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Summary: The flat-out best parenting book I have read!
Review: "Loving Without Spoiling" is flat-out the best book I have read on how to help parents! I can tell from Nancy's writing that she has "been in the trenches". Her practical, down-to-earth tips are written in such a light-hearted, loving way that it is well-nigh impossible to not come away from reading this book both inspired and motivated to embrace my relationships fully with the children in my life. Nancy is both a messenger of good will and true hope for the many parents who struggle daily in their challenges with their children. In short, this book is a true blessing!
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Summary: The flat-out best parenting book I have read!
Review: "Loving Without Spoiling" is flat-out the best book I have read on how to help parents! I can tell from Nancy's writing that she has "been in the trenches". Her practical, down-to-earth tips are written in such a light-hearted, loving way that it is well-nigh impossible to not come away from reading this book both inspired and motivated to embrace my relationships fully with the children in my life. Nancy is both a messenger of good will and true hope for the many parents who struggle daily in their challenges with their children. In short, this book is a true blessing!
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Summary: BookSmart Review
Review: For over fifteen years our company, BookSmart, has been the primary book supplier and consultant for the majority of independent schools in NYC and southern CT. We cannot keep Nancy's Samalin's book Loving Without Spoiling in stock. The response has been simply overwhelming. Parents and teachers have been thrilled with Samalin's practical, straight-forward approach to communicating with children. This book is fantastic and a must for parents and teachers!
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Summary: Oodles of Quick Read Tips That Really Work!
Review: I am a fan of Nancy Samalin's positive discipline techniques that are based on Dr. Hiam Ginott's philosophy of teaching kids right from wrong. I love this book because it
covers so many issues and so many tips and techniques to try with children of all ages-- tots through teens. I don't have the time nor the desire to read an entire book cover to cover that only addresses one subject. I just want the "how to's" in a nutshell. This book is arranged so that I may easily consult it--even in the heat of the moment, when I 'm at a loss of what to do instead of my knee-jerk automatic reactions of yelling, threatening, criticizing and nagging that simply aren't working anyway. I find that I get more cooperation from my kids (including my husband) when I am able to first change my approach. I realize that it is often HOW I say "it" that will determine whether I get the compliance I'm after. I would also like to highly recommend a wonderful pocketsized paperback based on the very same philosophy. So, if you have preschoolers like me, "The Pocket Parent" is written exclusively for parents and teachers of 2's, 3's, 4's, and 5's and is formatted alphabetically by behavior ( such as bad words, biting, gimmes, hitting, lying, whining, etc.) These two books offer many, many options about how communication can change for the better, still enforcing the necessary limits, while responding with understanding and empathy for the child's feelings. This approach includes many sensible, humane ways to solve problems that often require quite a bit of practice. I feel like I'm a much better parent when I am able to use this philosophy.
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Summary: One of the BEST books for parenting!!!
Review: I have 4 children and have read many books on parenting. This one is my favorite (along with "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk." I highly recommend "Loving Without Spoiling" for ALL parents. I like the way each chapter is only 1-2 pages, easy for busy parents to read. You can read the chapters in order, or skip to the section that suits your needs at the moment. This book is about effective discipline without hitting your child, and true to it's title it is not about spoiling. Most of the problems parents have with discipine are due to not being "connected" emotionally to their child (due to being too busy, etc.) This book is effective for ages 2yrs to teen years and I have found it to be very practical in real life parenting (not silly like some parenting books). Read it, you won't be disappointed!
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Summary: The ultimate parent-friendly how-to guide - FINALLY!
Review: I have read all of the Samalin books and would rate them as all extremely helpful, easy to read and understand. Samalin's books, although intended to assist parent/child communication, are actually useful for ALL aspects of human communication. This one however is in a class of its own. One can use it like a dictionary or "chinese menu;" a quick reference for any problem a parent may need a quick solution for. The explanations are simple, straightforward but not simplistic. The examples are universal and ANY parent can relate! The book gives a wonderful understanding of how kids view the world versus how we parents view things, allowing us to feel more empathic towards otherwise infuriating behavior. It reminds us that our struggles with and sometimes ambivalent feelings towards our kids do not make us bad parents but simply human ones. Samalin is right that parenting is not a job for which we are trained. This book can teach us how to do it firmly and lovingly. Not being born parents who cope with our kids as well as we would like is not our fault. Not becoming an effective parents by neglecting to read this book would make us irresponsible ones. This book is my new "Dr. Spock of Good Parenting." I am a mental health professional and have come away with many new tips for my professional as well as personal life as a mother. Thank you Nancy Samalin for giving me the tools to enjoy my kids and be a better mom too, who can now practise what she preaches!
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Summary: Great reference book for most frequent parenting dilemmas!
Review: I have recently had the pleasure of reading Nancy's latest book, Loving Without Spoiling. For those parenting skills that I know and use, it was nice to reinforce their value and hone them further. For those difficult areas that need improvement, I found the book to be a gift. It offers help in an easily disgestible format. The book is arranged like a reference book, which makes it easy to pick up and find information quickly and efficiently. The subtitles are easy to understand and practical in their applications. I recommend this book to all those parents who have both busy schedules as well as a desire to improve their skills at their most important role - that of parent to their children!
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Summary: I am a better parent because of Nancy Samalin!
Review: I highly recommend this and all of Nancy Samalin's invaluable parenting books. When I became a mom I looked to various popular books for information and advice, and quickly found that nothing can compare to Samalin's practical and compassionate approach. She clearly understands the frustrations -- large and small -- involved in everyday parenting situations, and shows how parents can address them in a way that fosters good behavior and builds an environment of respect within the family. Parents of children at any age will benefit tremendously from reading "Loving Without Spoiling." Great baby shower gift, too!
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Summary: Exactly what the title says...and it works!
Review: I read this book a few months ago and immediately took it to heart. It absolutely changed the way I think about discipline. The most interesting thing is that recently, I picked it up to browse through again, and was amazed at all the thoughts from the book that I have adopted as my own. So many tips I've used...so many anecdotes I've repeated to friends...so much GOOD STUFF that I've internalized since I read it the first time. My husband read the book, too. He has for the past 4 years been a believer in the style of discipline promoted by John Rosemond: very authoritarian and a strict disciplinarian of the old school, "just like your grandmother." This style has become very popular lately, as American children seem to be more insolent, violent and disrespectful than ever before. A reversion to that old-time discipline seems, at first blush, to be the answer. Although we certainly want our children to be well-behaved and respectful, we also want them to be happy and well-adjusted, not sneaky and defiant. After reading Samalin's thoughtful book, my husband and I have decided that we agree with Rosemond's goals, but not his methods. Samalin will give you options, and ways to be an authoritative parent, instead of an authoritarian one. THAT INSIGHT ALONE IS WORTH THE PRICE OF THIS BOOK, and there are many more. I've never found one parenting book that has all the answers. In fact, the longer I'm a parent, the more convinced I am that there are no clear-cut instructions on discipline that are right for every child. But this book -- with its wonderful anecdotes, sample dialogues and calm, pragmatic suggestions -- is the one book I recommend above all others. I certainly wish my parents had read it.
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Summary: Incredible, extremely useful book.
Review: I really liked this book a lot! Its format makes it easy to look up solutions to conflicts that seem to pop up all too often. This book is far more helpful than other books I've read on the subject. The advice is sound and Loving Without Spoiling focuses on resolving everyday conflicts rather than merely spouting a bunch of theory. It is easy to read and I found the dialogs & anecdotes extremely useful. This book has absolutely changed the way I interact with my three children and it is directly responsible for the fact that we now get along much, much better.
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