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Summary: MISJUDGEMENT
Review: The author writes with bitterness and blaming. Read between the lines. Her own conflict with the own son says more than 10000 words. But of course there is only one scapegoat in her view. Denial and blame on the victims. This book was very difficult too read, can not recommend it at all, because it does not help you, it is just a constant accusation of the others' faults.
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Summary: Zero Stars
Review: This author does not take any responsibility. Blaming others only. No changes.... blaming and self-pity.
There are plenty of good books if your family is in troubles. NOT THIS ONE.
Recommended: Toxic Parents, Emotional Blackmail from S.Forward etc
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Summary: Self-Serving book about the evils of Daughter-in-laws
Review: This author has a clear agenda to paint daughter-in-laws as the masterminds behind many family estrangements. She offers absolutely no scientific research to support her charges. She doesn't examine the possibly that a mother or father in-law could be the cause of a rift and certainly never concludes that a son may WANT to leave his family. No, the DIL is blamed for forcing her husband to take sides with her against his family of origin. Newsflash: Sons will not become estranged from their birth families if the underlying relationship with his parents is overwhelmingly healthy. Newflash #2: Disfunctional people don't generally admit they are flawed. But the author believes without question that the mothers she interview with estranged sons did not contribute at all to the estrangement! Gee, I doubt they'd admit that they were controlling, narcissistic, alcoholic, possessive, jealous, etc. This book is an incredibly self-serving project which may make the author feal like a martyr and give her a big thumbs up for being so brave and so forgiving. Writing a book about estrangements is a wonderful distraction from actually looking inward and reflecting on how the author herself may have contributed to her own pain. Nah, much easier blaming the daughter-in-law and pretending the family of origin was a slice of heaven on earth. No sense looking at one's own faults. Sigh.
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Summary: controversial book. warning
Review: this book can damage your family relations if you adhere to the author's advise.
do not blame others only but look at yourself too. if you do not, you could find yourself isolated very quickly.
read more than this book and get other ideas and concepts. the more i read, the clearer it became how isolated the author is in the landscape of self-help books.
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Summary: Talkshow level
Review: This book can not be meant serious.
OK if you need some controversial talkshow guests, yes. Yes, then the book could be a source of resentiments and to heed up the discussion.
But. This is all.
There is no constructive conflict solution. Responsibilities are easlily and lighthearted shifted to the other party who from now on is the scapegoat. Great to learn this.
But this will not help anybody who seriously wants to safe family relations.
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Summary: How To Please Mommy or Mommy in Law
Review: This book is a waste of paper. The author has her own obvious agenda. After reading just pages of each chapter the author's propaganda and emotional warfare is evident throughout the book.
I bought this book to help with my own situation. As the future daughter-in-law I was most interested in Chapter 4, which is about in-law relationships. Ms. LeBey portrays young women who are assertive in their daily lives as "manipulative" of their future husbands. She accuses all daughters-in-law of attempting to cut off communicaton between adult sons and their families. She calls this "alienating wives and enabling husbands" Ultimately, she describes the daughter-in-law in a most unfavorable light, blaming the assertive woman for standing up for her rights to be treated well. Meanwhile, LeBey portrays the parents-in-law as mere victims of the horrible daugher-in-law and her efforts to thwart their involvement in their sons' life. --Get Real Lady!!!! In fact she doesn't touch on the emotional stuggles parents face when their sons marry. She doesn't look to see how mothers-in-law could welcome the new family member--instead she focuses on how the new daughter-in-law is set against the sons' family.
I think if the parents-in-law were as benign as LeBey asserts then their would be no problems when families blend. I do not recommend this book. It is clearly written and meant for one side only. It focuses on using over-emotional language to elicit blame to certain parties within the family relationship. This book is clearly LeBey's attempt to cope with her own family estrangement. She absolves the parents of any responsibilty within the changing family unit for setting appropriate boundries and expectations.
My advice instead of wasting 3 dollars like I did is to go to a therapist and see how you can cope with the family rift yourself. The therapist will be able to see your situation from the perspective that you are coming from, whereas this book is written for mothers and fathers of adult children who still want to manipulate their children.
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Summary: not too good book
Review: this book is one sided and that's why I can not make use of it. was looking for severe advise to handle my mother-in-law. unfortunately Lebey only describes her point of view, that daughters-in-law
1) have always the fault
2) want to control sons
and that's why the family does not work. Could not there be other perspectives in this book please!
waste of money because no advise, read the free pages here at amazon and make a choice yourself
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Summary: estranged no more
Review: This book was a gift in more ways than one. I thought the content was espacially informative and sensitive. It seemed to not only identify many of the scenerios in life where one can get "snagged", but it also gave the reader some very definite and meaningful solutions. Estrangements are very painful. It's about time someone had the courage and the insight to write about it. Thank you Ms. LeBey !
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Summary: One side of the conflict
Review: Unfortunately, in almost every relationship covered, the author only addresses one side of the conflict. For this reason the book fails to accomplish it's goal and provide help to ALL those in the conflict. For example, the author relates the story of her estrangement with her son and her daughter-in-law. Many other reviewers have pointed out her obvious lack of attention to the other side of the story - her son's. However, the author also fails to mention her own relationships with her mothers'-in-law during the course of her own marriages. Silence as to these relationships surely leads one to suspect.
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