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Summary: A great guide for Birthparents and Adoptive Parents Alike
Review: As a birthmother I found this book very helpful and even comforting. There are no words to say how wonderfully the authors captured the difficulty of the decision to place a child for adoption nor the greatness of the openness that they talk about in the book.
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Summary: The Third Choice
Review: Birthmothers get over their grief in a year? Get real!! It's too bad these two authors (who just happen to be social workers) didn't get it right! That part of the book is very misleading for those contemplating adoption; it takes us back to the Dark Ages (i.e. most of the last century) when birthmothers were told they would get over it. (Most didn't!) For another slant on adoption, I suggest the book written by Merry Bloch Jones. Also the book by Gediman and Brown. A biography on this subject is Search for Paul David.
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Summary: True Adoption Experts
Review: Mosconi and Foge are right on. They have provided an excellent and unique book for the adoption triad. This is an amazing book for birthparents and a terrific guide to help them through the adoption process. Mosconi and Foge are knowledgeable, informative and true advocates for birthparents, adoptive families and the open adoption process. This book is a 10 and I would recommend it to both birthparents and adoptive parents. There is no other adoption book like it, it is unique and very easy to read. Thank you Mosconi and Foge for making a difference in the wonderful world of adoption.
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Summary: The Third Choice
Review: The book starts out okay and I had some hopes for it. However it breaks down completely whenever the author deals with the issue of Birth Parent grief. Birth Parent grief and pain doesn't decrease or disappear after a year...it's a lifelong process that never ends. Some women do become overwhelmed with grief the first year and turn to emotional numbness as a temporary way to find relief from the pain....but this emotional defense only lasts so long...eventually the pain & grief resurfaces in their life in the forms of: depression, anger, low self-esteem, etc. It's a shame that the authors didn't talk to any experienced Birth Parents about the true course and direction of grief. They took the easy way out and claimed that the pain goes away in a year...comforting for adoptive parents to hear...but none of my Birth Parent friends would agree with this claim!! Read books written by real Birth Mothers if you want to understand how wrong this book is about adoption loss & grief.
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Summary: The info on grief is utter nonsense and incorrect
Review: The book starts out okay and I had some hopes for it. However it breaks down completely whenever the author deals with the issue of Birth Parent grief. Birth Parent grief and pain doesn't decrease or disappear after a year...it's a lifelong process that never ends. Some women do become overwhelmed with grief the first year and turn to emotional numbness as a temporary way to find relief from the pain....but this emotional defense only lasts so long...eventually the pain & grief resurfaces in their life in the forms of: depression, anger, low self-esteem, etc. It's a shame that the authors didn't talk to any experienced Birth Parents about the true course and direction of grief. They took the easy way out and claimed that the pain goes away in a year...comforting for adoptive parents to hear...but none of my Birth Parent friends would agree with this claim!! Read books written by real Birth Mothers if you want to understand how wrong this book is about adoption loss & grief.
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Summary: a must-read for women contemplating adoptive placement
Review: While would-be adoptive parents have many books to help them in their journey, I have seen very few that address the trials facing a woman who is contemplating an adoptive placement. This book is an excellent resource for a woman in that position. Written by two adoption social workers, the book covers all aspects of an adoptive placement: deciding whether adoption is the right choice, choosing the type of adoption, finding the right adoptive parents, getting through the pregnancy and birth, and processing the grief and loss. No book can replace counseling, but this one would be the next best thing for those who refuse counseling (and a great adjunct for those who are getting counseling). I would also recommend it for waiting adoptive parents, because it will help them to better understand what birth parents go through.My only nit with the book is that it tries to cover a lot of ground without getting too long, resulting in fairly shallow treatment of some topics that deserve more depth. I am an adoptive parent seeking to adopt again, and I will try to make sure that any prospective birth mother we work with reads this book!
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