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Summary: A Very Important Book
Review: In this comprehensive book about emotional incest, Pat Love goes into great depth about the causes of emotional incest and its devastating consequences. The author explains how emotional incest can take on many forms, depending on whether the parent is neglectful, critical, or sexual. She also provides helpful exercises throughout the book to help emotional incest survivors come to terms with the abuse. Highly recommended.
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Summary: Wow! What a great explanation of disturbing behaviors!
Review: It can be extremely emotionally validating to realize some things you experienced as a child were unhealthy, especially if they get in the way of happy, productive relationships later in life. This book is about recognizing unhealthy, enmeshed relationships and learning how to move toward something more healthy. It teaches you how to do the work necessary to make things better for yourself. You won't change the parent who put you in an emotionally incestuous situation so don't waste your energy on an effort that's guaranteed to fail. Instead focus on learning new ways to respond to the unhealthy behaviors of your parents. This will enable you to recognize and change your own unhealthy behaviors, which is especially important if you are a parent who wants to end the cycle of emotionally-damaging parent/child relationships.This book helps to identify, understand, and overcome many prior experiences that have been holding you back. It describes perfectly the relationship my husband had with his mother, his inability to pull away for so long, and the reaction of his family when he finally tried to gain a healthy distance from her. Recognizing this behavior and learning to deal with it was an emotional life saver for me. If I could give this book 10 stars, I would!
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Summary: Very interesting... I am keeping it on file for future use..
Review: Iwould DEFINITELY reccommend this book for ANYONE to read--not just those that have controlling parents--or think that they may have controlling parents. This book was especially helpful as someone who is very close to me fits this profile to a tee... This book helped me to see why my loved one is the way he is and why he copes in his life the way that he does. The book does not, however, discuss what to do if you are a spouse, significant other, etc. of a person that has been emotionally incested. I wish that it did... READ IT... It will help you understand a lot of issues much more clearly.
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Summary: The Emotional Incest Syndrome
Review: This book describes the family dynamics of my family beter than any other I have read. It has helped me understand why I perpetuated the parts of my parenting which harmed me most onto my own children although I promised myself over and over that I would not. Plan to share it with my siblings in an attempt to stop the cycle with this generation. Some of the solutions she offers sound simplistic at first read but as I read further, I found that she was not offering a pat answer to a very difficult issue.
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Summary: This is the most beneficial self-help book I've read.
Review: This book helped me more than any other self-help book I have read. Not only did it help me learn things about my past and why I have some of the behaviors I have now, it taught me things that I did and did not want for my two young boys. It was very easy to read and understand and described principles I apply to my life daily. I HIGHLY recommend this book to anyone who feels they have a parent or parents that controls their feelings, actions and life.
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Summary: Emotional and REAL!
Review: This book is an important addition to the collection of books out there that exist on sexual abuse. Even moreso are the examples of how a mother can be sexually abusive in covert ways unlike fathers who tend to manifest their abuse overtly. This book along with Ken Adam's book, Silently Seduced, are the bible of Covert Incest.
It is easy to say covert incest does not exist since it is subtle, indirect and is about what you don't see, but the victims of this all feel it and it is very real!
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Summary: Eye opening realization of how this problem affects everyone
Review: This book should be required reading for every couple contemplating marriage, having children, or seeking help for problems in their current relationships with partners, family, or friends. I read this book over and over and will again. I continue to buy this book for family members when they ask why I act the healthy way I act with my spouse, children, sibling, parents, and in-laws. I continue to recommend it for patients I treat so that their exploration of their family's dysfunctional parenting and partnering(and that's most families) will help them with their current problems with relationships. It allows everyone to obtain inciteful and practical tips on the path to recovery, uncovery, and discovery of why we behave the way we do in relationships. This book appeals extremely well to current mothers and fathers, adult children, siblings, grandparents, in-laws, and significant others. It works. If this is the only book you read in your life, this should be that book.
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Summary: Wonderful insight into the effects of being the chosen child
Review: This very readable book gives a brilliant description of what it means to be the "chosen child" within a family system. It goes on to describe the possible effects this might have on the child, the adult-child, and the other members of this complicated and toxic family set up. The book outlines how to help oneself, possibly help others within the family system, and keep from repeating the patterns into another generation. I tore through this book, and now I am buying copies for anyone in my family or extended family who is interested.
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