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Review: "Dr. Brame gives us a sorely needed Baedeker to the secret land of SM."--Graham Masterson, author of The Seven Secrets of Really Great Sex
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Review: "I think of Dr. Gloria Brame as the Dr. Albert Einstein of kink. She explores and researches the world of S/M and B/D with great intellect, heart, and sensitivity." --Annie Sprinkle, Kinky Porn Star/Sex Educator
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Summary: Good for the intended audience
Review: And that intended audience is the average person who may have heard the term kinky, seen something kinky in the mass media, or show partner as asked him/her to do something kinky. The language is clear and simple for the most part and Brame's tone is one of understanding. Most of the chapters are organized well and there is no attempt made to tell someone who to do different activities -- that is rightly left to more specific guides. However, just as with "Different Loving", this book is in serious need of citations and evidence for many many statements which are made -- so a word of caution to not just blinding believe what you read. Another very odd problem is the "kinky reading list" which does not included many very well written books from Greenery Press and yet includes far more advanced books (such as "Beneath the Skins" and "Leatherfolk") that beginners really do not need to read until they are far more experienced and grounded.
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Summary: Good for the intended audience
Review: And that intended audience is the average person who may have heard the term kinky, seen something kinky in the mass media, or show partner as asked him/her to do something kinky. The language is clear and simple for the most part and Brame's tone is one of understanding. Most of the chapters are organized well and there is no attempt made to tell someone who to do different activities -- that is rightly left to more specific guides. However, just as with "Different Loving", this book is in serious need of citations and evidence for many many statements which are made -- so a word of caution to not just blinding believe what you read. Another very odd problem is the "kinky reading list" which does not included many very well written books from Greenery Press and yet includes far more advanced books (such as "Beneath the Skins" and "Leatherfolk") that beginners really do not need to read until they are far more experienced and grounded.
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Summary: Finally, the answers to your most gnawing questions
Review: Are you curious about kink, but too shy to ask? Then "Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex" is the answer to your prayers. Brame's warmth and humor make this an entertaining read for anyone, but her intended audience is that enormous segment of society that would never - ever! - venture into a public venue to explore their kink. (Some with secret kinky fantasies that they're afraid to tell ANYONE about.) This is a kinky sex-positive message for the uninitiated masses, (or the newly initiated who are still figuring things out) and for anyone with someone kinky in their life. (Doesn't that about cover everyone?) Not to be confused with the numerous "how-to" guides available, "Come Hither" has a distinctly (but unobtrusively) therapeutic slant, educating and making us feel good about kinky sex. For its scope and readability and potential to change lives, I rank this one right up there with the original, unabridged "The Joy of Sex."
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Summary: Must-have bdsm book with sense of humor
Review: As much as I respected Different Loving, I think with Come Hither Dr. Brame has finally written a book that everyone can read and enjoy, cover to cover. Some of the quizzes were funny as hell and the glossary is invaluable. The book was chockful of new ideas. As a lifestyler I was impressed with the way she defines lifestyle vs roleplay SM--I've never seen it explained that way and it added new dimension for me to wiitwd. I also never saw good advice before about how to get your partner to do SM with you before. Most of the books on SM are written by amateurs. That's one of the best things about Dr. Brame. She's a professional writer. It really shows when you compare it to most of what's out there. This isn't just informative, it's a great read!
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Summary: Intended audience -- do you fall into that category?
Review: Brame's "Come Hither" is really for those who are looking to either spice up their love life or those who are turned off by the average BDSM books and organizations. However, Brame does suggest that you getinvolved and do more reading -- an excellent piece of advice since the bibliography and recommended books she lists leave a good deal out and "common sense" is rarely a great guide to life, especially sex. In 13 chapters she does a good job of looking at several issues and behaviors that one may want to try that fall into the BDSM umbrella. As I find frustrately common in non-fiction sexuality books, there is a lack of correct citations.
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Summary: Intended audience -- do you fall into that category?
Review: Brame's "Come Hither" is really for those who are looking to either spice up their love life or those who are turned off by the average BDSM books and organizations. However, Brame does suggest that you getinvolved and do more reading -- an excellent piece of advice since the bibliography and recommended books she lists leave a good deal out and "common sense" is rarely a great guide to life, especially sex. In 13 chapters she does a good job of looking at several issues and behaviors that one may want to try that fall into the BDSM umbrella. As I find frustrately common in non-fiction sexuality books, there is a lack of correct citations.
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Summary: Buy This Book!
Review: Come Hither is exactly what it bills itself to be -- the commonsense guide to kinky sex. Author Gloria Brame presents great information in a clear, straightforward, and lighthearted way, handling a potentially prickly subject with an ease that is most inviting. The book is not pretentious as so many others in this category tend to be. The information is solid and highly practical, with real-life application -- again, unlike many other books dealing with adult relationships. The quizzes in particular are fun and enlightening, and a great way to open up a dialogue with your partner. BUY THIS BOOK! It's a must-read.
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Summary: Good Reading
Review: Fact of the matter is a lot of the "lifestyle" books out there just concentrate on one area. I think Gloria Brame does an excellent job of incorporting many area's into one publication that is still small enough most can read it from cover to cover without getting sidetracked or bored. Many seem to have the opinion that this book is just for "newcommers" or for "vanilla's" to read so they can understand the "lifetsyle" better. I disagree. I think it is a wonderful little jewel. In my experience though, people with years of experience have forgotten what it was like to just start to learn of the lifestyle and to just begin exploring it.I'd been "in the lifestyle" for several years by the time I read this book. And it took me back to where I had been. And it helps me to see how others I interact with may feel. At the same time it can give me a better sense of the basics. The "basics" seeming to be what many of us forget when we get so set in our own way of doing things and our own opinions. It was easy to read. I didn't get bored. {which happens all to often when I do try to read something to detailed or lengthy.} It was informational. Some of the information I already knew but it didn't hurt to see it again from another perspective. Most of all it was educational from several points of view. Overall it was a good read. I recommend it quite often. It does add a bit of variety from many of the other publications oftentimes listed for learning more about the "lifestyle."
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