Becoming Family: How to Build a Stepfamily That Really Works

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Summary: Love this book!
Review: Written from a Christian perspective, this book is extremely well organized and packed with concrete real-life guidance. The chapters stress the importance of seeing each family member's point of view and gives practical, easy-to-understand advice that focuses on strengthening the marriage and new family bonds. The book doesn't mask the challenges a stepfamily faces, but instead, tempers them with hope. You'll see how several stepfamilies used faith and Biblical teachings to carry on and succeed.

Taking the approach of the reader's stepfamily as "God's calling to a new life," the authors help the reader understand her identity and help it grow in light of new challenges and circumstances. The book also focuses on understanding "human limitations:" you can't please all of the people all of the time. Acknowledging that fact helps couples work through their problems with new insight.

The book offers good advice and guidance in helping all family members deal with loyalty conflicts and in managing limited resources. In "The Ex-Factor," you'll find tips on dealing with the challenges of a former spouse. The difficulties and experiences expressed by the stepparents ring true.

Finally, the book discusses the rewards of stepfamily life, giving us a few "happy ending" stories for inspiration. And you'll find suggestions for group discussions (divided by chapter), but the suggestions would also be valuable if used just within your family. I think you'll like this book.

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Summary: A must for anyone in a stepfamily.
Review: You will find yourself spoken to and about, throughout this book. Are you in denial? I didn't know I was until reading this book. It is truly difficult being in a stepfamily, but this book helps you to cope with issues you don't want to address.