Ditch That Jerk : Dealing With Men Who Control and Hurt Women

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Summary: Ditch That Jerk
Review: "Ditch that Jerk " was extremely informative, straight forward and easy to read. It accurately depicts an abusive person's characteristics, behaviors, strategies, and actual statements that are used to intimidate and control others. I have passed it onto my husband so he can see that his tactics are documented and will eventually undermine any chance of having a harmonious relationship. "Ditch that Jerk" clearly explains that the abuser knows the difference between right and wrong and if they resist change, the cycle of abuse will continue. This book gives the victim important information to recognize the behavioral patterns and how to get help. I found it to be an excellent book for women that find themselves in a domestic violence situation.

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Summary: Ditch That Jerk : Dealing With Men Who Control and Hurt Wome
Review: An engagingly written guide aimed at helping women assess their partners for controlling behavior, the potential for abuse, & the potential (or not) for their partners to change. A special focus is given to recognizing various forms of emotionally controlling behavior, which many women may erroneously believe to be a normal part of intimate relationships.

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Summary: Ditch That Jerk : Dealing With Men Who Control and Hurt Wome
Review: An engagingly written guide aimed at helping women assess their partners for controlling behavior, the potential for abuse, & the potential (or not) for their partners to change. A special focus is given to recognizing various forms of emotionally controlling behavior, which many women may erroneously believe to be a normal part of intimate relationships.

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Summary: Read it before you leave, and if you already have
Review: An invaluable manual for how to get out of an abusive relationship and how to break the ties afterwards. I also recommend it for women who are looking for a serious relationship and for young teens. There are definite red flags to look for BEFORE you become involved with someone.

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Summary: Definitely very educational and entertaining.
Review: As a domestic violence counselor, I have truly enjoyed reading Pamela's book. Pamela writes as she talks, very down-to-earth. I appreciate her sense of humor and factual information. Pamela writes considerably well about true facts concerning relationships. Many people do not recognize what abuse truly entails. Societal messages often play a part in what a man is suppose to be and what roles a woman should provide. As a result, these messages often create confusion. If we can teach children at a very young age that equality and respect are two major ingredients to a healthy relationship of any kind, then perhaps our society will develop a new concept of men and women. Adults must be positive role models to children; we must teach children respect and equality. If anyone reads Pamela's book, one will see this is the key to developing respectful relationships in our society.

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Summary: response to Matt Atkinson..is this book useful for teens?
Review: As the author of the book and a parent of teens, I can confidently tell you that teens DO read the book and benefit from it. Several teens (one boy and one girl) ended relationships which they discovered to be controlling after reading parts of it. Therapists who work with teens at my agency use it all of the time and cannot keep the book in stock.
I would advise directing them to certain sections...particularly examples of warning signs as those sections resonate. I hope that this helps.

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Summary: Specifically written for women
Review: Ditch That Jerk: Dealing With Men Who Control And Hurt Women is specifically written for women in miserable, dangerous, unfulfilled, abusive, stifling, debasing relationships with a husband or boyfriend. A seasoned and experienced expert in the complex field of domestic violence, author Pamela Jayne writes in a direct, honest, candid, informative, inspiring style while drawing upon several real-life examples to aptly demonstrate how the mind of an abusive man works, and how to confidently recognize men as either potentially good, definitely bad, or utterly hopeless. Pamela Jayne's Ditch That Jerk is a very highly recommended addition to contemporary women's issues, dysfunctional relationships, self-help recovery, and self-esteem restoration reading lists.

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Summary: Bravo, Pamela Jayne
Review: I chose to read this book because I am an advocate for children and teen victims of domestic violence and dating violence. I found Pamela's book to be very insightful. I found the case studies very interesting and appreciated her very simple and easy to read writing style. Working with teens, I am constantly looking for pertinent info and sometimes have difficulty finding information that they would be able to understand. I would recommend this book to any teenage victim as well as to the friends and families of victims of domestic/dating violence. Pamela Jayne, in addition to addressing the issue of why a person chooses to abuse, also identifies how a victim gets sucked into this cycle of violence and discusses why they might choose to stay.

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Summary: Ditch that Jerk is a much needed wake up call!!!
Review: I dated a possessive, controlling man for nearly two and a half years before I realized what was really going on. He called me several times a day and always commented on my appearance. I though that he was being thoughtful and attentive, but he was really checking up on me and criticizing my clothes and hair! After reading just a few chapters of this book, I realized what was really happening and was able to leave that dead-end relationship. Now I am pursuing my education and I feel much better about myself. Thanks alot Ms. Jayne.

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Summary: Everyone should read this. Applies to abusers of any gender.
Review: I just picked this book up on vacation and I found it the most illuminating book I've ever read on dysfunctional relationships. It spells out hurtful, abusive behaviors and what they really mean. This book helped me see someone whose erratic behavior had confused and hurt me for years was running a classic pattern of tension, abuse, and making amends. Instead of feeling that the action didn't match the words, I saw clearly that he fit the mold of a control freak who sees relationships as win/lose or dominator/dominatee. While the book mostly applies to men, women can also be abusers who fit into these patterns. Every woman should read this book and every high school girl. It will save you wasted time and untold pain. It helps to differentiate between basically good men who will grow, bad men who may not change, and completely hopeless men who you need to leave in the dust.