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Summary: Buy This Book!
Review: Fact of the matter is a lot of the "lifestyle" books out there just concentrate on one area. I think Gloria Brame does an excellent job of incorporting many area's into one publication that is still small enough most can read it from cover to cover without getting sidetracked or bored. Many seem to have the opinion that this book is just for "newcommers" or for "vanilla's" to read so they can understand the "lifetsyle" better. I disagree. I think it is a wonderful little jewel. In my experience though, people with years of experience have forgotten what it was like to just start to learn of the lifestyle and to just begin exploring it.I'd been "in the lifestyle" for several years by the time I read this book. And it took me back to where I had been. And it helps me to see how others I interact with may feel. At the same time it can give me a better sense of the basics. The "basics" seeming to be what many of us forget when we get so set in our own way of doing things and our own opinions. It was easy to read. I didn't get bored. {which happens all to often when I do try to read something to detailed or lengthy.} It was informational. Some of the information I already knew but it didn't hurt to see it again from another perspective. Most of all it was educational from several points of view. Overall it was a good read. I recommend it quite often. It does add a bit of variety from many of the other publications oftentimes listed for learning more about the "lifestyle."
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Summary: Good Reading
Review: Fact of the matter is a lot of the "lifestyle" books out there just concentrate on one area. I think Gloria Brame does an excellent job of incorporting many area's into one publication that is still small enough most can read it from cover to cover without getting sidetracked or bored. Many seem to have the opinion that this book is just for "newcommers" or for "vanilla's" to read so they can understand the "lifetsyle" better. I disagree. I think it is a wonderful little jewel. In my experience though, people with years of experience have forgotten what it was like to just start to learn of the lifestyle and to just begin exploring it. I'd been "in the lifestyle" for several years by the time I read this book. And it took me back to where I had been. And it helps me to see how others I interact with may feel. At the same time it can give me a better sense of the basics. The "basics" seeming to be what many of us forget when we get so set in our own way of doing things and our own opinions. It was easy to read. I didn't get bored. {which happens all to often when I do try to read something to detailed or lengthy.} It was informational. Some of the information I already knew but it didn't hurt to see it again from another perspective. Most of all it was educational from several points of view. Overall it was a good read. I recommend it quite often. It does add a bit of variety from many of the other publications oftentimes listed for learning more about the "lifestyle."
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Summary: a satisfying quickie
Review: Fast paced, light-hearted and utterly humane, this book helps shed some much-needed light on a subject most people would prefer to keep in the dark: kinky sex. Not so much an in-depth discussion on the subject, but more of an introductory ice-breaker. This is a great book to give a friend or loved-one who may wish to expand the boundaries of their personal lives. (Or, if you want to seduce them into expanding their boundaries...)
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Summary: SKIN TWO REVIEW
Review: From Skin Two magazine: "Gloria Brame is to heterosexual kinky sex what Pat Califia has been to the lesbian equivalent. She has an admirable talent for explaining the hows and whys of kink and promoting it as a perfectly acceptable alternative to vanilla, demystifying it without destroying its thrill. Although aimed at the 'mainstream reader', this excellent book will provide a thought-provoking, informative and entertaining read for the experienced player. It covers the basic kinks--bondage, transgenderism, fetishism, SM, DS etc--plus some you might not have heard of. There's advice on things like play party etiquette and how to attract a femdom, along with discussion of thorny problems like dealing with hostile partners and how to punish a masochist. Brame's authoritative writing is backed by sound knowledge of the science and psychology behind the things kinky people get up to (she has a PhD in Human Sexuality) and enlivened by her wicked sense of humour. Buy this book as a gift for someone, but make sure you read it first yourself!" SKIN TWO, Summer issue 32, page 24.
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Summary: SKIN TWO REVIEW
Review: From Skin Two magazine: "Gloria Brame is to heterosexual kinky sex what Pat Califia has been to the lesbian equivalent. She has an admirable talent for explaining the hows and whys of kink and promoting it as a perfectly acceptable alternative to vanilla, demystifying it without destroying its thrill. Although aimed at the 'mainstream reader', this excellent book will provide a thought-provoking, informative and entertaining read for the experienced player. It covers the basic kinks--bondage, transgenderism, fetishism, SM, DS etc--plus some you might not have heard of. There's advice on things like play party etiquette and how to attract a femdom, along with discussion of thorny problems like dealing with hostile partners and how to punish a masochist. Brame's authoritative writing is backed by sound knowledge of the science and psychology behind the things kinky people get up to (she has a PhD in Human Sexuality) and enlivened by her wicked sense of humour. Buy this book as a gift for someone, but make sure you read it first yourself!" SKIN TWO, Summer issue 32, page 24.
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Summary: Making sense of "kink".....
Review: Gloria Brame takes you on a step-by-step journey in understanding the realm of kinky sex. Her obvious knowledge of the subject along with her humor and wit, truly makes "Come Hither...." the first choice in, what I would consider, self-help literature.
In reading "Come Hither....", after years of considering myself "abnormal", I learned there was much to appreciate and love about my sexuality.
Hats off to Gloria Brame for such an insightful, delightful explanation of "kink"!!!
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Summary: Written to a SHARP Point!
Review: Having been involved in various aspects of kink since the late 70's, I'm usually unimpressed with the crop of fad-riding how to's about the subject popping up these days. Come Hither, however, breaks through the pack and stands out remarkably as a MUST READ if you're serious about understanding the amazing possibilities that can come from exploring natural, kink-filled passions (or need a useful tool in helping a loved one understand). Rather than coming off as a stale, academic guide, Dr. Gloria Brame has witfully woven together all of the basics in an innovative form that can be easily molded to individual tastes. Her experience in the field of sexology comes through solidly in the many technical tips offered in the text, but I also found that the book provided a nice blend of pertinent anecdotes and useful opinions that gives the reader ample food for thought in drawing their own conclusions. While perhaps not groundbreaking in its content, Come Hither clearly leaps to the head of the class as a literary model in portraying kink as healthy, safe, exciting and most of all, FUN! Great info. Great ideas. Great style. I strongly recommend it to everyone regardless of experience level.
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Summary: Colonel
Review: I have read other books professing to be "guides to kinky sex" but they usually have included too much of the het perspective, which I am not a fan of, rather than focusing solely one side versus the other, this is a perfect blend of the two. Come Hither appealed to that part of me that believes in the beauty and passion of kinky sex being just as normal as white bread, while also validating the empowerment all gay men need to feel around their sexuality and sexual expression. A wonderful testament to the interface between hot sexual encounters and the pursuit for sexual freedom with an added touch of old guard leather-sex history.
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Summary: For the most part - a fun common sense sane book on d/s
Review: I've finally got around to reading Come Heither - and it was a great trip. Fun and light but insightfull the author covers the basics and shares her experience about d/s in a friendly human way. This is a big plus. Part of me thinks there isn't a lot new here (Sensuous Magic and Screw the thorns are still the classics for me) what is rare is Brame's idea that if d/s players spent more time on the emotional, psychological and sensual aspects of it rather then the type of toys you use the scene would be full of much happier people. Common sense but not something I've seen a lot in the scene so far. Also her common sense explantion of what makes a good dominant, lifestyle as opposed to role play, and interacting in public are worth buying the book alone. It was very helpful to me in those aspects. A side note. I started to understand d/s better once I read a few vanilla relationship books. A Mistress is still a human being despite all the melodrama. We need more "human" books out there like this one. bravo! (HieroV@aol.com)
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Summary: For Beginners Only
Review: My first and only complaint: this book is subtitled "A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex" and there is very little information on kinky sex to be found outside of the BDSM arena. Frankly, in my opinion, Bondage & Domination is probably the LEAST kinky sex there is. That said, this little book should come in handy for beginners who think they are freaks for wanting to be spanked. There's plenty of commonsense information about the practical side of tying people up and what to do once they are tied. Lots of questions from "real" people and lots of anecdotal evidence. Overall, it's a fine little book for helping people get on the right side of their alternate sexuality. Along with some clever marketing (a too cute cover) and a charming title, this will probably be the book that people select over a more clinical-sounding book, like "The Bondage Handbook", or something. The information is no different, no better and no more insightful; Gloria Brame just has a better friend in the publicity department.
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