and helpful in working with children. It is beautifully written and is followed up by Dr. Kaplan's book on adolesence!

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Summary: Helpful, but so mom-focused
Review: As many other reviewers have stated, this is a helpful book. But I just wanted to note that it is very mom-focused. The author acts as if the bond with the mother is the only bond, and the father just happens to be hanging around. Since it was written in 1978, this could have something to do with it, but I would argue that, while the bond with the mother is very important, parents can do quite a lot to assure that the baby is bonding and close to both parents. Just something to keep in mind. (This isn't meant to be a review of the whole book, just a side note.)

Rating:
Summary: Helpful, but so mom-focused
Review: As many other reviewers have stated, this is a helpful book. But I just wanted to note that it is very mom-focused. The author acts as if the bond with the mother is the only bond, and the father just happens to be hanging around. Since it was written in 1978, this could have something to do with it, but I would argue that, while the bond with the mother is very important, parents can do quite a lot to assure that the baby is bonding and close to both parents. Just something to keep in mind. (This isn't meant to be a review of the whole book, just a side note.)

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Summary: To truly understand your child....read this
Review: I have read this book and then given it to every new mother who is close to my heart. I first found it at a La Leche League convention when my first baby was almost a year old. I would read a part of it, then look at her, watch her act, and interact with her environment and with me. Playing peek-a-boo after reading what's happening in her mind as it develops only made me want to help her develop it more! I wish Dr. Kaplan could write another and help me with that little baby who is now a teenager!

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Summary: To truly understand your child....read this
Review: I have read this book and then given it to every new mother who is close to my heart. I first found it at a La Leche League convention when my first baby was almost a year old. I would read a part of it, then look at her, watch her act, and interact with her environment and with me. Playing peek-a-boo after reading what's happening in her mind as it develops only made me want to help her develop it more! I wish Dr. Kaplan could write another and help me with that little baby who is now a teenager!

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Summary: An absolute must for conscious child rearing
Review: This book allows you to get to a place that all parents wish they could be, inside their childs thoughts. I now have more understanding and MUCH more patience. It is easy now to be compassionate instead of upset since so many of my questions have been answered regarding infants moods, thoughts, feelings, and behavior. It has not only given me a new perspective on childhood behavior, it has helped me to understand my own!

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Summary: Am thrilled there's a new edition of this wonderful book!
Review: This book is a fascinating work that follows the psychological well-being of infants in the first three years of life. Important understanding of mother-infant bonding, and a must-read for every new mom.

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Summary: Very engaging, readable and informative
Review: This book is wonderful. It explains and delineates the phases through which babies and toddlers go as they develop, using Margaret Mahler's theories, but making them accessible to the layperson. If you ever tried to read Mahler's "The Psychological Birth of the Infant", you know how scholarly and intellectually dense a work it is (I tried, but couldn't). Further, the loving and lyrical style makes it engaging and joyous to read. I wish that fathers (I am one, to a toddler girl) would read it, too.