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Rating: Summary: Very helpful book Review: I highly recommend this book for anyone who had a painful childhood. It helps you to realize how much your childhood and the patterns you learned from it affect your adult life. Even if you think you have dealt with the issues, reading this book will help you to find the ones you did not even know were there and fix them.
Rating: Summary: Abusive doen't begin to explain it Review: I see this is a reprint of an earlier book, and how I missed it is beyond me. Most people know of the "Adult Children of Alcoholics" books, but that never worked for me since my parents didn't touch the stuff, but could have passed for those who did with their anger, depression, rage, and physical and emotional abuse they doled out. Finally, I've found the one book that has helped me. If you're interested in other books dealing with this subject, though they're not "self-help" books, try reading either "Running with Scissors" or "The Bark of the Dogwood." Both deal with abusive parents and yet both have funny elements. Dark humor. Still, worth checking out after your devoured "Adult Children of Abusive Parents." Read this book-break the patterns!!!
Rating: Summary: good start, but need more Review: I thought this book was great for anyone FIRST realizing that they were abused as children in any form: physical, verbal or sexual (most literature about abuse is on sexual, and most literature on domestic violence focuses on wife battering instead of child battering, so this book seemed more inclusive). Unfortunately, the book, which is 10 plus years old, focuses too much on forgiveness, which puts a huge burden on the abused child/adult. I recommend that one skip some of Farmer's "steps to healing" and move on to other books more recent, such as Jean Jenson's "Reclaiming Your Life: A Step-by-step guide to Using REgression Therapy to Overcome the Effects of Childhood Abuse." I think Jenson does more to get at the root of one's triggers, and the need to grieve from the right space, whereas Farmer seems to be putting band-aids on the situation. I think Farmer's was a good book for it's time, and is a good first step, but I would move on to more intensive books that will really help the abused route out the cause of so much pain and unconcious living. This is my humble opinion and I speak from experience.
Rating: Summary: A much needed prescription for victims Review: Thank you, Mr. Farmer, for recognizing that the hurt doesn't stop once the abuse does; for me, coping with it as an adult was more difficult than as a child because I now realize with an adult's intelligence and insight, exactly what was being done to me and how horrible it was. So much abuse is undetected until the child grows up and realizes that no, this isn't normal (I didn't realize all families weren't like this) and it WAS wrong. Too many well-meaning people minimize the adult survivor's pain or dismiss it as meaningless: "that was years ago and it's over" "get over it and move on" or the worst, "Just don't dwell on it anymore." If you haven't been abused, you don't get it and never will. thank you, Mr. Farmer, for not only understanding, but for showing us a way out. The focus on child abuse is on children, not the survivors, and we need help too.
Rating: Summary: For all now-adult-suffering due to a rotten childhood. Review: The first section, "Growing up abused", is a non-technical yet thoroughly informative. It provides a clear picture of how abuse effects a child and how this afflicts your adult life. A must read, even if only while browsing through your book store.The second section, "Your Recovery", contains an expansive collection of physical and emotional exercises. Each is accompanied with an outline of healthy behaviour. I guess each person has their own recovery schedule and prefered methods so the the exerecises may not suit everyone. Most of them didn't suit me but at least this section acted more like a compass needle to what is strived for in recovering. This book is a definite stop on the road to recovery and a good reference companion after you move on.
Rating: Summary: For all now-adult-suffering due to a rotten childhood. Review: This book is a step by step instruction, by a licensed psychologist who himself is a vitim of a child abuse. Written in an easy-to read and informative fashion is provides you with specific set of exercises to heal the emotinal wounds and see things from healthier perspective. It's a must-read for anybody seeking healing and help in that difficult area. I highly recommend it.
Rating: Summary: Help is on the way Review: This book is a step by step instruction, by a licensed psychologist who himself is a vitim of a child abuse. Written in an easy-to read and informative fashion is provides you with specific set of exercises to heal the emotinal wounds and see things from healthier perspective. It's a must-read for anybody seeking healing and help in that difficult area. I highly recommend it.
Rating: Summary: How did he know that is what I have been feeling? Review: This book is phenomenal for people starting the road to recovery from childhood abuse. I have read it, highlighted it for my husband to read, and continue to refer to it alot. As I continue down the road to recovery, I am thrilled to have found this book that has helped me become aware that my thoughts and feelings are totally normal. Thanks you Mr. Farmer.
Rating: Summary: Genuinely Helpful ! Review: Wonderful book for those who refuse to remain a victim, and are sincere about healing and recovery.
Farmer spends just the right amount of time in covering the types of abuse. Much of the book is spent on a step-by-step, in-depth recovery and healing process. It talks about healing one's self, dealing with parents and others, and how to break the cycle of abusive behavior.
It's not a book that says "stay a victim", and it's not a book that where every other line says "you need a therapist for any success". It's a very useful book that anyone with abusive parents can benefit greatly from.
Out of all the books I've read about abusive parents, this one has been the most useful. Thank you, Steven Farmer.
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