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Summary: Essential reading
Review: Absolute essential reading for everyone involved in the adoption triad, or even considering adopting or relinquishing. Dispells the myths and shows the adoption experience as it is.
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Summary: A straight forward book on adoption.
Review: As an adoptee, there are many questions and emotions that one is often too scared to ask or express. Lifton goes beyond the "taboo" of adoption in this book not only with her own experiences, but also the experiences of others. In "Lost and Found", all aspects of adoption are discussed, from all views (adoptee, adoptive parent, birthparent). Reading this helped me understand my own feelings, and to better understand the feelings of my parents, and my birth mother.
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Summary: A straight forward book on adoption.
Review: As an adoptee, there are many questions and emotions that one is often too scared to ask or express. Lifton goes beyond the "taboo" of adoption in this book not only with her own experiences, but also the experiences of others. In "Lost and Found", all aspects of adoption are discussed, from all views (adoptee, adoptive parent, birthparent). Reading this helped me understand my own feelings, and to better understand the feelings of my parents, and my birth mother.
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Summary: A great book for the Natural Mother to.....
Review: As the Birth Mother I found this book to help me understand what the adopted and the adoptive parents, as well as siblings and additional family feel and are going through. I feel eternally grateful to my son for having the courage to want to find and have a relationship with me and this book helps me understand him and his mom and dad and what they have gone through. Thanks
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Summary: Buy It!
Review: Being adopted myself, I've read several books on the subject. But this is the one I kept coming back to for all the good and the bad. No punchs are pulled with anyone and everyone I know who have read it are able to relate to most of it.
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Summary: I couldn't relate
Review: I found the book depressing since most of the stories involved people negatively affected by adoption. I couldn't relate to many of the feelings expressed. I would like to see a few positive experiences thrown in. On the other hand, if you are experiencing a lot of issues around adoption- this will let you know you are not alone.
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Summary: I couldn't relate
Review: I found the book depressing since most of the stories involved people negatively affected by adoption. I couldn't relate to many of the feelings expressed. I would like to see a few positive experiences thrown in. On the other hand, if you are experiencing a lot of issues around adoption- this will let you know you are not alone.
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Summary: A little depressing
Review: I found this book too depressing. If you are a well adjusted birth parent or adoptee, you won't relate to all the issues the people in this book experience. I know adoption and reunion isn't perfect, but there are degrees of success. I feel this book should have balanced all the negative circumstances with some positives. This one nearly scared me out of pursuing a reunion.
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Summary: Adoption for the Current Generation
Review: I read most of this book in one night - not because it was amazing but because it made me angry. The author creates a portrate of adopted children through sweeping generalization that would have you believe they are all damaged goods. How do I know this is not true? Because I'm adopted too. I found the experiences in this book were from a different generation - one where adoption was a stigma to hide. Most of the experiences and focuse around lies told to children and the effects of a culture that viewed adoption as a dark secret. How wouldn't a child be damaged in a system like that! This is a book, written in 1979, is for a different generation of adopted children. It does not necessary reflect adoptions today, or those of my generation. If I were a potential parent looking to adopt today, this book would leave me hollow. Not to say this book is without some saving graces for the adopted. For those who parents misguiding lied to them, or who grew up when adoption was still a stigma, for those who are seeking or who have bee sought out this could be an excellent resource. I don't speak for all adopted children but I think the current generation is given more information and is supported in a variety of ways. It is not an easy path for any of the people involved, there are still legal battles as well as personal ones to be fought and won. I suggest seeking out other materials that are more helpful - such as Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew. Each of us has scars, adopted or not. It is up to us to find ways to recognize them and to heal. For some that means moving past an old life, for others it means finding it. To the adopted, their families, and those who may one day be part of the adoption triad there is so much more than this book covers. So much more happiness and love that is possible. Good luck in your search.
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Summary: Adoption for the Current Generation
Review: I read most of this book in one night - not because it was amazing but because it made me angry. The author creates a portrate of adopted children through sweeping generalization that would have you believe they are all damaged goods. How do I know this is not true? Because I'm adopted too. I found the experiences in this book were from a different generation - one where adoption was a stigma to hide. Most of the experiences and focuse around lies told to children and the effects of a culture that viewed adoption as a dark secret. How wouldn't a child be damaged in a system like that! This is a book, written in 1979, is for a different generation of adopted children. It does not necessary reflect adoptions today, or those of my generation. If I were a potential parent looking to adopt today, this book would leave me hollow. Not to say this book is without some saving graces for the adopted. For those who parents misguiding lied to them, or who grew up when adoption was still a stigma, for those who are seeking or who have bee sought out this could be an excellent resource. I don't speak for all adopted children but I think the current generation is given more information and is supported in a variety of ways. It is not an easy path for any of the people involved, there are still legal battles as well as personal ones to be fought and won. I suggest seeking out other materials that are more helpful - such as Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew. Each of us has scars, adopted or not. It is up to us to find ways to recognize them and to heal. For some that means moving past an old life, for others it means finding it. To the adopted, their families, and those who may one day be part of the adoption triad there is so much more than this book covers. So much more happiness and love that is possible. Good luck in your search.
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