Case Against Divorce

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Summary: Excellent ideas for those contemplating divorce!
Review: As a divorce mediator for Divorce Without Battle, I frequently deal with clients who are undecided about taking this big step (divorce is often equated with death as to the impact it has on the family). Without hesitation, I heartily recommend this book to both spouses. Often they see that there is still hope and, although I lose clients this way, it is tremendously rewarding to see marriages saved!

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Summary: Ammunition for your best instincts -- to save your marriage.
Review: Help! I found this book to be a terrific source of inspiration that gave me many good reasons to bow to my instinct of trying to save my marriage. My wife of 23 years took a lover, moved out of our apartment into a small house in another town nearby, but she still wears the wedding rings I gave her and says she is undecided about what she wants to do. Well, of course I am shattered and told her I wanted a divorce. Later, I found I could not just go through with it. Medved echoes everything I feel about divorce (I was divorced once before from the mother of my children, and the pain is still there). This is really a FINE book. Now, why did I wrote "Help!" above? Because I am a long-time liberal...and I find now that Diane Medved is a CONSERVATIVE who co-authored a book with [Dan] Quayle and that her husband is a CONSERVATIVE commentator....The woman still speaks the truth, and I will gladly come down on the side of CONSERVING my marriage. So if you are interested in "hanging in there," READ MEDVED'S BOOK and get some ammunition for your soul -- and your battle to save your marriage. (Warning: This is an old book and some of the examples the author gives are dated.)

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Summary: Compelling and Informative
Review: I felt especially sad for Medved's friend, Marleen, who divorced a wonderful man for rather frivolous reasons and lived to regret it.It would be interesting to have a follow-up on the lives of those mentioned in this book a decade later.

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Summary: Everyone going through divorce needs to read this book.
Review: I found this book only after my 30 year marriage dissolved. I might have been able to save my marriage if I had found it sooner. Now as a private detective, I recommend this book to all my clients and also as a helpful book for all couples to read in general. I wish the author had included her address.

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Summary: This book has helped me
Review: I have been able to really learn a great deal about how others in my life affect my relationship. I also have been able to put into words what I was feeling - my husband read it but felt it was just too conservative and didn't really support all the reasons to stay married, but it did get us talking. It made me feel I wasn't crazy to try to stay married - and that for anyone to consider a divorce without truly trying to work things out is a big cop out.

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Summary: Logic helps provide a case against divorce, eases the pain
Review: I read this book because I wanted to read a book from the perspective of "working it out". I expected to be able to argue with any reason for staying together because I had been betrayed. I'm grateful that I read it with an open mind because I found most of my reasons right there and the author provided solid evidence to challenge my justifications. I still don't know where I stand as far as getting a divorce or staying married, but it stopped me in my tracks. I was so hurt that I wanted to cut my husband of my life, just to be rid of the pain. But, even though the divorce papers may be signed, there is still a deep loss. It's a popular misconception that once the divorce is signed, there will be relief. Even though my husband betrayed me, I saw that I was not 100% the victim and thousands of people have experienced what I have and that there is hope. This is a great book to read if when you think that you're sure you want a divorce. You may change your mind. Even if you don't, this book does give a case against divorce.

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Summary: Logic helps provide a case against divorce, eases the pain
Review: I read this book because I wanted to read a book from the perspective of "working it out". I expected to be able to argue with any reason for staying together because I had been betrayed. I'm grateful that I read it with an open mind because I found most of my reasons right there and the author provided solid evidence to challenge my justifications. I still don't know where I stand as far as getting a divorce or staying married, but it stopped me in my tracks. I was so hurt that I wanted to cut my husband of my life, just to be rid of the pain. But, even though the divorce papers may be signed, there is still a deep loss. It's a popular misconception that once the divorce is signed, there will be relief. Even though my husband betrayed me, I saw that I was not 100% the victim and thousands of people have experienced what I have and that there is hope. This is a great book to read if when you think that you're sure you want a divorce. You may change your mind. Even if you don't, this book does give a case against divorce.

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Summary: In Addition to an Earlier Statement...
Review: I'd like to add to my earlier review and place my sympathy over the breakup of the Gaines marriage where it really ought to lie: with Marleen's loyal and devoted husband, Bob. I've often thought of what Rhett said to Scarlett in "Gone With the Wind" when I think of situations like theirs:" I feel sorry for you because you're throwing away happiness with both hands for something that will never make you happy." Indeed, I'm glad for the sake of those who really needed to be out of irreparably bad marriages that the divorce laws have changed. But I notice that especially during the self-centered era of the 1980s when the nation seemed to be more inclined to follow the example set by celebrities, especially since putting a divorced Hollywood actor in the White House, situations like the Gaineses' became more common, and more and more people shrug them off instead of considering long-term ramifications. An update on the lives of those mentioned in this book would still be an interesting coda.

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Summary: A must read book!
Review: If you are considering divorce or are going through a divorce, this is a must read book! This book does a wonderful job describing the Lie and Lures of divorce and why your marriage is worth saving. After having an unwanted divorce served upon me I feel much better knowing it's easier to try and work things out instead of just throwing in the towel. Anyone who wants a divorce should read this, I wish my husband would have!

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Summary: Tremendously helpful. My marriage is 100% better.
Review: My 20-year marriage seemed hopeless. I had gotten a list of divorce lawyers. Then I read this book. My husband and I decided that maybe there was hope. Our feelings didn't change right away, but by changing our attitude about marriage and divorce, we found the strength to try harder to make it work. The book was the main stimulus to help us do this. We are so glad it helped, and so are our children.