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Summary: -10 stars
Review: A wonderful book for moms and dads who are wondering how their kids got so out of control...MAYBE its been your approach. Robert and Jean Bayard offer up a very loving parenting approach. Im giving this to my husband to read and then I'm going to read it a second time. One of the most intellegent books I have read on the subject.
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Summary: MY highest praises for this one
Review: A wonderful book for moms and dads who are wondering how their kids got so out of control...MAYBE its been your approach. Robert and Jean Bayard offer up a very loving parenting approach. Im giving this to my husband to read and then I'm going to read it a second time. One of the most intellegent books I have read on the subject.
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Summary: -10 stars
Review: Are you parent's crazy, you think a book can solve your problems, or actually meet the specifics of one individual? You really have to be stupid to think that a book can do anything. A book cannot decribe an idividual's feelings or actions. Think about that why don't ya!
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Summary: It was the only thing I read that made any sense.
Review: I raised 2 of each - a boy & a girl - one regular & one adopted. They are now adults. My girl did everything responsibly -- honor student -- ballet -- music -- Homecoming Queen -- everybody loved her. When my boy came along, he was one of those gifted children that everyone complains about. He was an underachiever, drove teachers crazy by arguing over everything,& refused -- finally -- to go to high school at all. He wouldn't leave his room for 3 yrs. I know now he was depressed. He escaped into sci fi books, & gaming with his friends. He was surly & angry. This book helped me understand that he and I would get to the other side of those teen years & that we'd respect each other. I have recommended this book to many people over the years. I'm glad it's still available so I can get it for my daughter. Her boys are 5 & 7 now. I can't imagine raising children without this essential tool.
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Summary: The Best Book I Have Read on How to Behave with your Teen
Review: I was fortunate to read this book when my son was only 9 years old. If you have a child who is anywhere from 7 to 17 stop everything and READ THIS BOOK. It will save you hours of agonizing thoughts about how to deal with your child so he takes responsibility and you end up doing a good job of parenting.The advice really works. Many thanks to the authors.
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Summary: Outstanding good sense for parents who care.
Review: I've used this book as a psychologist over and over with families who sought an enlightened approach to their teen's sometimes rocky launch into adult living. I think it's one of the best guides around, and as a parent of one and soon two teen boys, I can additionally vouch for it's effectiveness in my own life. I only wish the authors had written a workbook and maybe a second or third volume to deal with new issues that have come up more extensively. This beats TOUGH "Love" hands down with good kids having a bad time of succeeding in their independence. This is for parents who are willing to think about their own lives and give the sometimes complex issues time to unfold as they work with their teens. Authoritarians with a zeal for absolutes, get another book...Thanks, Drs. Bayard, for this contribution! (P.S. I've never met them, know nothing about them personally, and have written this only because I have just again recommended this book to another family and found it here on Amazon.)
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Summary: Outstanding good sense for parents who care.
Review: I've used this book as a psychologist over and over with families who sought an enlightened approach to their teen's sometimes rocky launch into adult living. I think it's one of the best guides around, and as a parent of one and soon two teen boys, I can additionally vouch for it's effectiveness in my own life. I only wish the authors had written a workbook and maybe a second or third volume to deal with new issues that have come up more extensively. This beats TOUGH "Love" hands down with good kids having a bad time of succeeding in their independence. This is for parents who are willing to think about their own lives and give the sometimes complex issues time to unfold as they work with their teens. Authoritarians with a zeal for absolutes, get another book... Thanks, Drs. Bayard, for this contribution! (P.S. I've never met them, know nothing about them personally, and have written this only because I have just again recommended this book to another family and found it here on Amazon.)
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Summary: Only self-help book that ever helped
Review: My ex-wife and I read this book almost 20 years ago, when our two kids were teenagers. Our daughter, the eldest, was acting up (and out)--breaking curfew, staying out, experimenting with different substances, generally going through a volatile adolescence--normal "individuating," it turned out (thank God), but it was driving her mother and me crazy because we lived apart and both worked full-time. Two employed adults are no match for one teenager intent on getting her way. We were at the end of our tethers trying to keep tabs on her. Somehow we found out about HOW TO DEAL WITH YOUR ACTING UP TEENAGER. We both read it, decided it made sense and was worth a try, and had a family meeting with both our kids. We told them we wanted to try a new way of parent-kid relations that basically boiled down to, mutual respect. When we told them we were going to stop trying to control them--ground them, harass them about schoolwork and grades, etc.--they looked at us suspiciously. Was this some kind of trick? Some sort of parental sting operation? No, no, we assured them, we were on the level. And it worked. Our daughter stopped driving us crazy, we stopped driving her crazy, and relations improved. I can say unequivocally that this is the only self-help book that has ever actually helped me (and I've read a few). I recommend it without qualification. The authors, as I recall, were parents themselves as well as psychologists, and brought both their practical and academic experience to bear. Bless them both. I still tell people about this book when I hear about problems with adolescence, and am glad it's still available.
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Summary: A book that gives parents "real" tools to bring peace.
Review: This book gives parents tools that take guilt away and help bring a sense of power back to parents where it belongs! It taught me when to say "no", how to say "no" and how to ensure that the message was understood and carried out. I gave up having the last word, for being in charge. I got my life back and the true freedom to never have to explain myself again. Best of all, I never had to listen to lies, because I never gave my child the opening to lie! Buy this book and gain control!
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Summary: restore your sanity -- great parenting book!
Review: This is probably the most helpful book on parenting I have ever read. I gave up on parenting books about 5 years ago when I realized the cookie-cutter approaches were not easily applied to my (and my son's) non-cookie-cutter lives! I purchased this book based on a review of a different book, where this book was recommended instead. I am really glad I did because from the very first exercise, it improved my whole outlook on my life with my teen.
The authors suggest to read the book through cover to cover first, then go through it chapter by chapter, working the exercises. I'm about half-way through the first read and I have already used many of the exercises (unofficially) to help me put things into perspective, regain sanity when teenage craziness is in full swing and have even used it in dealing with my ex-husband (who often acts like an adolescent!).
I have a great kid and a great life. This book helps remind me of that and also to know that I am not alone!
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