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Summary: This is a MUST Read for survivors of Rape and Sexual Assault
Review: As a survivor of sexual assault, this book was a Godsend while I was emotionally prepairing for my university judicial hearing as well as my show-cause hearing in district. As a survivor herself, Ms.Warshaw must have known the importance of including the stories of other survivors in her book. It was by reading about people like my self and other survivors can comprehend what we might go through and that we are not alone. However, there are still some people who decided that they wanted to try and disprove the point that rape and sexual assault hurts women in ways that people who have not survived a sexual assault could possabily understand. In this new addition, Ms. Warshaw puts her detractors(and they KNOW who they are)to shame by not only providing an awesome counter argument, but by using Real Facts obtained in a Scientific Study. These are some of the things that her detractors did not do.
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Summary: Yes, he is a nasty one...
Review: Dear former commenters...you have the right to be disgusted by Nathan J. Yoder's comments. He is a vile, power-tripping, egotistical, pseudo-intellectual who revels in debate. Feel free to ignore his irksome commentary.
This book is not perfect...but it will be helpful to rape victims and many woman interested in the sociology of date rape.
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Summary: Thanks to all
Review: I chose the title for this book from the comment I heard again and again from the women I interviewed. All of them knew that something dreadful had happened, but, "I never called it rape," they said. Many of those women, and others, now know that what happened to them was, indeed, rape. I'm grateful to all those who helped me create both editions of this book and I appreciate the kind comments that have been posted here. The best news I can offer is that the women who shared their stories with me have created good and strong lives for themselves.
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Summary: College Educator's opinion
Review: I find this book to be an excellent referral however, i'd prefer to see a revised edition. The statistics are outdated but the story is excellent.
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Summary: Spoken like a true man.
Review: I have recently been molested by someone I thought to be my best friend. Yes, I am starting this off this way because this is important for people to know when reading reviews for this kind of book.
Now when scrolling down to read the reviews for this book I noticed this top one titled "Misandrist Feminist Propaganda" by Nathan J. Yoder. Well Nathan, your response to this book is so callous and rude that I cannot even begin to collect my thoughts as orderly as I like. Your comments are so horribly insensitive that I can only be led to believe that you yourself have coerced someone into having sex with you. Let me tell you this. If the person that you are propositioning sex from says no even once and you continue, it is still rape.
And the horribly stupid comment you left at te end of your review:
"Of course, when a man is drunk, the principle never applies because it's an anti-male principle."
This is also not true. If ANYONE has unwanted sexual contact, whether it be male or female, whether they are drunk or sober, IT IS NOT OKAY. There is NO justification and no excuses!
That is, unless you are trying to convince yourself that what you did wasn't wrong, like the man that molested me.
I suggest that anyone who is sufferering from something that has happened to them like this should read this book, it is helping me far more than I can imagine and so is speaking out about the wrongdoing. Men can learn from this book too. It's not just for women. Men can learn that this kind of thing is NOT OKAY and that if it has happened to them it is not their fault.
What happened to me was not my fault. He broke my trust. I am well loved. The people around me love me very much.
This is the mantra that everyone who has suffered such trauma should tell themselves. It has helped me so much and I have only been reciting it for a day.
Read this book. Period. These kinds of things need to be covered in school. Education is what will help reduce what is happening. Learn from what happened. Learn and go on living your lives.
What happened to me was not my fault. He broke my trust. I am well loved. The people around me love me very much.
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Summary: mental health professional recommends it
Review: I have worked as a clinical social worker and a school psychologist, have done a lot of work with child sexual abuse victims and some work with teen and adult rape victims. This is an excellent book for the general reader; it uses a research base but does not use statistical or research jargon. All teens, male or female, could benefit from reading this book, hopefully before they are in crisis or specific need of it. High school health or communication classes could use it. Adults will find it equally useful. Helpful ideas to improve the odds of prevention (no one can guarantee one's safety from rape), signs to help you realize when your companion may not be safe, helping yourself or a friend get through having had the experience of rape by an acquaintance, why men also benefit from understanding this information, and much more.
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Summary: A book every woman should read
Review: If you know someone who is going off to college or moving out on her own, recovering from a divorce or anything ~~ or simply because you love her, this is a book I highly recommend for you to give to her. It talks about date rape/acquaintance rape ~~ a subject that isn't talked about very often ~~ and you will find resources in this book to help a survivor recover ~~ or even to prevent a rape from happening. And I recommend young men reading this book too. It shows the other side of rape ~~ a man may think that a woman "teased" him and that she really wanted it ~~ but oftentimes, it leaves lasting scars ~~ not just on the victims but also on the rapists too. Both men and women need to be educated on what date rape is ~~ it is more common than people think. When a woman says no, a man is trained by society that she really means yes ~~ but that isn't the case. Rape is when a sexual act is committed against a woman's will ~~ even if she knows her attacker. It's downright disturbing and there are many women who have survived date rape. Did you know that "stranger rape" occurs very rarely but "acquaintance rape" occurs more often? Also, did you know that even if a woman stops dating a man, he can still rape her? There are all kinds of stories in this book that the author shares with the reader to warn them of this issue. This book will share with you how to recognize the danger signals and how to prevent a rape from happening. If it happens, there is advice on what to do next. It explores the statistics of numerous studies performed on this topic and it's downright scary. But there are people fighting it and so can you. Just read this book, and pass it on. I truly believe every woman going off to college or moving out on her own or even entering her teen years should have a copy of this. It shouldn't be a topic to ignore ~~ it should be talked about and shared ~~ it is a serious issue and one that every woman needs to be aware of. I have a young cousin going off to college and this is one book I would like to send to her. For all you moms, dads, grandmas, aunts, sisters, cousins, friends should think of the young women (and young men) in your family or circle of friends and think of how you should arm them with knowledge on how to prevent acquaintance rape from happening. But not only women need to read this book, men should too. They should sit down with their sons and tell them that "no means no." And that they should resist pressure from other men in raping a woman. Acquaintance rape is very damaging to women and to men as well. It wreaks havoc on the fragile fabric of society itself. Pick it up ~~ I don't think you'll regret it as one can never have too much information about a topic like this one.
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Summary: Here's an exceptional book about acquaintance rape.
Review: If you want insight into the difficult topic of sexual assault, Robin Warshaw's book is a terrific resource.
In clear, readable language, with numerous personal stories taken from the _Ms._ survey, she touches on the complex issues surrounding the phemomenon of "date rape."
Warshaw looks at the differences between this type of rape and assaults committed by strangers. She looks at fraternities, athletes, and teen victims.
She examines the individual woman's response to an assault committed by a man she knows, as well as the response of universities, the police, and the courts.
Included are practical suggestions for preventing acquaintance rape, as well as what to do if it happens to you or someone you know. Warshaw also gives advice to educators, lawmakers, parents, and concerned men.
This is an exceptional and insightful book about acquaintance rape, and I highly recommend it.
Zelda
zeldaanslinger@prodigy.net
Feminist Mom Center of the Universe
http://www.geocities.com/athens/5262
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http://www.geocities.com/athens/5262/part3.htm
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Summary: A 'must' book for those interested in rape victims.
Review: Mary P. Koss conducted the NIMHs' nationwide survey described in Robin Warshas' book. The survey
is known world wide as the largest survey revealing the true scope of rape among college students.
As a student of Criminology in Israel, I have found Warshas' book a basic source for information regarding the empirical knowledge existing today about rape and rape victims.
But in addition to giving me the essential information, this book inspired me to conduct
a similar study in the Hebrew University in Jerusalem. No other book or study I read during the last years of my studies, (which were focused
on the issues of sexual assault victims), motivated me like "I Never Called it Rape" did.
A basic book for researches of sexual assault victims or perpatrators, as well as for the victims of sexual assault.
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Summary: I really was raped!
Review: This book is wonderful!!!! It was because of this book that I realized that what happened to me was indeed rape and as I result I decided to press charges against my rapist and he will be spending years behind bars. I didn't know that coersion was rape!
In June of 2002 I was raped by a boyfriend . . somebody who I thought loved me. While being raped my boyfriend told me that I was a slut, that I teased him, that I got what I wanted and it was his turn to get what he wanted, that if I loved him I would have sex with him. For six hours he tried to convince me to have sex with him!! I kept saying no that I didn't want to do anything beyond kissing. I just got so upset confused about everything and the next thing I no he's on top of me and raping me and I felt so guilty. The rape was mostly through coersion but there was little force. I thought that it was my fault and he was just kinda horney. I mean I thought rapist drugged their victims, used a gun or other weapon, and rape was only through penis/vagina sex. But it isn't I was digitally penetrated(like 10 times) which is rape!!!! I would have not realized this is if weren't for reading this book. I put a sick rapist behind bars and I thank this book for giving me the understanding and courage to do it.
Fellow rape victims lets break the silence: lets speak out agaisnt rape!!! Report the crime to the police if not for yourself but for the next victim...And please read I Never Called It Rape
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