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Summary: This Works!!!
Review: ...This book teaches a respectful, productive, kind way to deal with whining, backtalk, temper tantrums, arguing, and all those bad habits that kids pick up. This does work on pre-lingual children. I used it with my child before she was 1. I found myself struggling with behavior again in the 4s and 5s and read this book and went back to applying the principles. They do work. You'll be amazed and your child will be happier. This brought peace to our home. It's easy to read and give lots of examples. Both parents need to be informed and commited to sticking to the plan. ...There is no heartlessness in this plan. There is no spanking, time out, or counting. If you're frustrated with your child's behavior and how it is controlling your family, read this book.
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Summary: This Works!!!
Review: ...This book teaches a respectful, productive, kind way to deal with whining, backtalk, temper tantrums, arguing, and all those bad habits that kids pick up. This does work on pre-lingual children. I used it with my child before she was 1. I found myself struggling with behavior again in the 4s and 5s and read this book and went back to applying the principles. They do work. You'll be amazed and your child will be happier. This brought peace to our home. It's easy to read and give lots of examples. Both parents need to be informed and commited to sticking to the plan. ...There is no heartlessness in this plan. There is no spanking, time out, or counting. If you're frustrated with your child's behavior and how it is controlling your family, read this book.
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Summary: Do You Want To Reduce Your Child's Whining and Tantrums?
Review: Children are more intelligent than you think. They know how to get results by whining and adults even encourage them to do this. When a child whines, it is not about a toy which they canot have nor the things they have been forbidden to do. It is about being able to show mother and father how much power they posses. Our first child is nearing his 3rd birthday and the whining had increased to intolerable levels. We have found a great amount of success in using the exercises in this book. It has taken several weeks for our child to finally come around but it has worked well. It doesn't work all the time but the tantrums and the commanding have subsided dramatically. I do not believe there is any one particular authority on child behavior because all children are able to learn but all children learn differently... Understanding why children whine makes it much easier to implement these solutions which sometime can appear to be somewhat harsh if one hasn't read the whole book.
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Summary: Don't let the cover fool you!
Review: Despite the picture of a 2-3 year old child on the cover, this book has very few examples of how to deal with Toddlers. Virtually all of the advice and examples deal with school age children (6 yrs+). The other problem for me was that the book is more focused on getting your child to stop whining and having tantrums about things THEY WANT. It has virtually no advice for getting children to do things YOU NEED them to do (take medicine, let you change a diaper, etc.)-- these were the areas where I was having the most trouble. Don't get me wrong - this would be a great book for parents of older children. Some of the advice is usable for toddlers, but this book would have benefited from a section devoted to little ones who do not understand "I felt.. when you.." conversation. I was hoping to get a head start with my toddler so I wouldn't need a book like this when she was older. I didn't really find the advice here.
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Summary: A Must Have Book for Parents
Review: I always believed that I had the most wonderfully behaved child in the world, and I patted myself on the back for being such a wise parent ... AND THEN MY SON TURNED FOUR! In my quest for a solution to the whining and antics of my preschooler I have read countless books on parenting and positive discipline. But none can compare to Whining: Three Steps to Stopping it Before the Tears and Tantrums Start. The information in this book is concise and practical. The techniques described (yes, there really are just three steps) are easy to understand and easy to implement. The book is short enough in length so as not to intimidate an already overwhelmed parent. I devoured it hungrily in one sitting, then read it again more slowly. In short, this book makes a lot of sense. My husband and I began using the three steps and noticed a significant improvement in our son's behavior almost immediately. Whining ... is an excellent resource to parents and anyone who works with children (or whiny adults, for that matter!)
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Summary: A lot of theory without enough real life examples
Review: I bought this book because my 1 year old boy/girl twins (expecially my son) had really started whining a lot over the past month. I wanted to get some help on how to stop it before it got out of hand completely. The last thing I want is a whiney child that stays that way through toddlerhood and early childhood. Anyway, as I was reading this book the beginning made me really feel I'd found a goldmine. But that was when it was all theory. They kept promising that their 3-steps method would work just fine even for the pre-lingual baby. So I kept reading and reading and finally reached the end of the book without finding a single example of how to apply the method to 9-15 month olds who have no vocabulary. They talked about how to simply get up and leave the room ignoring a whining child acting as if you don't even see the child. Obviously this isn't going to work with a baby who must be supervised at all times. This book is a sore disappointment for a parent who needs help to stop the whining in a young toddler/pre-toddler.
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Summary: Short and to the point Book. Great Read
Review: I have a 2 year old and this book was great. We are just now dealing with trantrums and a constant whiny voice. I love that it is a short book and tells you point by point examples and situations. It also gives examples on how to use the techniques on older shildren. It is a great find! (Techniques work on whining and complaining husbands as well! LOL) I noticed results right way with my toddler. she now stops in the middle of her whin and "talks" her sentence out. Big step for a little [one]!
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Summary: This book really works!
Review: I really loved this book and my boys ages 2.5 and just turned 4 have really turned around. My 4 year old was so whiny I got the book for him, but it worked even better at taming the tantrums of my two year old that I had chalked up to "normal" 2year old behavior. The most important element, the one I was missing is the element of contribution. They are doing chores, and helping out and really enjoying it. Dinner time is a delight now. They behave and sit until they are done and then clear their plates. It has only been a few weeks and I was amazed immediately.
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Summary: Really good Ideas
Review: I really loved this book and my boys ages 2.5 and just turned 4 have really turned around. My 4 year old was so whiny I got the book for him, but it worked even better at taming the tantrums of my two year old that I had chalked up to "normal" 2year old behavior. The most important element, the one I was missing is the element of contribution. They are doing chores, and helping out and really enjoying it. Dinner time is a delight now. They behave and sit until they are done and then clear their plates. It has only been a few weeks and I was amazed immediately.
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Summary: good parenting principles, period.
Review: It's never too early to read this book, and it's never too late either. I'm usually wary of pop-psych books with numbers in the title (three steps, two ways, seven principles, eight things...), because they're often oversimplified, but this one is just-right-simplified. The principles here -- be assertive, apply reasonable consequences for behavior, and allow the child to contribute to social life -- are broadly useful. We should treat ALL people this way. These practices will prevent undesirable behavior and promote GOOD behavior. I think we'd all like to be treated as this book advocates treating kids. And I think it feels good to approach the world this way. The hardest part isn't reading the book, though, it's finding the resolve to stick to it -- because even though it feels good in the long run, it's still difficult to start. The book is a very short read, written in simple language without excess. I've already highlighted several favorite points, including one about how bribing your child indicates that you don't think her capable of behaving well on her own. I think it's a good book for re-reading and I think it'd be most effective when discussed with other people. The more you think about this, try it out, discuss it with others, etc. -- the more you really keep aware of it and incorporate it into your life -- the better. The authors refer to three possible parenting styles: autocratic ("because I said so"), permissive, and democratic. They advocate the latter. And their recipe for preventing/stopping whining is simple: teach your child that whining will not get him what he wants. It is that simple -- and you may think you have tried that, but when you examine the details of your behavior, as these authors help you do, you might find you haven't done it at all. The messages you send might not really be what you claim they are. (One point from the book: Repeatedly yelling "Johnny, whining is NOT going to get you what you want!" is counterproductive.) The book alternates between explaining general principles and presenting fictional case studies, which range from preschool to preteen. Even though I don't currently have a backtalking child, I might go pick up the authors' other book, on backtalking, as a measure of prevention. I might learn some things. If you hate giving in to the whining but don't know what else to do, or if you have terribly mixed feelings about it, I think you'll find this book quite helpful.
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