Surviving Separation and Divorce

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Summary: This is a good support
Review: Finally, an easy to read, practical guide written by a woman who has survived the tramatic experiences of separation and divorce. It's a great book for woman faced with the many challenges of living alone and raising children. The author writes from the heart, first-hand, what is important at this time, what steps should be taken, what others can do, what legal actions are necessary, and much more, to survive this painful journey. This book provides a pathway for women to take charge of their situation and to grow from their experiences.

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Summary: Great survivor's guide for separated and divorced women!!!
Review: Finally, an easy to read, practical guide written by a woman who has survived the tramatic experiences of separation and divorce. It's a great book for woman faced with the many challenges of living alone and raising children. The author writes from the heart, first-hand, what is important at this time, what steps should be taken, what others can do, what legal actions are necessary, and much more, to survive this painful journey. This book provides a pathway for women to take charge of their situation and to grow from their experiences.

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Summary: This is a good support
Review: I must correct Tim McWeeney who writes that this is a book about taking an ex husband for all he's worth. He DIDN'T READ the book. He couldn't have. It says so right up front in the introduction, and throughout the text. For all I read (and I'm half-way through it, at least), it's a great support for women reeling in shock when separation is forced upon them. And I see in the table of contents there is indeed information about reconciling a marriage as a possible outcome.

If you only judge a book by its cover, you're missing out. You won't be disappointed if you read this book, I assure you. I know the author is appearing locally at my nearest bookstore soon. I'm looking forward to learning more.

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Summary: I felt better after reading this
Review: Last week my husband came home and out of the blue announced he was leaving me. I was shocked, devistated, angry, hurt...you name it. Right away my friends and family were there to support me and help me realize that I'm better off without this man. I deserve someone better. I read this book in two days and I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I'm in for a rough time ahead but I know that in the long run my life will be so much happier! I recomend this book to anyone facing the pain of separation or divorce.

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Summary: This book has helped...
Review: This book has helped ease the pain of a separation never planned for. A friend in her own troubled marriage agrees after reading several chapters too. Oberlin's style is easy to read, warm and friendly. While she doesn't say it's easy to start over, she's upbeat about the future for those facing a possible divorce or life as a single. And the sense of humor is great -- helps you lighten up when you really need to. Good tips on dating, taking care of yourself and what to look out for. If you're a woman facing separation or divorce, read this book or offer it to a friend who can use it.

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Summary: friendly support!
Review: This book is a great support to women, definitely no signs of being anti-male. From from a caring perspective, I appreciated the hope of reconciliation offered, and yet the firm advice on what life might look like ahead, carving out a new future for myself. Really enjoyed the lawn care humor and the chapter about lightening up during such a stressful time. In fact, I'm buying an extra copy for a friend whose marriage is in turmoil. It may help her make better decisions, too. Thanks much!

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Summary: this book is a great support
Review: This book is a great support to women, definitely no signs of being anti-male. From from a caring perspective, I appreciated the hope of reconciliation offered, and yet the firm advice on what life might look like ahead, carving out a new future for myself. Really enjoyed the lawn care humor and the chapter about lightening up during such a stressful time. In fact, I'm buying an extra copy for a friend whose marriage is in turmoil. It may help her make better decisions, too. Thanks much!

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Summary: Finally, a book focusing on the separation aspect of divorce
Review: When I encountered my own marital separation, there really wasn't anything written about those first few months or years of the divorce process. And while finances and legal issues are a part of the book I've written, I truly present here a lifestyle book for women -- especially since I know the struggle involved in starting over. And since most of us women know at least one friend going through this, my book provides a gift opportunity -- a way of saying, "I care....Here's some help through this difficult time."

While women do need to reframe their past, reorganize their present, and look to an entirely different future, I feel strongly that this book provides a lot of positive information and practical advice. I cover all lifestyle issues involved, starting with caring for yourself and your children. There are entire chapters on parenting, careers, household matters, and learning to laugh again. In specific sections I pose questions such as "could your husband have harmed your health?" and "are you physically or emotionally safe in your marriage?" This is so hard for women to face, but they must confront reality at times. If children are involved, this is a must-read book!

Even though I've met my share of men hurt through separation, I do believe it's a more difficult time for women. We tend to be the nurturers of our relationships. I talk about how to let go of certain emotions, like guilt or lingering anger. This book also contains lists of valuable tips, such as what to do if you feel separation might be occurring in the weeks or months ahead. There is, of course, a section on reconciliation if that is a viable option. And experts in various fields share their opinions too.

People tell me the book is hopeful, and not at all anti-male. In fact, there's even my advice on how beneficial male friendships can be. But I do spell out right and wrong moves. I'm pretty clear on why I feel it's a mistake to date separated men, or to risk a rebound by getting involved too soon. After reading, you can tell me if you agree.

Most important, I want to say that this can be a bright new beginning. Each woman decides whether she'll grow bitter or get better. So rather than let your estranged spouse or your negative energy define you, try to remain open to the field of beautiful possibilities before you -- new friendships, different destinations, careers changes, kinder and gentler men.

If the book helps you, or a friend, through a tough time, then I'll smile! I hope you'll share your thoughts with me, and tell a friend about this book. And my thanks for reading!

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Summary: friendly support!
Review: You know, when you are alone suddenly and scared, not to mention disillusioned by all you thought you had that really wasn't, it's really comforting to read a book that puts you at ease. That's what I felt reading Ms. Oberlin's book. It was just the right balance of empathy, friendly support, and facts you need to know to make better decisions during this difficult time. The chapter on learning to laugh was very welcome too. I'd recommend for all women facing this and plan to buy one as a gift for a friend I know who is still struggling with a separation and pretty ugly divorce.