Getting Free: You Can End Abuse and Take Back Your Life

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Summary: This book will be helpful to women in abusive relationships.
Review: I'm basing my belief on the interviews and synopsis. What I found very interesting is the story of the woman who hid her copy from her husband while she read it. But men who are abusers need the help even more than the women who are abused. Martin Seligman, in What We Can Change and What We Can't, tells us that the theory that blowing off steam will lessen anger and lead to cooling off is not the way it works; he has a lot of good advice for angry men. Richard O'Connor, in Undoing Depression and on his website, tells us that men who abuse their wives are acting out an underlying depression -- how self-defeating the act of hurting the person who loves you the most. Maybe books like these can be left out so information on marriage, family, and relationships will be read by those who really need it.

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Summary: One of the best and most practical books available
Review: She has written one of the most useful guides I have found in my years of social work practice. Written in an easy to read style, the author covers not only topics essential for getting out of a violent situation but essential information for the future as well, such as dealing with lonliness and choosing a new partner who is non violent. Sections on teen/dating abuse and lesbian battering are also helpful

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Summary: It saved my life. Thats not an overstatement.
Review: The line that haunted me for years is: If there is 1% chance you will be killed, that is too great of a chance. I only wish that Nicole Simpson had read/or acted on the advice in this book. (My opinion, obviously). The book helped me spot abusers on the first date, rather than 2 dangerous months later.... And best of all it gives strategys for departure. Another memorable line: "Its easier for men to be cured of leprosy and than abusing women, EVEN WHEN THEY WANT TO BE CURED!" I have recommended this to dozens of friends and clients. If you don't think you need it, read the first chapter standing in a book store. As I discovered, when doing so "I'm living with a Monster!" (Denial reigns supreme until one's consciousness is raised. Remember, no matter how badly you were/are beaten: YOU DIDN'T DESERVE IT. ITS NOT YOUR FAULT! Call a shelter and get out of there. Now!

Rating:
Summary: It saved my life. Thats not an overstatement.
Review: The line that haunted me for years is: If there is 1% chance you will be killed, that is too great of a chance. I only wish that Nicole Simpson had read/or acted on the advice in this book. (My opinion, obviously). The book helped me spot abusers on the first date, rather than 2 dangerous months later.... And best of all it gives strategys for departure. Another memorable line: "Its easier for men to be cured of leprosy and than abusing women, EVEN WHEN THEY WANT TO BE CURED!" I have recommended this to dozens of friends and clients. If you don't think you need it, read the first chapter standing in a book store. As I discovered, when doing so "I'm living with a Monster!" (Denial reigns supreme until one's consciousness is raised. Remember, no matter how badly you were/are beaten: YOU DIDN'T DESERVE IT. ITS NOT YOUR FAULT! Call a shelter and get out of there. Now!