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Summary: 10 Stars for Another Great Book
Review: Consequences for actions is a major theme throughout the bible. Is not Jesus coming back to judge the earth? It is a law of nature, which God put into motion, that every action demands an equal and opposite reaction. Children are not ready to face the real results of sefishness, lying, manipulation, rebellion, lack of self control and so on. That's why parents must teach them in effective ways that those things are not productive. If a switch or two on the bottom will save my child from a life time of character traits like that then so be it.
He who spares his rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly. Prov.13:24
If I see my child developing a character trait that will be harmful later in life, because I love him, I do all that I can to "nip it in the bud". Babies are very cute and sweet and should by all means be nurtured and loved. They are also much smarter than we give them credit for. The Pearls do not condone child abuse, but age appropriate discipline. They would be the first to rebuke for violent outbursts or corporal punishment in anger.
Whats more loving - To let a child grow without knowing consquences for wrong doing and end up in prison. Or to train them that there are consequences for wrongdoing and help them to avoid many pitfalls.
I've seen these children over and over again that were too loved by their parents to ever be switched. They are a menace, no one wants to watch them or even be near them. They are selfish, demanding, lacking self control, unhappy etc. and ultimately they fulfill the proverb...he who spared the rod hates his son....even their parents can't stand them.
10 stars for the Pearls and there clear and direct approach. I want to enjoy my children!
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Summary: Good resources
Review: All the NO GREATER JOY books are collections of articles and responses to letters. They provide practical advice on many areas of parenting, marriage, and family. I have learned a great deal about how to treat my husband, as well as my children. Their advice is sound and doctrinally correct, maybe hard to swallow, but correct, unless you are a religious person who likes to critique everything that the Bible teaches, and you have to go back the "original languages" to determine God's teachings. If you don't like what God says, you can always find someway to analyze an ancient manuscript to make Him agree with you. The Pearls aren't perfect, but their method is proven. I personally know at least ten families who have used this method and have not only obedient, but respectful, loving children who most-often think of others before themselves. You can't read the Old Testament and say that God doesn't discipline. Paul says, "I die daily." THe Pearls advocate a biblical method of child rearing that trains the child to control their indulgences and WILL daily and submit to the God-given authorities in their lives. We are all born sinners and our nature is to rebell against authority and seek our own WILL.
Those who make claims of child abuse and question whether the Pearls are genuine Christians, are in need of the rebuke that Christ gave Peter..."get thee behind me, Satan" Matt.16:23
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Summary: Training is the Key Word here.
Review: As stated in the introduction: "This book is not about discipline, nor problem children. The emphasis is on the training of a child before the need to discipline arises."I would suggest parents read this book because of the wonderful guidance it gives to training up your child. They give gentle guidelines for helping you keep control of your children, instead of letting your children control you. By beginning your training when they are young you can avoid battles with your child that might lead to child abuse. They recommend pain be associated with making repremands. For a child as young as 6 months they suggest "one spat with a little switch" after the child disobeys your "No". I believe a little switch is a short stick or dowel and implemented with one swat. When a parent is in control of the training of the child and calmly disciplines even chastizing they can correct with confidence. In this book the Pearls are talking about training your child. Beginning when they are young and having specific training periods so as to eliminate the need to use "dicipline alone to effect proper behavior". We as parents need to think ahead. Where do we want our children to be in 1 year, 3 years, 5 years. How do we want them to treat others, respond to us, behave in the grocery store, sit in the car and so on. Thinking ahead and training to those goals is what it's all about.
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Summary: Can the hysterics. This is a great book for GOOD parents.
Review: First of all, the reviewers who claim this book is not Biblical obviously know little about God's Word. If you understand how God fathers us, you'll understand the Pearls' books better. God loves us, forgives us, and also corrects and trains us. That IS love! You may believe you are loving your children by not teaching them obedience, but the result will be children who rebel against you, their teachers, their employers and God Himself.
If you really love your children, leave behind the empty charade of feeble compassion. Lead them. Teach them. Train them. Discipline them when necessary. (Which will be much less if you read these books!)
Parents who follow the Pearls' advice will be calmer, happier and more pleased with their children's behavior. The kids will be much better off, too.
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Summary: sarcasm
Review: five stars! this is the absolute best book i've ever seen for turning children into psychopaths who will later murder their parents and probably others!
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Summary: This Is An Unchristian Torture Manual
Review: I am writing from Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada. I am one Christian that does not support the ideas contained in this book. In Canada, I would be arrested if I hit anyone under 2 or over 12 and a child of any age on the head or face as such actions are against the law here. Also the use of anything other than the hand is strictly forbidden. Whether you live in Canada or the USA, my advice to you is don't spank if you want to avoid trouble with the law and a possible criminal record. It's just not worth it when more progressive ways are available when dealing with children.
It's too bad that I could not give this book a zero rating.
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Summary: No stars - if you prescribe to this, get help - you're sick
Review: I can't even give this a star rating it is so low. This is about child abuse. If this is where your heart is you need to find help fast! The old testament also condoned stoning, smithing, and other horrific acts to mankind. It is not to be taken literally. Please, if you find yourself "stuck" with a dilemma with your child, seek out professional help for yourself and the child. The authors of this book need to be put away. This book is violent!!!!!!!!
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Summary: Abusive!!!!!!
Review: I could NEVER imagine Jesus treating a child the way the Pearls recommend. We ask ourselves all the time "What would Jesus do?" in every situation -- why not with our children? He must be weeping to see his little ones hurting so. :( This is abusive garbage. There ARE other ways to truly discipline your child with love. Spanking and other things the Pearls recommend are not really discipline and are not really Biblical!!!
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Summary: Do NOT use this method
Review: I find the Pearls and their so-called Christianity nauseating. I wouldn't trust these people to take care of my cats, let alone another human being! The Pearls message of using "small plastic rods" on young children for CRYING is sick. The best method for tantrums is to leave the room-and NOT show any reaction. D'uh, it's about wanting attention. I say avoid these people at all cost. They make Christianity look bad and they make the Baby Jesus Cry. (Of course, he better not cry around them!)
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Summary: If only we could do this to the parents who like these books
Review: I'd say "let's turn the tables and beat these parents" except, we may have a hard time finding someone with the stomach to do these things to another human being. It scares me that people are appreciative of this book!
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