Adoption Is a Family Affair! What Relatives and Friends Must Know

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Summary: Specifically written to correct commonly held myths
Review: Adoption Is A Family Affair! What Relatives And Friends Must Know is specifically written to correct commonly held myths and misconceptions about adoption and adopters. One example is the wide spread myth that people often conceive after adopting because they then "relax" and things just happen naturally. The truth is that only 5% of those who adopt will spontaneously conceive after adopting -- the same percentage figure as for those infertile couples who do not adopt! Adoption Is A Family Affair! is very highly recommended reading for prospective adopters, and for their friends and family as well!

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Summary: I had to return it
Review: Although I'm sure that there are people out there who did not find it annoying to be talked down to, I did. So I have a hard time giving a book to my family when I find it condescending, myself. I don't think it will help my relationship with them to give them this book.

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Summary: Addresses Diverse Families
Review: I agree that this is a good book to give to family & friends before they have an opportunity to stick their feet in their mouths. Another plus is that the author addresses families who adopt after infertility, gay & lesbian headed families, single-parent families, and interracial families. My only criticism is that the tone can be preachy and a little patronizing. I'd still give the book with a disclaimer for any preachiness that your family and friends don't need.

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Summary: A Great Resource
Review: I enjoyed this book and it was invaluable in helping me educate extended family about adoption. The language is clear and concise, it speaks directly to the family members/friends of adoptive parents, and it addresses many of the concerns that family members or friends may have, regardless of whether they blurt it out or not.

As adoptive parents, we often spend hours poring over books, talking with others who have adopted, and researching our choice. Our extended family members often do not make the same educational journey we do, so it's helpful to have something to gently illustrate topics like adoption myths, respectful language, privacy for the child, etc.

I highly recommend it.

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Summary: Disappointed after last book.
Review: I read "Adopting after Infertility" and loved it so I thought this was going to be just as wonderful. I was disappointed and didn't even make it through. I was not open to the way the book started by stating you should ask family to financially support the adoption. I made the mistake of leaving it out and my mom picked it up and had the exact reaction I did - not good. Maybe the points were better later in the book but I would never give this to a family member because it seemed like I would be asking them for money.

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Summary: Disappointed after last book.
Review: I read "Adopting after Infertility" and loved it so I thought this was going to be just as wonderful. I was disappointed and didn't even make it through. I was not open to the way the book started by stating you should ask family to financially support the adoption. I made the mistake of leaving it out and my mom picked it up and had the exact reaction I did - not good. Maybe the points were better later in the book but I would never give this to a family member because it seemed like I would be asking them for money.

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Summary: A Great Book For Relatives of Adopting Couples
Review: I received this book just yesterday and already I've read it twice. I've even marked my favorite passages for my in-laws and relatives to pay close attention to. This is a GREAT book for anyone affected by adoption. The information was presented well and in an easy to read format. I'm sure that after reading this my relatives who have been a little reserved about adoption will come to accept our decision and even enjoy our baby when s/he arrives. This is a MUST for anyone whose is having trouble getting their friends and family to be enthusiastic about adoption.

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Summary: Great book for family and friends
Review: I think this book was written for my mom! She has had serious doubts about me adopting a baby from Vietnam. This book helped explain some of the feelings I couldn't quite put into words. I bought extra copies to share with friends, so they too, can learn about adoption. I highly recommend this book for family and friends of those considering adoption.

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Summary: Am I the only one who isn't wowed?
Review: I thought the book was trite and a play on her other books. She tries to get mileage out of an old and tired concept. If you read her other books you don't need this one. Best suggestion is to use the library, not a book worth hanging on to

Simply put there are better books out there on adoption.

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Summary: Disappointed after last book.
Review: I was very concerned about some of the reviews of this book, it was either loved or hated. I kept coming back to it and decided to give it a chance. I am so glad I did! This book was insightful not only to the recipient, but to ME! If taken in stride, it needs to be understood that we (the adopters) need to consider where/how and why the feedback is being presented. It might not be packaged nicely and we might be a little sensitive hearing it - but this book worked magic for us. It was just what I had been searching for and did the trick. Everyone is different - I suggest giving the book a try, with an open mind. The content is great, easy to read and contains many informative sections - not presented in only one format or style. If one method does not get through the other does. I loved the scenarios given at the end about the stupid comments people can make - so true! Bless all of you adopters and your family - this is just one more step in our paper pregnancy!!!! Enjoy.