Using Your Values to Raise Your Child to Be an Adult You Admire

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Summary: A guide for integrating values into family life.
Review: All parents have values. For over twenty-five years I've used parents' values when working with them in discussion groups and in counseling sessions. Parents report that thinking about their values when dealing with an issue about child rearing gives them direction as to what they want to do.

But parents are seldom asked what their values are. Authors, experts, and professionals tend to assume their values are also the parents'. They frequently give advice based on values which they don't even identify.

And yet, I have found that parents use their values and often are not aware they are doing so. Applying their values may be very haphazard. They may support their children's curiosity one minute and punish their exploratory behavior the next.

I wrote Using Your Values to address these issues. The book recognizes that parents have values and helps them identify their values, not mine the author's, but theirs. The book also helps parents integrate their values into family life. Parents' values can guide their action whether they are potty training a toddler or preparing a teen to drive. Parents' values used as guides makes infinitely easier all those mundane decisions that parents make every day .

Using Your Values also helps parents think through what is involved for children to be able to live by a value. For example, to be able to live healthily, children must know not only what a healthy diet is but also be able to make decisions about what to eat based on their knowledge. And then there are developmental issues. At what age can children master decision making skills? What experiences as they grow will help them do so? At one age is it reasonable to assume that they can forgo the candy for the carrots?

Using Your Values is a guide for parents that will help them integrate their values into their family life and to pass those values on to their children.

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Summary: Using values as a guide
Review: Our 13 year old cat died today after a quick downhill slide from kidney failure. I am grateful for your book's encouragement to determine what values we want to express and transmit such as with regard to death (an example stands out to me involving two sisters and their children). We have been very open about what is going on and have had a four year old take lots of time to nurture the cat in his illness, knowing how important it was to make him feel comfortable and loved and to say good-bye. This is not how I was raised. I lost my father in childhood and nobody talked about it; they were grateful if I did not bring it up. Your book encouraged us to be deliberate and to develop a shared way of handling the situation with our daughter. I am sure this is only one event in which I'll be affected by your work, and I'm sure I'm only one of many who will be deeply affected.

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Summary: Deeply moving,inspirational,transformative & practical
Review: This book is deeply insightful, moving and practical with regard to clarifying what one believes about life's most essential issues, and incorporating these beliefs into day to day parenting. Our 13 year old cat died very recently after a quick downhill decline from kidney failure. I am so grateful for this book's encouragement to determine what values we want to express and transmit, including ones as important as dealing with death (an example stands out to me involving two sisters and their children).

This book gave us a great deal of insight and courage to be very open about what transpired as the cat declined, and to successfully encourage our four year old daughter to take lots of time to actively nurture the cat in his illness, knowing how important it was to make him feel comfortable and loved and to say good-bye. She continues to openly process our cat's death, her feelings about it, and many aspects of death without hesitation.

This is not how I was raised. I lost my father in childhood and nobody talked about it. They were grateful if I did not bring it up so I remained silent, to their great relief. I continued this family value and practice through the early parenting of my own much older children. But this book has now encouraged us to be deliberate in developing a positive, shared way of handling the situation with our youngest child.

I know this is only one event in which I (and I'm sure many others) will be deeply affected by this book.

Rating:
Summary: Deeply moving,inspirational,transformative & practical
Review: This book is deeply insightful, moving and practical with regard to clarifying what one believes about life's most essential issues, and incorporating these beliefs into day to day parenting. Our 13 year old cat died very recently after a quick downhill decline from kidney failure. I am so grateful for this book's encouragement to determine what values we want to express and transmit, including ones as important as dealing with death (an example stands out to me involving two sisters and their children).

This book gave us a great deal of insight and courage to be very open about what transpired as the cat declined, and to successfully encourage our four year old daughter to take lots of time to actively nurture the cat in his illness, knowing how important it was to make him feel comfortable and loved and to say good-bye. She continues to openly process our cat's death, her feelings about it, and many aspects of death without hesitation.

This is not how I was raised. I lost my father in childhood and nobody talked about it. They were grateful if I did not bring it up so I remained silent, to their great relief. I continued this family value and practice through the early parenting of my own much older children. But this book has now encouraged us to be deliberate in developing a positive, shared way of handling the situation with our youngest child.

I know this is only one event in which I (and I'm sure many others) will be deeply affected by this book.

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Summary: Seminal, ground breaking, reader-friendly and effecitve.
Review: Using Your Values To Raise Your Child To Be An Adult You Admire is written to help parents identify their own values; show them how to teach those values at different ages and stages; resolve conflicting values (their own as well as their parenting partner's); and to use values to solve family problems and meet normal developmental challenges. Using Your Values To Raise Your Child To Be An Adult You Admire a seminal, ground breaking, reader-friendly treatment of values as an effective parenting tool offering practical, ethical, and psychologically sound advice and counsel that will be greatly appreciate by parents of children from infancy to preschool to adolescence to young adult.