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The Last Time I Wore a Dress

The Last Time I Wore a Dress

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Rating: 4 stars
Summary: Although times have changed, still relevant
Review: After having read the spotlight reviews of this book, it appears to be necessary to say something in defense of the mental health profession, of which I am not a member.

The fact is, the mental health community and society as a whole have come a long way since 1983 in regards to this area. More than any other segment of the population, I am sure, the social work and psychotherapeutic communities have an informed understanding and humane sympathy for those with transgender issues. In 1983 it was Daphne who was the monster; today, in the eyes of educated people everywhere, it was her treatment that was the monster.

Which is not to say that her book isn't still relevant. There is certainly a vast, vast way to go. Today, an adolescent would at least be able to consider coming forth with their transgender issues; in the 60s and 70s it was unthinkable.

But adolescence is still too late. Humane treatment of those who would have deviation from gender norms would begin at the very earliest time of life. All little girls of preschool age should have the opportunity to be introduced to the kinds of play more typical of boys, and all little boys should have one dress among their available clothes, which they should be presented without prejudice as an option for make-believe or play.

The vast majority of little children of both sexes will prefer the conventional roles. If one child does not, then the parents have somewhat of a problem on their hands. But it is a problem with available choices for action, and a far better option than raising a tormented and poorly-adjusted adult.

Rating: 2 stars
Summary: Growing Up In Mental Hospitals
Review: After seeing Daphne Scholinski on a television program I couldn't wait to read the book.

Having read the book, I now see it had very little to do with how Ms. Scholinski presented her situation on the television program.

This is an autobiography of a young woman who spent most of her teenaged years in various mental health hospitals.

She was discharged from the hospital at age eighteen, apparently because the insurance money had ran out--since her mental state really had not changed all that much. She did, however, seem to be slightly less angry and more communicative and socialable then when she first entered a mental hospital.. That is about all the improvement that occurs.

Towards the end of the book Daphne Scholinski acknowledges her lesbianism. It would have been much more interesting if she had discussed this aspect of her experiences and personal growth in the book.

Daphne also seems to have reached the conclusion that she was not and is not mentally ill. She has decided the sole reason she was placed in a mental hospital was because she was traditionally unfeminine in appearance, behavior, and mode of dress However, the book indicates the period of time where the type of treatment recommended was that she behave and dress as a traditional female--was actually of rather short duration..

Daphne's problems seemed to have been triggered by a lack of parental nuturing, love, and involvment in her life. While her younger sister, Jean, was able to overcome these negative effects, Daphne could not. Why that should be the case, is not clear.

Daphne's main problem, which as far as I could tell, she never fully overcame, if she overcame it any at all---was she never gave a moment's thought to the consequences of her actions.

She seemed to prefer to just live off the top of her head and go with whatever the impulse of the moment was. Frequently, she did not even think through to the finish of the impulse.

Once, she and two other girls from one of the mental health centers! where she was, hitchhiked to the home of a therapist's parents. The parents weren't there at the time. Once there, they had no particular plan. Daphne just thought she'd like to smoke a cigarette in front of the therapist's parents' home.

Much of her stay in various mental hospitals is somewhat repetitive, consisting primarily of various high-jinks she and her comrades pull. Frequently they seem to be able to get hold of alcohol or drugs.

Daphne seems to have no interest at all in improving her situation, nor any clear understanding of how she contributes to it. This is especially true at the beginning of the book. Later, she just decides to blame the whole thing on the mental health care in this country.



Rating: 5 stars
Summary: Incredible
Review: An absolutely astonishing and touching book

Rating: 4 stars
Summary: a definite page turner! stunning true story!
Review: as a confused eighteen year old who is very interested in psychology and peoples personal stories, i have no trouble reccommending this book. It is excelent!

Rating: 4 stars
Summary: Book Review
Review: Daphne Scholinski, admitted to her first mental institution at the age of 15, suffered a severely restricted life up until she was discharged at the age of 18. Diagnosed with Gender Identity Disorder, a relatively new syndrome in the 80's, she went through all the identity confusion, discomfort and hardship of an adolescent not knowing her place in society. With doctors and medics themselves unsure about how to treat the problem, Daphne undergoes many unique experiences as she attempts to fit in with the world around her. As we follow the story of this young woman who has never seen a normal day in her life, we soon learn that even people diagnosed with life-altering disorders are still only human beings .

Rating: 4 stars
Summary: She Didn't Want To Be "Just a Girl"
Review: Ever since she had been little, Daphne Scholinski had always had a somewhat masculine appearance, causing her to suffer the embarrassing fate of being mistaken for a boy in supermarkets, kicked out of public ladies' rooms, and even skated in pairs with unwitting females. When her parents separated, when she was thirteen, and her mother left her in the care of her physically abusive father, Daphne also took on the masculine role of protector for her "girly" younger sister, Jean. As she grew older, she was sent to a therapist because she was flunking out of school, exhibiting anti-social behavior, and had joined a gang. When her behavior persisted, at the age of fifteen, she was sent to the first of a series of three mental hospitals where she would stay until she was eighteen, being treated for depression, substance abuse, an anti-social personality, and above all a mysterious Gender-Identity Disorder, costing more than one million dollars in insurance.

The book starts out with Daphne's father driving her to the first hospital in Chicago, and her casually asking him not to send her. After she arrives, the narrative is a mixture of past and present, as Daphne talks about rebelling against her father and the consequences of that (being whipped with his belt), or how she would spend time at her mother's apartment (performing sexual acts for Frank, a man with a knee-holster who said he was a hit-man.) We hear about those who helped Daphne, such as a kind psychology intern at one hospital, and her third grade teacher; and those who hurt her, such as the best friends who pinned her down and smeared her face with lipstick, and the boys who cruelly raped her during her third and final hospitalization, knowing that because of her diagnosis of a Gender-Identity Disorder, she would never report them. The point Daphne Scholinski seems to be trying to make is that how was anyone else's business whether she chose to behave as a male or a female? No matter what happened, the failing grades, the drug use, the physical abuse--the question people kept asking was "Why won't she wear a dress?" "Why doesn't she want to be a girl?" As an outsider reading about her experiences, I would have to remark, "How could she want to be a girl, given all the abuse she endured because she was female?"

In the end, Daphne Scholinski has made great strides at trying to create a life for herself in spite of her traumatic past. She is an artist, has spoken at the UN conference on Women at Beijing, China, and has been on countless television programs. This book was like a techni-color version of "Girl, Interrupted", filling us in on the author's day-to-day experience in a mental hospital, and her past. It is difficult to write-off Scholinski's trials as whining or self-pitying, as she describes the abuse she endured, physically--at the hands of her father; sexually, five times--twice while she was hospitalized--and emotionally, with such restrictions as being forbidden to have even a friendship with a female patient, because the hospital feared that this might lead to homosexuality. This isn't any ordinary sort of grief. A really neat thing at the end of the book is that if you go to the back where the author's notes are, Daphne Scholinski has an AOL e-mail address where you can contact her and she will write back! Although I can't say this is a book to enjoy, it is definitely one of the more profound books I have read.

Rating: 5 stars
Summary: Transcending A Living Nightmare
Review: Having come from an abusive home, I can relate to what Daphne/Dylan must have felt and how he behaved while trying to cope with his Gender-Identity and the far-from-sympathetic world around him in the 1980's. I came out as gay in 1970 and then as Transgendered in 1993, after having wrestled with "my self-knowledge - vs - what other people tried to make me act like" for MANY years prior -- it was a rocky hellish road at times, but (despite the abuse!) my parents accepted me (grudgingly at times) for who/what I was. I have nothing but kind words for those Tansgendered friends of mine, who like Dylan, persevered through their own private torment, and who accepted me for who I was and for how I identified myself.

I applaud Dylan for having the inner strength to keep going - keep going, no matter the present torment, no matter how horrible the present situation is - keep going forward with your own goal in mind, no matter how clear-cut or nebulous it is. This book has and will inspire others out there who "think they are the only ones" going through this.

We may have come far but in too many parts of this country, children and young adults -- who are trying to reconcile their birth gender with their personal gender identity -- are still being put thru a living nightmare; parents abusing, insulting dismissing them from their households, with no nurturance, no desire to understand their own offspring; even their classmates, teachers, strangers, even friends turning against them. It takes HUGE inner strength to rise above all that and to keep going, keep going forward.

This book will shock, inspire and galvanize. I hope it also EDUCATES those who harbor any prejudices against transgendered individuals, ESPECIALLY those who treat patients with Gender Identity "Disorder".. Since the beginning of time,the spectrum of Masculine and Feminine has run through ALL genders in varying degrees, and not necessarily always corresponding to the individual's birth gender.

In today's civilized and educated society, it is abut time that young people like Dylan are raised with compassion and understanding instead of with psychodramatic brutality. It is my hope that this book also reaches out to those in Child Protective Services as well as those professionals in the fields of Therapy.

Rating: 5 stars
Summary: READ. NOW.
Review: I am an 18 year old female from Virginia. I've always identified as a girl, but I've never been the girly-girl type. I also know people with trans issues, and I never really knew much about it, but I've been learning more and more and with each thing I read I'm aware of the ridiculousness of gender identities and roles.

I've always been cynical about the mental health profession, and this book really opened my eyes a little bit wider to the things that go on in mental hospitals, and it's inspired me to do more. I've never been in one myself, but I am carted off to see a counselor and a psychotherapist at least once every two weeks, because I'm not "motivated" in school, and because I don't have any "practical" plans for the future. Also, I'm "depressed" and "moody". I'm supposed to take an anti-depressant, but the bottle is sitting on my desk, unopened. I don't like pills. How are they supposed to "fix" someone?

This book also helped me understand a little but more about gender issues. I recently read "The Frailty Myth" by Collette Dowling, and I plan on writing a book eventually about how "masculinity" and "femininity" are labels created by a patriarchial society. I don't think that boys and girls are either of these. Sure, we have the different parts, but they're purely biological and needed for the survival of the human race, but a person is no less of a human because he/she doesn't "fit in" with their gender. The so-called roles, I believe, are created and enforced by society, not nature.

Above all, I STRONGLY recommend this book...for anyone who was deemed "inappropriate", anyone who wants to elanr more about gender issues, anyone who's ever been lost and lonely, anyone who just wants a good dramatic read....hell, I'd recommend it for anyone.

Rating: 1 stars
Summary: More fiction than fact.
Review: I find the entire story to be contrived. I know of many people who work in the area of psychology, psychiatry and mental health. Personally I have a degree in Psychology and currently work in the field. There is little evidence in the book that would be a grounds for so many years in institutions! My feeling is there is more illness than is being relayed, classic Sociopathic symptoms come to mind.I fear this kind of diatribe aimed at institutions will hurt the field of mental health and I believe it will harm the gay population as well for allowing fiction to be exemplified as actual experience of a young lesbian woman as I highly doubt she was institutionalized for being a tom- boy. There are too many true and terrible stories that need to be recognized, not this false memoir.

Rating: 1 stars
Summary: More fiction than fact.
Review: I find the entire story to be contrived. I know of many people who work in the area of psychology, psychiatry and mental health. Personally I have a degree in Psychology and currently work in the field. There is little evidence in the book that would be a grounds for so many years in institutions! My feeling is there is more illness than is being relayed, classic Sociopathic symptoms come to mind.I fear this kind of diatribe aimed at institutions will hurt the field of mental health and I believe it will harm the gay population as well for allowing fiction to be exemplified as actual experience of a young lesbian woman as I highly doubt she was institutionalized for being a tom- boy. There are too many true and terrible stories that need to be recognized, not this false memoir.


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