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Summary: birthbond
Review: Excellent book. Very thorough and compassionate approach. I recommend this to anyone in the adoption triad, especially birthparents and adoptees.
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Summary: Realistic Expectations
Review: Five Stars ... this book was wonderful. Truly a blessing for anyone in the process of search and reunion. It helps the adoptee understand the feelings and emotions of both their birth family and their adoptive family. For parents (both birth and adoptive), it provides a wonderful sense of not being alone. Other people have and do experience the same emotions. I definitely recommend this book to anyone embarking on the journey of reunion! It provides the reader with an understanding of what they can expect during every point in the reunion process and beyond!
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Summary: Great for the adoptee and the birthmom perspectives.
Review: Highly recommended to anyone who is an adoptee or a birthmom. Great material. Keeps you reading to the very last page. Good references.
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Summary: Pioneering Work Exceeds Expectations
Review: I found this book to be thought provoking and a great help in understanding the plight of SOME birth mothers. All adoptions are not the same and whether or not you find your birth mother/father, this book is a very good resource to start thinking outside the box. It gives a viewpoint outside of 'us'. In reality, as adoptees, it really is usually all about 'me'. As an adult, 40+, reunited with my birthmother for the past 2.5 years, this book gave me a clearer understanding of the difficulties that she may be going through in this process as well as opening my mind to view the experience in a different perhaps more profound way. My only advice to younger readers is read EVERY book you can. There are NO clear cut answers. There is no magical answer. BUT every book will give you some insight. You may or may not agree with everything the author says, however, if you can take one thing and learn about the process, or yourself or even your birthmother's experience, then it will be worth the price.
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Summary: Waste of Time
Review: I have read half a dozen books on this subject and I keep referring back to this one. It was not nearly as negative and depressing as some of the other books I read. It gave me hope that my own reunion can be affected by my understanding of my birthmother's feelings.
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Summary: I keep coming back
Review: I have read half a dozen books on this subject and I keep referring back to this one. It was not nearly as negative and depressing as some of the other books I read. It gave me hope that my own reunion can be affected by my understanding of my birthmother's feelings.
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Summary: Thoughts from one blessed w/two through adoption
Review: I purchased this book as a reunion with the birthmom's of my two is inevitable and welcome. We have a semi-open adoption with both birthmoms as they are welcome to write any time and we write them a couple of times a year.This book will have me better prepared to help my kids through their reunions and after. I bought the book to educate myself as to what we may or may not encounter during and after the reunion. The book is mildy dry in some parts but definitely a worthy read.
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Summary: Meaningless
Review: I received this book as a gift. I read this book before my reunion and it didn't mean anything to me. I looked at it again afterward, and it *still* didn't mean anything to me. Each person's situation is different and reading how people completely unlike you have handled a situation is not particularily helpful. About the only thing useful in this book is the suggestion to register with the Soundex Registry...and it's certainly not worth the cost of the book to find *that* out.
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Summary: Waste of Time
Review: I was sadly disappointed in this book--did not find myself (a reunited birthmother)on any of the pages or find any useful information. I had a hard time continuing to read this dry, often clinically written review of the experiences of 30 birthmothers who relinquished their children in the 50s and 60s. The book spent the first half going into detail about the circumstances of several adoptions from the get-go. I was expecting a book that mostly addressed the issues facing reunited birthmothers, what to watch out for during the initial contact and the developing relationship with a located adoptee. Perhaps there is some useful information in the last half of this book, but by the time I got to that part I was so turned off by the writing style that I had shifted into "skim-and-scan" mode just to keep my attention from wandering to more interesting subjects, such as the laundry!
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Summary: Birthbond: Reunions Between Birthparents and Adoptees
Review: In the late 1980s, there were few books for birthmothers. This book validated the emotional pain I had carried (silently) during the decades after surrendering my child to a system of closed adoption. One of the authors is a birthmother. Thank you, Judith and Linda, for a pioneering work which, I'm sure, helped many people!
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