The 50-Mile Rule: Your Guide to Infidelity and Extramarital Etiquette

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Summary: Honest and Interesting
Review: I'd just learned about a friend's affair and was feeling quite upset about it when I read this book. The author offers a lot of insight as to why people cheat without making any moral judgements. Her explanations as to the "why" helped me understand my friend's infidelity and made it easier to forgive him. I'm sure lots of people will read this book to help them cheat without getting caught, (she makes it clear why some people will always stray, so don't make it worse by having your spouse and friends find out about it) but I'd also recommend this to anyone whose lover has been unfaithful, especially if you want to try to repair the relationship.

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Summary: ** DONT DO IT **
Review: Im breaking a rule of my own here, reviewing an article which I have never read but as someone who has had an affair and is suffering the consequences of it(depression and anxiety) I just have to disagree with it in principle. Infidelity is not the answer. The person I had an affair with spent months trying to persuade me that it would be okay and their would be no consequences, despite my statement that "too many people will get hurt". Eventually, during a difficult time in my marriage I gave in but eventually I was proved to be right. Everybody involved has been hurt sooo much, particularly myself and Im now battling depression and anxiety whilst trying to hold onto everything I treasure most, my wife and family. My advice, if you are tempted to stray, get counselling and if that fails, seperate. Infedelity just causes too much hurt and pain for everybody involved, so please take my advice and dont do it!

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Summary: This is a fabulous book
Review: Our dirty little secret is out once again. Everyone is against it but a lot of people are doing it. I did it and I'll do it again and again. Some women are so gullible. I have a friend right now who's planning a trip to Vegas with another woman while his wife is at home. And neither one knows of the other. The author hit it on the nail. I've been a great backup plan for a lot of wives and most likely yours too...HA!! The word adultery was created for a reason..It's been around since Biblical times and probably before that. We need more truthful books like this.

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Summary: Clever and smart
Review: People so often get hooked into affairs thinking they are going to be something special, but most of the time they fizzle out and end up being nothing. What I liked about this book is that the author is very realistic about what you can and cannot expect. People should read this book first before cheating on their spouse. Then at least they are informed. There's a great line in there somewhere about 'making smart choices about your sexuality within marriage.' There are many good reasons to stay faithful and many good reasons to cheat. The writer puts them all out there in a lively way. I'd recommend it.

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Summary: A forgotten Rule!
Review: Rule #1 should be---
Don't let your spouse find the book.
I am just delighted that all the rules to cheat are now in one place...too bad my husband didn't know them when he started his affair 7 years ago. The author forgot to mention that the wife still gets all the good stuff...the mistress sits alone on holidays and weekends. Find your own man!

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Summary: Multiple messages...
Review: There are multiple messages in this very readable "Cliff's Notes" on adultery. Reading superficially, one learns the highlights of the practice. Reading between the lines, a subliminal message emerges: "What the hell are you thinking?!" It's disappointing that the book doesn't explore an additional option: honesty. In fact, it specifies the opposite, encourging "compartmentalizing" an affair. Assuming that someone contemplating adultery has the foresight to read this book before entering into an affair, they might be well-advised to first approach their spouse and respectfully share their thoughts. At the very least this will spark a lively discussion, and might even lead to a better solution -- for both! BTW, don't believe the author's contention that "romantic feelings" cannot be re-kindled in a committed relationship. It just takes work. See marriagebuilders.com website for details.

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Summary: Multiple messages...
Review: There are multiple messages in this very readable "Cliff's Notes" on adultery. Reading superficially, one learns the highlights of the practice. Reading between the lines, a subliminal message emerges: "What the hell are you thinking?!" It's disappointing that the book doesn't explore an additional option: honesty. In fact, it specifies the opposite, encourging "compartmentalizing" an affair. Assuming that someone contemplating adultery has the foresight to read this book before entering into an affair, they might be well-advised to first approach their spouse and respectfully share their thoughts. At the very least this will spark a lively discussion, and might even lead to a better solution -- for both! BTW, don't believe the author's contention that "romantic feelings" cannot be re-kindled in a committed relationship. It just takes work. See marriagebuilders.com website for details.

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Summary: Too ...typical
Review: This book assumes that every mistress wants to ditch her life and marry/have lots of babies with her married boyfriend. If you think that's a problem, there is advice on how to control that - but mostly it's just common sense. I'd say this book is a waste of time unless you are looking for something along the lines of "Cheating for Dummies." (Dummies being the operative word).

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Summary: insightful but too much about male cheaters
Review: This book contains some real insight into motivations for getting married, staying married, and cheating that were real eye-openers. Her advice for cheaters and singles dating cheaters is fabulous. However, I was disappointed that her discussion of cheating by WOMEN was essentially limited to saying 'he or she' in any given sentence. This book was written about married men sleeping with single women. Period. Granted that is probably the most common and complicated form of adultery but what about situations where BOTH affair partners are married or just the woman is married? These possibilities are barely mentioned specifically. There are some very different and frankly, more complicated emotional issues involved when women cheat. The author generalizes too much saying that married women will ditch a husband to trade up for better resources - look at all the uneven marraiges where attractive female breadwinners stay with their beer-bellied, unsuccessful apparent oafs even with no kids! Capable women form motherly attachments to their husbands and when those women have affairs with they generate very complicated feelings about maintaining the status quo at home. Anyway, I expected more from a female author. BUT READ IT ANYWAY, LADIES. IT IS WORTHWILE AND ONLY TAKES A DAY OR 2 TO FINISH.

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Summary: Worth the time to read it
Review: This is the second book on the subject that I've read. The first was "How to have an affair and never get caught," which wasn't worth the time or money for me. This book is very different. I would not skip a chapter in this book -- read it from cover to cover. It operates on the premise that you have decided to have an affair, or at least are not "anti". First it provides you with some rationale or rationalization as to why people have affairs. It goes through the four basic stages of an affair, gives 20 very useful rules for having one, and goes into detail about each one. The only thing it didn't cover was how to start an affair -- maybe if you have to ask how, you "can't afford one" as they say. If you are against affairs, this is not the book for you. But if you want a fair and reasonably balanced approach to minimizing the consequences, this is the book for you.