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Summary: prospering marriage? failure to understand?
Review: A narrow view of how a marriage should be, with not much given to understanding our culture
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Summary: Great and much needed biblical perspective!
Review: Fidelity by Douglas Wilson is a welcome sound biblical teaching about many sexual issues. One of which is men and women as husband and wife and their call to be co-helpers with each others Christian walk and salvation (as in growth in grace). My wife actually purchased this book and we both read it, and found it wonderfully encouraging and helpful for the two of us. Douglas Wilson speaks directly and frankly to the issues that are overwhelming to a much uninformed church today in American. This book is NOT a treatise on the man getting his way with the woman nor is it the contrary. Someone reading that into this book would have much difficulty intellectually digesting a Sunday comic strip. Among many of the issues it addresses is the struggle with fidelity and temptation from Satan, flesh and the world that both husbands and wives struggle with, and for which BOTH are protectors of the others weakness. Furthermore, IF you love your wife or IF you love your husband, and do not protect the other by the marriage bed (yes that means sex under the God given covenant of marriage for all the medieval dinosaurs out there) then you should examine yourself and your love toward your spouse. Those who read this and think it is about women giving in to "their ape of a husband's sex drive", are grossly ignorant of what Scriptures say to the issue and this book. And men who would read this and think that it is about "their wives being slave like concubines to them" are equally grossly ignorant of what Scriptures say to the issue and this book. If spouses love the other and are Christian one will 1) love them enough to protect them and their souls for in marriage God has given one to the other as a gift, no less from Christ Himself; 2) and it is manifestly obvious that if one spouse despises the other so much as not to desire to be close to them in the marriage bed and otherwise...I would question that kind of so called love in the first place as more likely infantile at best and selfish at worst. I love my wife so much that I would literally die for her and she does me, and we found this book to be uplifting and encouraging. Far from some of the witless diatribes to the contrary that I've read on here to date.
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Summary: Great and much needed biblical perspective!
Review: Fidelity by Douglas Wilson is a welcome sound biblical teaching about many sexual issues. One of which is men and women as husband and wife and their call to be co-helpers with each others Christian walk and salvation (as in growth in grace). My wife actually purchased this book and we both read it, and found it wonderfully encouraging and helpful for the two of us. Douglas Wilson speaks directly and frankly to the issues that are overwhelming to a much uninformed church today in American. This book is NOT a treatise on the man getting his way with the woman nor is it the contrary. Someone reading that into this book would have much difficulty intellectually digesting a Sunday comic strip. Among many of the issues it addresses is the struggle with fidelity and temptation from Satan, flesh and the world that both husbands and wives struggle with, and for which BOTH are protectors of the others weakness. Furthermore, IF you love your wife or IF you love your husband, and do not protect the other by the marriage bed (yes that means sex under the God given covenant of marriage for all the medieval dinosaurs out there) then you should examine yourself and your love toward your spouse. Those who read this and think it is about women giving in to "their ape of a husband's sex drive", are grossly ignorant of what Scriptures say to the issue and this book. And men who would read this and think that it is about "their wives being slave like concubines to them" are equally grossly ignorant of what Scriptures say to the issue and this book. If spouses love the other and are Christian one will 1) love them enough to protect them and their souls for in marriage God has given one to the other as a gift, no less from Christ Himself; 2) and it is manifestly obvious that if one spouse despises the other so much as not to desire to be close to them in the marriage bed and otherwise...I would question that kind of so called love in the first place as more likely infantile at best and selfish at worst. I love my wife so much that I would literally die for her and she does me, and we found this book to be uplifting and encouraging. Far from some of the witless diatribes to the contrary that I've read on here to date.
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Summary: a better approach to the problem
Review: I enjoyed this book because he gets to the heart of the issue surrounding our struggle with lust. I am so used to church talks and lust conquering books that offer a somewhat self-reliant approach. "Struggling with pornography? Get rid of your computer." Well, you may not have a computer, but lust is still festering inside you and as all of us know, you are still going to struggle. Douglas goes beyond the typical approach and convicts the sin. He plainly shows you how ugly lust is and what it does. Then the Holy Spirit steps in and does the necessary work to change the ROOT of the problem. Instead of offering a bunch of cute ideas on how to boundary your life, he just attacks the sin. From there, if we are honest with our selves, we know what needs to be done. It seems that nothing is better for dealing with sin than good'old conviction.
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Summary: The BEST book on the subject.
Review: I have read other books like this before, but none hold a candle to Wilson in this regard. Fidelity is a must read for every Christian man, married or not. Wilson is blunt, biblical and pastoral in how he treats topics such as fornication, masturbation, rape, adultery etc. He provides a balanced perspective that doesn't pull punches - he truly calls a spade a spade.
His use of contemporary jargon and slang to heighten the sense of obscenity in ungodly actions is excellent - and makes for a memorable and entertaining read.
Wilson uses solid exegesis that doesn't bend or twist the text. He hits the nail on the head every time.
Please buy this book and when you're done reading it, pass it around.
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Summary: The BEST book on the subject.
Review: I have read other books like this before, but none hold a candle to Wilson in this regard. Fidelity is a must read for every Christian man, married or not. Wilson is blunt, biblical and pastoral in how he treats topics such as fornication, masturbation, rape, adultery etc. He provides a balanced perspective that doesn't pull punches - he truly calls a spade a spade.
His use of contemporary jargon and slang to heighten the sense of obscenity in ungodly actions is excellent - and makes for a memorable and entertaining read.
Wilson uses solid exegesis that doesn't bend or twist the text. He hits the nail on the head every time.
Please buy this book and when you're done reading it, pass it around.
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Summary: Another reitteration of Church think.
Review: Ok, Ok, I know this book is not intended for women, but I don't care, I read it anyway. What's up with that? Men read women's books and magazines all the time - "to understand what's going on inside our heads" as they put it. So that is why I read this book. Also because my church is INCREDIBLY CONSERVATIVE and has frequently used this book in Bible Study. This book trashes women. Clearly Douglas Wilson does not know or understand what it means to be a woman and never will. Being a woman is tough. It means putting up with the ... that men tell us to. But I won't have any of that. Wilson basically says that when you get married, her body belongs to her husbands. Well, I have got news for him! He also says that we - as wives - are supposed to have sex with our husbands whenever THEY want, even if we don't really want to. And if we say no, he is supposed to live with that, even if he is angered. Well, Mr. Wilson let me tell you something: if he really LOVED us, he would be understanding and would be WILLING to wait. THAT is a TRUE ACT OF LOVE. Women's bodies do NOT BELONG TO MEN. We are individuals - even if we are married, we belong to the man because he should be the only man you want to be with, but we have the right to say no. And what about the woman's right? What if we want to have sex and he doesn't? I suppose Mr. Wilson thinks that woman also have no sex drive. News flash: WE DO!! Didn't he read the book of Ruth? (Or Dr. Ruth!) Or even the story of Potiphar's wife? (even if she was ..., she was a woman and an important one). I hope the author gets a chance to read this because I might just have to write "Fidelity: What It TRULY Means to Be a Woman of Substance and Independence".
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Summary: Too Bad I Can't Give It ZERO
Review: Ok, Ok, I know this book is not intended for women, but I don't care, I read it anyway. What's up with that? Men read women's books and magazines all the time - "to understand what's going on inside our heads" as they put it. So that is why I read this book. Also because my church is INCREDIBLY CONSERVATIVE and has frequently used this book in Bible Study. This book trashes women. Clearly Douglas Wilson does not know or understand what it means to be a woman and never will. Being a woman is tough. It means putting up with the ... that men tell us to. But I won't have any of that. Wilson basically says that when you get married, her body belongs to her husbands. Well, I have got news for him! He also says that we - as wives - are supposed to have sex with our husbands whenever THEY want, even if we don't really want to. And if we say no, he is supposed to live with that, even if he is angered. Well, Mr. Wilson let me tell you something: if he really LOVED us, he would be understanding and would be WILLING to wait. THAT is a TRUE ACT OF LOVE. Women's bodies do NOT BELONG TO MEN. We are individuals - even if we are married, we belong to the man because he should be the only man you want to be with, but we have the right to say no. And what about the woman's right? What if we want to have sex and he doesn't? I suppose Mr. Wilson thinks that woman also have no sex drive. News flash: WE DO!! Didn't he read the book of Ruth? (Or Dr. Ruth!) Or even the story of Potiphar's wife? (even if she was ..., she was a woman and an important one). I hope the author gets a chance to read this because I might just have to write "Fidelity: What It TRULY Means to Be a Woman of Substance and Independence".
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Summary: How I would review Fidelity:What it Means to be a One-Woman
Review: The book is right on, but rather discriptive. Not for children, but an excellent resource book for men.
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Summary: Quick Review
Review: This book is disturbing and should never have been written. It's all about sex. Sex, sex, sex. Oh, and more sex. Why, you ask? It's disturbing to know the severity of unfaithfulness toward one's wife and it should have never been written because it's not easy owning up to dishonoring one's spouse. This book is excellently written. The style is smooth and the outline is fluid. Doug Wilson once again writes in a style that is easy to digest, follow and research his points by referring back to the authoritative standard from which he argues, namely, the Bible. The chapters: lust and pornography, fornication, adultery, divorce, prostitution, rape, polygamy, sodomy, masturbation, celibacy, sexual solutions, questions and answers and sexual glory. This book is really not intended for women. It is much too directly addressing shameful areas of a man's life that fall short that dishonor his wife. I really can't even get into the subject matter of the book other than to say that Wilson makes points in this book that every Christian man should seriously consider and contemplate. Please don't misunderstand...this book is not crude or indecent. It is Biblical. It is instructional. But it does handle many topics which only Dr. Ruth has dared to tread. And that's a point Doug Wilson brings up: The Christian must take pleasure in his wife, with his wife, not according to society's standard of fulfillment, but of the Scriptural instruction on true enjoyment. It's about avoiding the problem areas of dishonoring one's wife and sinning against her. It's about the glory of the bed. It's about the gifts of God and how to enjoy them more, Biblically. Wow. Good stuff.
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