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Summary: A Profound, Spiritual, Healing Journey...
Review: Jane Guttman GiftJGDC@aol.comInspiring... Eloquent... Healing...Extraordinary... A Mother's Tender and Poignant Love Story The Other Mother has been a profound catalyst in opening my mind and heart to the birthmother's journey. Carol Schaefer has offered her voice as teacher, as guide to those of us who have travelled the tragic road of relinquishing a child. Her poignant and extraordinary account of the dark and despairing birthmother experience has fostered the expression of courage to seek further healing and resolution. As I shared in my book, The Gift Wrapped in Sorrow, Carol's book is a sacred offering to those touched by the anguish of adoption. I recommend this book to all who have endured the sorrow of separation and consider it to be a great tribute to every mother and child "lost" to one another. This book stands as a classic in adoption reform and brings us all closer to our own humanity and compassion. This author, this mother has brilliantly captured the essence of the primal bond that characterizes a mother and her child. Jane Guttman D.C., Author, The Gift Wrapped in Sorrow, Holistic Health Practitioner, Soma Sound: The Voice of Memory
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Summary: Once a mother, always a mother
Review: Once a mother, always a mothe even in the child's absence
Carol Schaefer's book relates almost the identical story we have experienced with our devoutly Catholic birthmother who had to give up her baby in 1969 under the same circumstances Schaefer describes giving up her baby in 1965. Our birthmother was a young college student too and like Schaefer never stopped loving her absent child. The reunion of our daughter with her birthmother 29 years later was like Schaefer's with her son a very positive event that in our case enriched the families on all sides. Schaefer dispells the terrible myth that women who give up their babies are not really mothers and soon forget about the baby. Nothing could be further from the truth, as many books by and about birthmothers have shown us. I could never understand how anyone could have entertained such thoughts to begin with. This is not just a book for adoptive parents but for the general public which still needs to be enlightened about the agony birthmothers experience from the moment of relinquishment.
Gisela Gasper Fitzgerald, author of ADOPTION: An Open, Semi-Open or Closed Practice?
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Summary: My view on a controversial subject
Review: The Book, "The Other Mother" was a touching book especially for me, an 18 year old girl who is in love. This book gives you an insight into the life of a Catholic "good girl" who becomes a young lady through the experience of giving up her son for adoption. This frightening experience touched me in many ways because It made me realize how realistic becoming pregnant is, and the consequences that come with it. This book also showed me the attachment that comes with giving birth and being forced to give it up. No matter how old you are, or where you stand on adoption issues, you will be able to relate to Carol in her struggle to find the son that she has never met.
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Summary: My view on a controversial subject
Review: The Book, "The Other Mother" was a touching book especially for me, an 18 year old girl who is in love. This book gives you an insight into the life of a Catholic "good girl" who becomes a young lady through the experience of giving up her son for adoption. This frightening experience touched me in many ways because It made me realize how realistic becoming pregnant is, and the consequences that come with it. This book also showed me the attachment that comes with giving birth and being forced to give it up. No matter how old you are, or where you stand on adoption issues, you will be able to relate to Carol in her struggle to find the son that she has never met.
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Summary: My view on a controversial subject
Review: The Book, "The Other Mother" was a touching book especially for me, an 18 year old girl who is in love. This book gives you an insight into the life of a Catholic "good girl" who becomes a young lady through the experience of giving up her son for adoption. This frightening experience touched me in many ways because It made me realize how realistic becoming pregnant is, and the consequences that come with it. This book also showed me the attachment that comes with giving birth and being forced to give it up. No matter how old you are, or where you stand on adoption issues, you will be able to relate to Carol in her struggle to find the son that she has never met.
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Summary: Beautiful and heart-rending.
Review: The Other Mother is like a compelling dancer that you can't take your eyes off of; I was not able to put it down. I was struck by the stunning honesty, integrity and courage with which Schaefer reveals the secrets she was forced to keep in giving up her child. The Other Mother is indispensable not only in matters of adoption, but for anyone who has suffered a loss. She opens the road for the pursuit of even what seems impossible.
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Summary: Moving, honest, well written
Review: This book is a must read for anyone in the triad (adoptees, birth parents, adoptive parents). It is a very emotional book for an adoptee to read. The birth mother is a real person - with real feelings - that has always loved her baby. It opens the door to the truth of adoption and to remember the person society says we need to forget - but cannot and should not. Reviewed by adoptee
Also recommend: The Adoption Reunion Survival Guide, Primal Wound, Journey of the Adopted Self,Whose Child?,Adoption Healing,The Adoption Searchbook,Search,
Secret Thoughts of an Adoptive Mother,Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Parents Knew, Wake Up Litte Suzie
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Summary: Provides tender understanding for adoptees. Wonderful!
Review: This book was a great help to understand what my birthmother endured during the time of putting me up for adoption. I purchased a copy for my birthmother and she couldn't put it down. She explained how much she had forgotten and how this book was such a healing tool. A wonderful and touching book for all - birthparents, adoptive parents and adoptees. Thanks Carol!!
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Summary: Another view besides an "adoptee's"
Review: This book was RIVETING!!!!! I am an adoptee who is in the reunion process with my birthfamily and have always read materials that related to other adoptees and their searches. This book explores the most intimate feelings a birthmother deals with, including the pregnancy, the birth and the separation. It helped me to completely understand how my birthmother is/was feeling and what I can do to help her. Thank you for writing this book, Carol!!!! I felt your pain, your grief and your happiness!! You are truly an inspiration to every member of the triad!!!!!
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Summary: Another view besides an "adoptee's"
Review: This book was RIVETING!!!!! I am an adoptee who is in the reunion process with my birthfamily and have always read materials that related to other adoptees and their searches. This book explores the most intimate feelings a birthmother deals with, including the pregnancy, the birth and the separation. It helped me to completely understand how my birthmother is/was feeling and what I can do to help her. Thank you for writing this book, Carol!!!! I felt your pain, your grief and your happiness!! You are truly an inspiration to every member of the triad!!!!!
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