Parent In Control : Restore Order in Your Home and Create a Loving Relationship with Your Adolescent

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Summary: From Publisher's Weekly - Publishers Weekly
Review: Bodenhamer, a former probation officer who is director of the Back in Control Center in Portland, Ore., believes we are confronting ``the worst behaved generation of children in American history.'' For parents who need to retake charge of their children, he suggests a three-point focus based on ``rule-based discipline, supervision and emotional attachment.'' Offering sound, practical advice on dealing with provocative and manipulative verbal challenges raised by teenagers and early adolescents, he presents a convincing case for giving highly detailed ``job descriptions'' to teens (if McDonald's has a 600-page operations manual for its employees, parents shouldn't shy from explaining precisely how to take out the garbage). Bodenhamer directly faces such incendiary issues as sex, substance abuse and peer pressure (including that from gangs). Frequently, however, he sounds a reactionary note, as when he rails against the American Civil Liberties Union as the nation's ``most persistent enemy of adult authority'' and cites ``an inherited link between impulsive and immature unwed teenager parents and the impulsive and immature children to whom they give birth.'' While there is valuable help here, much of it sounds like the stuff of talk radio. (Oct.)

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Summary: From a Mother's Heart Who Knows!
Review: EXCELLENT! Until my husband & I were given this wonderful book, along with his other book, "BACK IN CONTROL," we had exhausted countless hours in counseling, along with parenting book after book over the years, that didn't help, until Gregory Bodenhamers. I COULDN'T PUT IT DOWN! I have given so MANY copies to other struggling parents of teens, like our son, along with "preaching" his techniques & words of wisdom on a daily basis with other parents I have spoken too. I call them, My Parent Bibles! Personally meeting Mr. Bodenhamer in his "Back In Control" workshops, he has a delightful, unique, & very funny way of bringing his words/skills to other parents, professionals, or anyone who works with troubled/struggling teens. His dedication shows thru & his heart is in the right place! I would HIGHLY RECOMMEND his books! They have given us the first sense of HOPE we had desperately needed. My Son has had control of our house for years, but UNTIL I READ THIS BOOK, I NEVER realized, even being a Nurse, HOW CRUCIAL it was to have a set "STRUCTURE," "CLEARLY DEFINED Rules," "CONSISTENT FOLLOW-THRU," & understanding what "MONITORING at the LEVEL OF NEED," means! Nursing school never taught me anything like these insightful books, when it comes to dealing with difficult kids! HOORAY! For Gregory, saving the day, to help us parents find a BETTER way!

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Summary: From a Mother's Heart Who Knows!
Review: EXCELLENT! Until my husband & I were given this wonderful book, along with his other book, "BACK IN CONTROL," we had exhausted countless hours in counseling, along with parenting book after book over the years, that didn't help, until Gregory Bodenhamers. I COULDN'T PUT IT DOWN! I have given so MANY copies to other struggling parents of teens, like our son, along with "preaching" his techniques & words of wisdom on a daily basis with other parents I have spoken too. I call them, My Parent Bibles! Personally meeting Mr. Bodenhamer in his "Back In Control" workshops, he has a delightful, unique, & very funny way of bringing his words/skills to other parents, professionals, or anyone who works with troubled/struggling teens. His dedication shows thru & his heart is in the right place! I would HIGHLY RECOMMEND his books! They have given us the first sense of HOPE we had desperately needed. My Son has had control of our house for years, but UNTIL I READ THIS BOOK, I NEVER realized, even being a Nurse, HOW CRUCIAL it was to have a set "STRUCTURE," "CLEARLY DEFINED Rules," "CONSISTENT FOLLOW-THRU," & understanding what "MONITORING at the LEVEL OF NEED," means! Nursing school never taught me anything like these insightful books, when it comes to dealing with difficult kids! HOORAY! For Gregory, saving the day, to help us parents find a BETTER way!

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Summary: From a Mother's Heart Who Knows!
Review: EXCELLENT! Until my husband & I were given this wonderful book, along with his other book, "BACK IN CONTROL," we had exhausted countless hours in counseling, along with parenting book after book over the years, that didn't help, until Gregory Bodenhamers. I COULDN'T PUT IT DOWN! I have given so MANY copies to other struggling parents of teens, like our son, along with "preaching" his techniques & words of wisdom on a daily basis with other parents I have spoken too. I call them, My Parent Bibles! Personally meeting Mr. Bodenhamer in his "Back In Control" workshops, he has a delightful, unique, & very funny way of bringing his words/skills to other parents, professionals, or anyone who works with troubled/struggling teens. His dedication shows thru & his heart is in the right place! I would HIGHLY RECOMMEND his books! They have given us the first sense of HOPE we had desperately needed. My Son has had control of our house for years, but UNTIL I READ THIS BOOK, I NEVER realized, even being a Nurse, HOW CRUCIAL it was to have a set "STRUCTURE," "CLEARLY DEFINED Rules," "CONSISTENT FOLLOW-THRU," & understanding what "MONITORING at the LEVEL OF NEED," means! Nursing school never taught me anything like these insightful books, when it comes to dealing with difficult kids! HOORAY! For Gregory, saving the day, to help us parents find a BETTER way!

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Summary: a girls point of view
Review: i am 14 and my brother, 22. i don't have any problems with either of my parents, but my brother leaves the house at night with out telling my parents where he's going, or sometimes he doesn't tell them how work went or if he has friends there or if he likes it. it's barely a relationship. he doesn't have any meals with us and he always leaves the house, at least he keeps his cell phone with him, and on. i beleive that leading this path isn't the way to go with parents. i've gone to websites on tough love and have read parent's bill of rights. i never knew how bad this was. now i understand and i have made a promise to myself not to do this to myself, or my parents. i know i can help my brother, but i know i don't like it when he does it, so i don't feel i can help him. if you'd like, you can email me at [e-mail]

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Summary: Excellent book for parents
Review: I am a psychologist that teaches parent training classes and I also work with families that have "out of control" chldren. This book teaches an effective method of parenting. It is very helpful for parents that have used punishment, taking away privleges, and rewards and have found these methods not to work.

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Summary: Excellent book for parents
Review: I am a psychologist that teaches parent training classes and I also work with families that have "out of control" chldren. This book teaches an effective method of parenting. It is very helpful for parents that have used punishment, taking away privleges, and rewards and have found these methods not to work.

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Summary: What a Great Book!
Review: I have read over a dozen parenting books and this is by far the best. In fact, I was so engrossed in this book that I read it straight through in one sitting. The book is very straight forward, the message and method is easy to follow and, best of all, it works and is applicable to boys and girls. When I finished reading the book I sat down and talked with my teens about the main concepts of the Back in Control program. They expressed relief that "I" (as the parent) was back in control. Again, great book!

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Summary: finally, a book that makes real sense
Review: Living in colorado, the columbine incidient impacted us greatly. This book offers real, common sense help in dealing with all teens. I have put its principles in action with my teen, who is not beligerent, just typical, and they worked wonderfully. I had trouble with my older teen girls, the therapist thought they need more freedom, stating that I was too restrictive. That was lethal,it gave them more license to mishave. Here is an approach that finally makes real sense and gives the parent permission to be the adult.

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Summary: From Publisher's Weekly - Publishers Weekly
Review: Practical no-nonsense guide to help parents with problems such as truancy, running away, violence, problems with school performance and behaviors. I am a psychologist that runs a parent program for the juvenile court. I have found this the most useful book and guidelines available. It does take work on the parent's part. The parent must stick with it and be consistent. The results are worth it!